The Cycle Of Self Harm

[deadpie]

There's this cycle I've theorized about why many of us do this. And It's a pretty simple example actually. The problem is, it's hard to stop.

The cycle:
A "Trigger" or thought put into action to make you emotional respond in a negative way ---> Shame ----> Anger/Confusion ---> Self Harming ---> Feeling shameful for self harming. Then the cycle pretty much repeats like a wheel.

So triggers are a hard thing to avoid. So what you'd rather do is change those emotions you receive after them. One is shame. I can tell you for a fact, you might bring in shame for this "trigger" or whatever you think your responsible for, but you're probably not - Be it abuse, relationship issues, being ignored by parents, all stuff like this is not your fault (There's many other examples, I could go on forever). We're young and we shouldn't have all this shit put on us. We need to step up and say, "Fuck that, It's not my fault this shit happened."

How do you turn anger into something positive? Look at your talents. Do you like art, sports, fashion, or any hobby? Start using that more often and any time you get that trigger. This will make your hobby a tool in blocking the anger or taking the anger out in a safe way.

And allot of people I know that self harm, including me, will start feeling shame for what they did and disappointed them self. But you look at the emotions that lead to you doing it, and you realize that you can understand and reverse them.

I know this probably doesn't mean much, but hey, here's my attempt at trying to make you think and feel better.

[Fiction]

I've always thought my self harm is a cycle like that and it's reassuring to know that it's not just me :)

[Obscene Eyedeas]

There is just something different about this post. The honesty in it, the ideas behind it I don't know what it is but this is one of the best things i've ever read on this subject. No statistics no condemning and everything you said it's just, it's right.

And allot of people I know that self harm, including me, will start feeling shame for what they did and disappointed them self. But you look at the emotions that lead to you doing it, and you realize that you can understand and reverse them.

That sentence just sums up so much tim.

[xgeekyrocksx]

you are right, now that i look at it.. sort of is a cycle isnt it? never really thought of it in that way, so thank you for posting that.. im gonna think about it now :)