Hello ~! Umm..I need some help

[alexngn]

Well, firstly, hello everybody and nice to meet you all ! I'm new here and this is my first post. So all help would be appreciated :-)
Here it is: Since puberty, I've always defined myself as gay. I mean, I feel sexually attracted to men. However I'm still in the closet and too shy to experience anything more than, well, defining myself like that. But there's this girl. She's been a friend of mine for quite a long time. Since both of us are currently studying abroad, we don't see each other but always keep in touch via email. She's a really good friend I'd say. I like her for many reasons. Then recently we got a chance to meet. And it was really weird. My heart was beating fast, I blushed and, umm, I was pretty messed up basically. (Well she seemed to enjoy that :-( Couldn't help, she looked obviously prettier than the last time I saw her.). I mean I've never felt like that towards any of my female friends, including her until that time. Now I can't stop thinking about her. I'm kinda confused.
So what would you say ? Am I helpless or not ? Is it love or just silly feelings that will pass by any moment ?

[nick]

Sexuality isnt always clear cut. Sure most people may find its clear cut for them, but not everyone. I'm pretty much like you by the sound of it, sure of being gay, but then there's this one girl. Anyway, if you feel as if you are falling in love with her why fight it. Live life, enjoy the good things that come along, and dont worry too much about the labels.

[chazzrox2]

First: Welcome.
And second I agree with Nick, there is no point obsessing and panicking over the fact that you have feelingss towards her, just let it flow and see what happens.
In the end the only one that knows what sexuality you are is simple....it's you!
So don't panic i'm sure you will figure everything out one day

[Trickster]

Sexuality is something no one has completly figured out. Usually (and this really sucks) but alot of gay guys find the perfect person but theyre a girl and alot of str8 guys find the perfect person but their a guy. When people begin a relationship its based on friendship and you two have grown close so of course you may seem to think your falling for her. Sexuality is something...we cant figure out, so just go with the flow. Life is here so experience it

[alexngn]

Thanks for those great advices you guys :yes: I'll give it a try and see where it goes !