Advice needed

[LingeringLove]

Okay so, I'm a christian, and I believe in waiting until marriage, but I was thinking about this: if I say masturbate my boyfriend or he masturbates me( Not until I'm WAAY older) that's not considered sex right? And also my mom and dad didn't wait ( they had my sister out of that) and now my older sister is trying to go at it win her boyfriend and I don't want her to and I told her not all the way and ai think shes lying to me Because she said she wouldn't when I confronted her.But she seemed dodgy about it :/ any advice?


ALSO sorry if any of this is not aloud on. Her, I'm not entirely sure ;)

[Ender]

Just because you dont believe in waiting until marriage doesnt mean your sister doesnt. And frankly, as long as shes at the age of consent, theres not much you can do. I would just encourage her, that if she really feels she is ready, and that it is the right person, to practice safe sex.

I define sex as actual intercourse. Meaning penetration.

[Errr]

well, you wouldnt be 'pure' anymore if you think about it...i mean, if you look at it like this. Would you rather date someone who is a complete virgin, or a virgin who has gotten handjobs from a few girls? Me? i would want a pure pure girl. Because there is nothing saying you guys will be toghether forever. =/

[Ender]

well, you wouldnt be 'pure' anymore if you think about it...i mean, if you look at it like this. Would you rather date someone who is a complete virgin, or a virgin who has gotten handjobs from a few girls? Me? i would want a pure pure girl. Because there is nothing saying you guys will be toghether forever. =/

Very very very few teenage relationships last. Period.

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[Daniel_]

I love how this is the girls puberty thread, but guys reply more than the girls do...

Annyywayy, yeah. If you feel like waiting until marriage, go for it. But if your sister doesn't want to, it's her own decision. You can't do much about it.

And as for the masturbating thing, noo, you'd still be a virgin as long as he doesn't penetrate you.

[Kartellmyst]

This is a contradictory subject really. Personally..I am also a Christian. I've given handjobs, blowjobs but have never experienced vaginal intercourse. Of course nobody that would react negatively to knowing this information about me knows but I really don't see it as a bad thing to do. It's all up to you and Your sister is going to make her own choices..you really can't decide what's good and bad for her...so for now relax and just pray that she makes the right choice...take care! =)

[bob77]

I think that its you sister's decision but you can give her advice. If she doesn't choose to take it, then you will have to live with that. And technically it is sex but no one actually considers it sex. Just do what you feel comftorable doing.

[brennaluvv]

The definition of sex is intercourse, so if you masturbated your boyfriend or he masturbated you, gave each other oral sex, none of that is intercourse, so you wouldn't be losing your virginity.
Second off, just because you think waiting until marriage to have sex doesn't mean that your sister should believe that as well, but if you really want to make a point that you think her decision is wrong, tell her that she will probably regret it when/if they break up. Sex also makes relationships closer, but sex can also rip a relationship apart if the people aren't ready for it.
Hope this helps, good luck.

[patrick99]

im a christian,probly not bad

[matt136]

how old are you?

[Fiction]

I think you should let your sister do as she pleases within her sex life. I personally don't think that sex before marriage is wrong, and techinically being masturbated by your bf is not loosing your virginity or having sex although you would still not be totally "pure" as it is.

[beccaweiser]

I agree that masturbation isn't the same as intercourse...not to me, but you and your sister might see it differently (for one thing, I'm not Christian).

Still, I think your sister should decide for herself how far is far enough, or too far, to go, much as you should for yourself. I mean, would you want her input if roles were reversed? That should help guide you in how to approach her, if at all.

[wheels777]

well in regards to you giving sexual activities it is more of a your beliefs then a religious thing. Like there are many christians that are having sex before marrage but then there are others that are not doing anything sex related. If your confortable with doing sexual activities then thats all that matters, not what the fine print says in the bible.
and regarding your sister she has her own beliefs and you should respect that instead of trying to make your beliefs hers. Like i am not religious at all but i respect what you want to do but the decision and what you believe is completely up to you. hope that helps

[Char]

i think you need to know your future husband in EVERY way, i dont think there's something wrong with that!