Abstinence

[Xaylon95]

Answer the following Question in your opinion!!
1. Will you remain abstinent until marriage? Why or why not

[Alex_.-]

no.

i think u should only have sex with someone you love, but i am definitely going to have sex with that person i love before we get married.

the whole "no sex before marriage" thing is not practical, each person and situation is different, each having their own "right" time for sex, whether that be before or after marriage.

aaaand.....first time sex is kinda awkward that wud suck to do it for the first time ever on ur wedding night (imo) :p

[Reverie]

I am not a virgin, so the answer is (was) obviously, "no."

The only difference in two people between the day before their wedding and the day after is just a different ring and a piece of paper filed away with the state department.

Why in the hell should that validate their sexual activity?

What makes two people ready for sex is not marriage, it's a combination of love, trust, maturity, and responsibility.

[trevor208002]

I'll wait till marriage because #1 in my faith it says to do so, and i believe that if you've kept yourself till marriage it makes that first time with your wife more special emotionally and physically. Women see sex as a product of love where as men see it as a way of showing love. So saving yourself to a women would be you showing her love therefore she will be more "turned on" if you will for you to "love her" the way you want to.

[DanielBoy]

Nope. Well first off I just had sex last Sunday, so it is kind of late. Second, I'm bisexual, and most guys don't plan on getting married, LOL. Third, there is no point, abstinence is just a religious thing, and I'm not very religious. :P

[Spoookster]

I'll wait till marriage because #1 in my faith it says to do so, and i believe that if you've kept yourself till marriage it makes that first time with your wife more special emotionally and physically. Women see sex as a product of love where as men see it as a way of showing love. So saving yourself to a women would be you showing her love therefore she will be more "turned on" if you will for you to "love her" the way you want to.

Agree :) +
1 am a Christian
2 I don't want any VD...

[Jamarama]

I'll wait till marriage because #1 in my faith it says to do so, and i believe that if you've kept yourself till marriage it makes that first time with your wife more special emotionally and physically. Women see sex as a product of love where as men see it as a way of showing love. So saving yourself to a women would be you showing her love therefore she will be more "turned on" if you will for you to "love her" the way you want to.

To be fair, a teenage boy can't vouch for the feelings of women in general, let alone individual women :)

I'm not a virgin, so that just about sums up my answer quite well :yeah:

[Judas]

i dont think so. im still a virgin but i dont want to restrain myself with that.

[adaman1]

I am not a virgin, so the answer is (was) obviously, "no."

The only difference in two people between the day before their wedding and the day after is just a different ring and a piece of paper filed away with the state department.

Why in the hell should that validate their sexual activity?

What makes two people ready for sex is not marriage, it's a combination of love, trust, maturity, and responsibility.

That is true in a way, but think about the fact that most teens having sex don't have that maturity, love, or responsibility, I know I sure as hell didnt . Its different to say that when you're talking about the women you're going to marry or are engaged to. But, it doesn't work with any random, temporary high school girlfriend. I wish I would've waited, but I didn't. Be careful who you give your heart to, most times when teens have sex in high school, it won't mean anything. Possibly sex is ok before marriage (I don't think so), but make sure that you guys don't use that as an excuse to have sex with girlfriends you proclaim to love, and then dump a month later. Sex is a decision that needs to be made with maturity and responsibility and most importantly, true love. Its not a decision to be made when all the blood from your brain is in your penis, and impairing your judgement. Just some food for thought...

[Daniel_]

I'm only 15 and still a virgin, but no, I don't plan on waiting until i'm married.

I am however a christian, but I believe that times have changed so much, that you could just find a person you feel really comfortable with, you trust them, you truly feel you love them, then it's alright.

[atlf2856]

kinda late for dat, but i do believe in dat in a way but its hard to i mean really if u get the chance ur hormones just take over so ya

[Billy15]

I will stay abstinent until I fall in love with someone but I am gay, so marriage is unlikely.

