Your View On E-Girlfriends

[the8bitter]

I just wanted to know what you all think about E-Love/E-Girlfriends?

As for me, if somebody wants me over the internet I will always do my best to make sure it is not a pedophile on the other line. I can recognize those types, so I sign off if I think it's a pedo and not a female around my age. If you ask me, it is way easier to do these things over IM because I'm not the best in the social world (but it isn't as if I was socially akward- hardly anybody talks to me at school although I'll never know why :0) and plus I'm not so embarassed when I flirt around or whatever.

So, overall, I think it's just as good as having an IRL girlfriend but you do need to take precautions. How about you?

[Ghost_Hunter]

I wouldn't feel like it's a real relationship if we never see each other. I wouldn't mind it and it would be kind of nice besides the fact that we'd never see each other in person but I'd much rather prefer a girlfriend I could see on a regular basis.

[the8bitter]

I wouldn't feel like it's a real relationship if we never see each other. I wouldn't mind it and it would be kind of nice besides the fact that we'd never see each other in person but I'd much rather prefer a girlfriend I could see on a regular basis.

Trading pictures or doing something like Skype helps shed a bit of the artifical factor off. I used to do E-Girlfriends a lot and we would always share pictures (not the dirty type- I think that's "sexting" or something). They always thought I was cute and I knew there were real people on the other side- flirting/getting romantic online has just as much effect to me as it does with an actual entity.

[Drivenbyjeter2]

Ya, I agree with him ^^

Seeing and hanging out with each other is how you really get to know someone and bond. And no matter what ANYONE says, the physical part to a relationship is important (even if it is just a little or you think it's minor)

But, if you find someone that's right for that, then my as well give it a try?

[Patchy]

Moved to relationships and dating

[OnlyOneChance]

Pointlesssss!

[Sage]

Resorting to online relationships because you find speaking to people in real life to be too difficult is a recipe for failure. Too fucking bad, sucks to be you. A successful relationship has never stayed purely online, two must eventually meet in person, and if you can't deal with somebody you supposedly love face to face, you shouldn't be in a relationships.

I've tried online dating twice. I am never doing that shit again.

[Art_dude]

Yea Sage is pretty on spot here. If it were to go anywhere you'd have to meet in person eventually and that requires some social interaction. You can try to run from your insecurities of interacting with others, but it will always come back to find you. Trust me, try confronting your problems now and try to fix them - running away never solves anything.

However I'm not entirely against the idea of online relationships. I think they can be fun, and rewarding. As long as they're not your only source of social interaction I think they can be fine.

[scuba steve]

I got perticularly close to someone online before and thought there would be a possiblility to it and that it was working, but it just completly and epicly fails in my opinion. It just doesn't work.

[Daniel_]

You want my honest opinion?

I think E-Dating is a complete waste of time.
What good is a relationship when you can't hold her? Can't brush her hair over her eyes? You can't comfort her in person? You can't run your hand through her hair? You can't hug her? You can't kiss her?

It's 105% pointless!

[Sage]

What good is a relationship when you can't hold her? Can't brush her hair over her eyes? You can't comfort her in person? You can't run your hand through her hair? You can't hug her? You can't kiss her?


Can't bore her with flowery, poetic phrases...

[DarkHorses]

I would never be in a relationship online. Part of it is because I have a hard time with social anxiety and I don't think that locking myself in my room talking to someone on the internet all day is a good way to resolve that. I don't even like having a lot of friends online, because I feel like it takes away from the time I could be out having a real life. The chances of an online relationship actually going anywhere are slim too, so it would just feel like a waste of time to me.

Then again I'm probably pretty bias because I don't even want a relationship, guys my age annoy me 90% of the time.

[Daniel_]

Can't bore her with flowery, poetic phrases...

awwww, someone thinks i'm poetic, thats a first =D

[Dead_Seeds]

I don't see why everyones arguing against it really.

I'm with what I suppose you would call an "E-Girlfriend".

I've been with her for 4/5months now, and we have actually met up in real life, we've met up 5 times. And before you all jump on the band wagon and start to think "LOL CAN'T TALK TO PEOPLE IN REAL LIFE" i'll think you'll find that I can. I've had several ex-girlfriends (Due to several reasons) I've got plenty of friends etc.

Anyway, back on track;
The wait of not actually meeting her made it better, since it was the anticipation of meeting her for the first time, and it was amazing.

But yeah, I don't see the issue with it if you actually meet each other in real life from time to time.

