please help me

[DanielBoy]

I had come out to this guy I had liked for years, and he came out to me. We started "dating", I say it with quotes because some days he said we were while other days he didn't know. I know why he is reluctant, but the times he doesn't know what we are, he seems to want nothing to do with me. I have too many emotions invested in him, and it would be one thing if he tells me we need to be friends, but he seems to want NOTHING to do with me. I have never cut or anything like that before, but I feel like if this don't work I might kill myself. I have never been truly happy, but the days I'm with him, I feel happy, and I don't think of my anxiety about life. The days like today, I feel worse than I have before in my life. I truly feel like taking a bottle of sleeping pills and just letting them take me away. Even if there is nothing after, I really would rather be in eternal darkness than be alone with this pain. Not that anybody would care if I were gone anyways.

[Scarface]

First of all, taking your own life wouldn't solve a thing. t would only cause more turmoil than anyone including you would need. You don't need to give in and essentially give up because his nerves aren't quite made up about the situation. With some situations the partner especially in a same sex relationship (I'm gay) they can be unsure or they could be scared about the relationship itself. They're scared for a number of reasons: People finding out and other people not being accepting. A relationship can be very complicated, there is always going to be ups and downs. You have to have a talk with him and see where his minds at. See what he thinks of the situation that you two are in. That way you don't make full assumptions as he may be scared.

I remember going into my first relationship (ended up being together for 3 years) I was very scared because I was in a stage of "I'm just not too sure about this" or if you want to put it reluctant. Of course I had very strong feelings for him, of course I wanted to be with him, but it took some reassurance for me to feel comfortable. Just don't over think this, just give it a little time, just have a heart to heart talk to him about this.

I really hope things work out for you man, if you ever need someone to talk to I'm always here. Hang in there :hug3:

[DanielBoy]

First of all, taking your own life wouldn't solve a thing. t would only cause more turmoil than anyone including you would need. You don't need to give in and essentially give up because his nerves aren't quite made up about the situation. With some situations the partner especially in a same sex relationship (I'm gay) they can be unsure or they could be scared about the relationship itself. They're scared for a number of reasons: People finding out and other people not being accepting. A relationship can be very complicated, there is always going to be ups and downs. You have to have a talk with him and see where his minds at. See what he thinks of the situation that you two are in. That way you don't make full assumptions as he may be scared.

I remember going into my first relationship (ended up being together for 3 years) I was very scared because I was in a stage of "I'm just not too sure about this" or if you want to put it reluctant. Of course I had very strong feelings for him, of course I wanted to be with him, but it took some reassurance for me to feel comfortable. Just don't over think this, just give it a little time, just have a heart to heart talk to him about this.

I really hope things work out for you man, if you ever need someone to talk to I'm always here. Hang in there :hug3:

I know he is unsure, he had told me that about a month ago. I'm okay with that, but it is like one day he tells me he wants the relationship and the next he doesn't. The days he doesn't I might as well not even exist, it is like he wants nothing to do with me. I have REALLY strong feelings for him, I just don't know if he feels the same. Every time I try to talk to him about it, he gets some excuse about having to leave, and then ignores me for like 2 days. I don't know what it means. I believe in an open relationship, and I don't believe in hiding your feelings, but he just won't talk to me. As far as everything gos, I feel like this days he isn't talking to me, but the days he is, I might as well be on cloud 9, I mean someone could take a crowbar to my car and it wouldn't faze me on those days. What's killing me is days like this where he seems uninterested and doesn't seem to even want to talk to me. We are both bi, and what we are going through is pretty similar, but he just won't take the leap. I feel like if he gave us a chance, a real chance, both of us would be happy together. I don't know how much longer I can deal with all of it. :(

[Scarface]

Of course you're not going to be alone for the rest of your life. To be completely honest with you; teenage relationships are SO tough. As you feel that you love the person especially when finding out your sexuality and going through everything that goes along with that( if you catch my drift) . Trust me you're not going to be alone for your entire life. There are going to be so many more experiences with bf's and or gf's (if you go that way) and who knows if you find a connection with another person that will share their feeling with you. That will be consistent with you on a daily basis. That won't be an (OMG I LOVE YOU) then next day something like (Kthxbai). Whether or not this relationship lasts, just know that it's not going to be the end for you. You have so much more time ahead of you for any relationship that you want. i know you're going to find a guy that will and/or girl. Whether this guys sticks around with you or not. I know things are going to get better Daniel, I know they are.