[Reverie]

That is true in a way, but think about the fact that most teens having sex don't have that maturity, love, or responsibility, I know I sure as hell didnt . Its different to say that when you're talking about the women you're going to marry or are engaged to. But, it doesn't work with any random, temporary high school girlfriend. I wish I would've waited, but I didn't. Be careful who you give your heart to, most times when teens have sex in high school, it won't mean anything. Possibly sex is ok before marriage (I don't think so), but make sure that you guys don't use that as an excuse to have sex with girlfriends you proclaim to love, and then dump a month later. Sex is a decision that needs to be made with maturity and responsibility and most importantly, true love. Its not a decision to be made when all the blood from your brain is in your penis, and impairing your judgement. Just some food for thought...

I think plenty of teens are mature enough, love their partner enough, and are responsible enough (using protection, birth control, etc.) to have sex. All relationships are temporary, remember that.

[adaman1]

I think plenty of teens are mature enough, love their partner enough, and are responsible enough (using protection, birth control, etc.) to have sex. All relationships are temporary, remember that.

Yes, all relationships are temporary, but the vows before marriage include a line that says, "til death do us part"... that Is love, which is bound by the sexual relationship... and I must disagree and say again that most teens are not mature enough to to understand sex, and the emotional bond that it is... Every time you sleep with someone, you give another piece of your heart away, and then what will be left when those supposedly mature teens have nothing to give their wives that is special... It's already been had by however many girls, and is no longer a special gift for her (as it should be (referring to his body and his sex))...

[keas96]

i dont care...if it happens before marriage it happens.

[LittleMonsterMike]

I No longer want to have sex i used to fantasize about having sex all the time then when i did i realized that it's not all the magic that i thought it was and it was actually really dull and actually really uncomfortable

[NeverLetGo]

Yes, I will stay abstinent until marriage. Call me old fashioned. I dunno, I just think you shouldn't give yourself away to just anyone - I wanna be sure I don't waste my virginity on someone stupid. Like I said, call me old fashioned...

[ivanori]

Yes, I will stay abstinent until marriage. Call me old fashioned. I dunno, I just think you shouldn't give yourself away to just anyone - I wanna be sure I don't waste my virginity on someone stupid. Like I said, call me old fashioned...

I agree. Perhaps it isn't natural for humans to wait, but it shows great maturity, strength, and care for the future partner to wait for them. It's sex anyway, you won't die if you wait. And during the teenage years it's better to wait because our hormones are driving us crazy and we might end up doing things we regret later in life.

[Husker]

I don't plan on waiting until then, but I do plan on waiting till I find the right person. Not just a regular girlfriend.

[guacamole24]

No, I do not plan on abstaining until marriage. First of all, I am very likely gay, so marriage is not likely at this point. But who knows, maybe that'll finally change someday.
Second of all, I'm not really into the whole marriage idea. I've never even been in a relationship, so... Third of all, sex is something that is very exciting. And if I am ready at the point where it finally comes to me, I don't think I'm going to pass it up.
All that being said, I completely respect the abstinence stand-point... but I don't think I'm going to follow it.

[Giles]

I'm not going to get involved in that rather heated discussion above me, mainly because I can't be arsed to read all the posts...

No, personally I won't be waiting until marriage. For one guys can't get 'married' so I'd never have sex. Plus I want to have sex for what sex is, not what it can mean or do to a relationship.

[shartalot17]

im not a virgin anymore but when i did it in 8th grade it was with someone that i really cared about and still do so it was perfect.

[Errr]

sure..i could say yes. but there is at least a 90% that would be a lie. Because even though im 15 now and am shy and i dont want sex right now. When im 16 or 17 and my body is like a mans and not a teenager/boys. Yes, i will want passion and love AND sex in a partnership, be it with girl or guy. So, you know, no for me i guess.

[Kohta]

No
1. because not everyone gets married
2. I do not believe that people should get married