[Sage]

I don't see why everyones arguing against it really.

Because

1) It usually fails, and
2) The OP is suggesting going down this route because he lacks social skills in person.

Emphasis on 2 here.

[georgiamay]

Well, I have a friend that got together with someone they met over the internet. They got on really well on IM and stuff like that, but they realised that they couldn't have a relationship where it's just words and pictures on a screen. They really liked each other, and decided to exchange numbers cause they both lived in the UK. They started talking on the phone, and eventually arranged to meet up.

They weren't stupid. They decided to meet up in a crowded place just in case the other person turned out to be a pedo, there would be a lot of people around so nothing was too likely to happen, and they each bought a close friend with them.

Ever since, they've been meeting up on a regular basis, and they're the happiest couple I've seen in a long time.

I think internet relationships are fine, but I don't think it's really a proper relationships until they meet up in person. Words on a screen can only do so much, and tbh, I don't think you'll ever actually know what the other person is actually like unless you meet them, even if you have been talking over the internet for ages.

[Jess]

I'm okay with an e-boyfriend but sometimes you can't trust people over the internet...so yeah

[the8bitter]

Because

1) It usually fails, and
2) The OP is suggesting going down this route because he lacks social skills in person.

Emphasis on 2 here.

No need to be an ass- I can do either or. You can just meet WAY more people online than at school, and those people are incredibly immature half the time so it is difficult to take them seriously.

[Magus]

The OP is suggesting going down this route because he lacks social skills in person.

I am shy. When I talk to a girl, I just stutter and blush; I can't even start normal conversation - problems!

Virgin? Hell yah you biznetches!

Even though so, I never relied on the Internet for building up a boyfriend-girlfriend relationships despite me being an Internet addict and a social outcast.

Because, in the end, it is fake. Love does not exist in the first place, anyway. But in the end, I have far more important things to attend to than being a love bird(deliberately wasting time for nothing).

Oh, don't link me "Love does this and that" things. I am a hard headed guy, and I already know what these nonsense are.

http://thetechnologicalcitizen.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/Chemical_basis_of_love.png

[pageplant77]

Personally, I think online dating is useless. You have none of the benefits as you would have by dating a girl/guy in real life. And most of the people on those sites are pedophiles, so you also have no sense of safety with E-girlfriends/boyfriends because you don't actually know who they are or if they're telling the truth.

[Sage]

No need to be an ass- I can do either or.

I'm not being an ass, but I'd really recommend you stick to girls in real life, especially at your age. It's a better experience.

[Contra]

I don't really like that, and I prefer to stay away from that. It's a lot different to have a girlfriend in real life, because I mean, you can see her close to you, touch her and you can't experience a love and experience like that through the internet.

[Hatsune Miku]

I think they can work out. Long distance ( Or as you called it, E-Relationships ) are usually alot stronger than a normal relationship. They are harder to maintain and take alot more trust, but the love between the two usually grows stronger and is more supported. Of course if you want it to work out you are going to eventually have to meet. Me, being in one currently, ongoing for almost 5 months, knows alot about them.

[Nevfx]

I'd have to be able to see and cuddle the other person.

Although I suppose for a while I could have an e-girlfriend, but I would have to meet up.

Anyway Im not single anymore, so It doesnt matter XD

[Kaius]

I think they can work out. Long distance ( Or as you called it, E-Relationships ) are usually alot stronger than a normal relationship. They are harder to maintain and take alot more trust, but the love between the two usually grows stronger and is more supported. Of course if you want it to work out you are going to eventually have to meet. Me, being in one currently, ongoing for almost 5 months, knows alot about them.

QFT

I've been in one for just over 8 months now, and tbh its my strongest relationship I feel I've had, which is good considering its my second proper relationship. The reason being you're able to get to know the person properly without anything getting in the way. We've met and both feel being online and being in person doesn't feel any different other than the fact we can actually physically be in each others presence. Of course its nice to have a hug and stuff, but honestly its not the be all and end all, it just depends on the people. If you feel you can stay committed and truthful in your relationship without any straying eyes then there's no reason why it shouldn't work, pending both people are committed to it.

[Paladino]

I dont think they are really worth having tbh because if you cant see them irl then it isnt the same, I believe you actually need to be with someone and be around them to fall in love but thats just my opinion.

[JimSauce]

I guess it works great for some people, but I would prefer to have consistent physical contact with my partner. I think doing stuff together in person counts for a lot.