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Froath
August 26th, 2010, 05:19 AM
Okay Hi.. I usually don't post here but I have this problem and its really bugging me...
So me, and my other two friends are really close, I would say that we are like best friends. Difference is Im a guy and they are girls, but we have been quite close for probably like 3 years. Anyway, at school them two would do everything together, go to class, go to the toliet. It makes me feel left out, then during class I would sit by myself saving them a spot, then they would just sit with the another guy that they arent as close to.
Thing is we all get along with each other really well, but I feel like they are avoiding me. I know its not on purpose but they wont tell me if they wont be there at school the next day or whatever. I don't want to "make new friends" just because they are "ignoring me", but on the other hand it makes me feel like that I am following them and I don't want to be annoying. I do have other friends but I feel most comfortable around them two. I don't know what I should do...
Any ideas?

Scarface
August 26th, 2010, 07:26 AM
Well even though it may seem like they're avoiding you, they may just want to hang around other people. Sometimes when you hang around the same people all the time you start to feel indifferent if that makes sense. So when they go to hang around other people so should you. Even though you're most comfortable with them, hanging out with others is good too, because then you can be closer with guy friends who you might relate with. Just be a little bit more open minded with people, no I'm not going to just say "make new friends", because I know how it feels to be in close with certain friends, but always remember that those two girls aren't the only friends you have :) If you need someone to talk to I'm always here. VM me anytime.

ackmedsgirl666
August 26th, 2010, 10:08 AM
i woulds pull them aside tell them whats up and how you really feel
if they don't care just go off on your own and hang with other friends you have
im sure that they both have other social lives aside from being with you so maybe try giving them some space

Froath
September 1st, 2010, 05:22 AM
Thanks so much for your responses SheDevil1993 and Goose :P. If I want to speak to them, and tell them how I feel, how should I go about it? Face to face? Online? Over the phone? And what should I say as well? This is doing my head in, because I keep thinking they will take it the wrong way, maybe Im just too sensitive, I keep getting these weird thoughts.

Resistance
September 1st, 2010, 05:36 AM
if i were you, i would talk to them face to face and tell them what i think. they are your friends so they will understand you and you will solve this problem on the easy way :) hope you solve your problem soon :)

Froath
September 1st, 2010, 05:50 AM
Thanks Sofia, I hope it goes well.. you know when you get that feeling that you might be judged by them, or you're doing something wrong..

Resistance
September 1st, 2010, 05:57 AM
yes i do know that feeling but if they really like you they will understand you, and you aren't doing nothing wrong, you just want to solve your problem with them

Giles
September 2nd, 2010, 02:43 AM
Personally I don't think that talking to them about it will help. It might (not saying you are) make you seem like a whining little kid.

I would do what Ronnie suggested, try to mingle with other people when they do. So that you're not left on your own, at least then. When they're off school or in another class, you'll have some people to talk to.