I'm Not a Lesbian, BUT

[seven]

There are so many people that are totally okay with any type of sexual preference, but there are those other people that will turn around and snicker when you're not looking.

I'm a girl, I'm not a lesbian. I'm straight and I know it. I've never been sexually attractive to any girl. I can point out attractive women, but I'm not interested in them. But everyone seems to think that because I've never had a boyfriend, that I'm a lesbian -.- They wouldn't be surprised if I came out and said it. I've never really had any guy-friends, either, so I guess that just supports everyone's theory. And by everyone I mean my friends and other random people. And if my friends think that way, the people who hang around me and know me best, who's to know what everyone else thinks?

Now, whenever I encounter a situation about being a lesbian, whether it be humourous or serious, I wonder if my denying that I'm a lesbian is just making my friends think that I'm 'in denial'. And if I go along with a joke, they might think that I'm getting some relief by letting out the 'truth' through a joke. I don't want to ignore them when these topics come up 'cause I don't want to look like a homophobic. I'm fine with everyone else being gay or not, but not me. I don't think there's any way to really prove that I'm not a lesbian because any response to that accusation can be turned around.

And I don't want my friends giggling behind my back wondering when I'll realize that I'm a lesbian, laughing because they think they know better than I do about my sexuality.

And then there's self-doubt. Being a teen and hormonal, no one really knows. I could be a lesbian. But, whenever I picture some naked, hot woman, I only envy them because I don't look as beautiful. I want to be them, not do them. So, I know my sexuality, but my friends don't seem to agree...

And being a single girl I do want a boyfriend, but I don't want to rush in to things in case they think I'm trying to prove something.

And then maybe I just shouldn't care about what they think as long as I know who I am and what I like.

:/ I don't know. I just needed to write it out, kind of like a rant. If anyone has any advice, though, it would be very welcome :)

[ackmedsgirl666]

those are not true friends if they keep bugging u about the same thing and make assumptions about you. u have stated u are not a lesbian and thats fine. i think u really need to sit your friends down and have a veryy longgggggggg conversation and tell then that u don't appreciate them talking about u or making up things about u that are not true behind ur back or around you. maybe u can give it a try and lett me know how it goes. feel free to pm me if u want to talk ok

[Dunce]

My friends used to do that too... something about me screams lesbian apparently becasue if anyone ever talks about me behined my back its always about me being a lesbian. I'm pretty feminine though... so it confuses me :/ maybe because I never wanted to tell them about my crushes because I knew they would tell them... they probably thought that was an excuse!
But I'm not friends with those people anymore, not only because they kept on about it but I just didnt feel comfortable around them. I'm not saying this is what you should do, because I dont know your friends, but what theyre doing isnt fair... bugging you, not believing you when you say you're straight, persisting. If your friends thought you were gay they should just accept that its your businness and leave it to you.

Just tell them that you know there's nothing wrong with being a lesbian, but you're just not one. And assure them that you're telling the truth, if they still dont believe you then I'm not sure there's anything you can do... so its not really worth stressing over. I know people who think I'm a lebian but I realised that I dont care. If you ignore it theyll get over it and talk about something else.

[tomboysk8r1314]

My friends dont call me a lesbian because they know me well enough to know that im not a lesiban...but other people in my school have called me lesbian because of who i am. Cuz in this judgemental and labled world if you act like a guy and you're a girl most of the time people will think you are a lesbian. other times thats not the case but you still get labled.. I agree with SheDevil in sitting down with your friends and talking to them.

But above all you know who you are, and that is an important key factor..

Best of luck :D

[seven]

Thanks for the advice. Not sure if I can go through with a serious chat with some of my friends, 'cause they aren't that close to me.
Like clorathehobbit, I'm feminine. Not tomboy-ish, really. But I never really spoke of my crushes... and like I said, I've never had many guy friends. I'm always with me girlies.
Ah, well. I'll deal. Thanks again :)

[Love.Hate]

My friends used to do that too... something about me screams lesbian apparently becasue if anyone ever talks about me behined my back its always about me being a lesbian. I'm pretty feminine though... so it confuses me :/ maybe because I never wanted to tell them about my crushes because I knew they would tell them... they probably thought that was an excuse!
But I'm not friends with those people anymore, not only because they kept on about it but I just didnt feel comfortable around them. I'm not saying this is what you should do, because I dont know your friends, but what theyre doing isnt fair... bugging you, not believing you when you say you're straight, persisting. If your friends thought you were gay they should just accept that its your businness and leave it to you.

Just tell them that you know there's nothing wrong with being a lesbian, but you're just not one. And assure them that you're telling the truth, if they still dont believe you then I'm not sure there's anything you can do... so its not really worth stressing over. I know people who think I'm a lebian but I realised that I dont care. If you ignore it theyll get over it and talk about something else.


I had the same experience as you. Im not friends with them either. I totally agree with what you say.

I think people call other people lesbians because they are not sure about there sexuality themselves, so they need something to distract people from thinking there gay to thinking you are (if that makes sense).
Good luck, stand up for yourself and dont take any of there accusations, and remember that it is only what you think that actually matters. x

[Paladino]

Just ignore them, or tell your friends that your not a lesbian, and if they wont believe you then they are not very good friends.