I hate it when I upset her

[Hatsune Miku]

I just have to vent this all out.

I'm dating a girl, long distance. We're a good 10 hours away, she lives in Canada, I live in Massachusetts (US) It's been 4 months already, going to be 5 soon. I love her so much, and she loves me too. She always tells me how amazing I am, how I treat her so good, like a guy should treat a girl. But I still continue to upset/hurt her, not on purpose though, completely by accident. I know when shes upset or hurt too because she totally changes the way she acts. I upset her tonight, by accident. I told her that me and my 2 friends were prank calling and we prank called a strip club, she replied "..." then said, "Im gonna sleep. love you. night." Right there, when she says bye, goodnight, or anything like that so plain, somethings wrong. Because she usually says something sweet before she goes to sleep. And I just hate it when I upset her. It doesn't just upset her, but it hurts me. I've been having some short term depression because of it too. I mean, I love her so much, I want her to be happy, I want to be the one who makes her happy not upset or hurt. I'm just scared that If this keeps up she'll end our relationship, even though I've asked her about this and she said she never would end our relationship because of how good I treat her and how much she loves me, and how I make her feel, for example, shes lied to me before, not about cheating or anything like that, but she admitted everything and even after all that I still love her. Whether shes pissed, happy, sad, whatever, I always stay by her side.

I just don't want to lose her...

[DarkHorses]

To me it doesn't sound like you did anything wrong at all, so I don't see why she would be angry with you. If she gets angry with you over small things like this all the time then I think she is the one who has the problem in the relationship. If she was really angry with you then should have voiced her concerns with you and told you how she felt rather than just signing off and leaving you hanging like that. You shouldn't have to be constantly paranoid that you're going to anger her, that's not fair for you. If she's going to continue getting angry over simple things and not even giving you an explanation as to why she is angry then I think you should confront her about it. You seem like a good guy and you don't need someone to make you feel differently.

[Hatsune Miku]

I don't really think she was angry, but disappointed in me for prank calling. And usually if I do upset her she has a good reason to be upset, but I didn't mean for her to react like she did. Like I'll be joking about something, but it goes wrong and she gets upset at me. I've told her that I'm a bad boyfriend and she said, "I love you so much baby, I'd never leave you for something as stupid as a joke gone wrong"

[DarkHorses]

You're fourteen, you should be entitled to do silly stuff like prank calling people. That doesn't make you a bad person, and it's not you fault if it disappointed her. You have no way of knowing if something will anger or disappoint her, so I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that you're a bad person because of stuff like this.

[Hatsune Miku]

I guess. I still just wish I knew why some of this stuff upsets her, I'll have to ask.

[devilsheep]

Man seriously just end the relationship, online relationships like that are so mentally draining its unbelievable. I was in quite a similar one and im glad im out of it now, your 14 just end it its not going anywhere trust me she seems like she has some emotional problems anyways exactly like my ex she'd get pissed off about stupid things then just be in a bad mood the rest of the night and totally brought me down.

Im serious here take my advice

[Hatsune Miku]

Man seriously just end the relationship, online relationships like that are so mentally draining its unbelievable. I was in quite a similar one and im glad im out of it now, your 14 just end it its not going anywhere trust me she seems like she has some emotional problems anyways exactly like my ex she'd get pissed off about stupid things then just be in a bad mood the rest of the night and totally brought me down.

Im serious here take my advice

Excuse me? You're telling me to end my relationship with the girl I love? The girl whos giving up so much to see me? The girl I bought a ring for? It's not going anywhere? You'd be surprised. And no, she doesn't have emotional problems. Yeah shes insecure sometimes, but I help her build her confidence. You don't know anything about my relationship so don't just tell me to break up with her over something so little.

[devilsheep]

Excuse me? You're telling me to end my relationship with the girl I love? The girl whos giving up so much to see me? The girl I bought a ring for? It's not going anywhere? You'd be surprised. And no, she doesn't have emotional problems. Yeah shes insecure sometimes, but I help her build her confidence. You don't know anything about our relationship so don't just tell me to break up with her over something so little.

You bought her a ring? Your 14 man your so young, i know you wont understand now though im 17 so i've been through it already your abit younger actually. I didn't mean to offend you but I guess my advice was a little suggesting in a way.

I have a question, do you have a good home life, like do you get along well with your parents ?

[Hatsune Miku]

You bought her a ring? Your 14 man your so young, i know you wont understand now though im 17 so i've been through it already your abit younger actually. I didn't mean to offend you but I guess my advice was a little suggesting in a way.

I have a question, do you have a good home life, like do you get along well with your parents ?

Yes I bought her a ring. Nothing too expensive though. And I'm 15 Sept. 1st. And yes I get along with my mom, I don't have a dad. I don't really see why that matters though.

[TakeToTheSkies.]

if she truely does love you and you love her, then you upsetting her should just be another speed bump. you two seem like your very comfortable with each other so why don't you just apologize or whatnot? and sometimes being happy all the time isn't nessacarily a good thing. it can be fake sometimes, even if the won person doesn't know it. and it seems like she cares enough to want you to make right choices, so I honestly see nothing to worry about here. =)

[Hatsune Miku]

I always do apologize, shes sleeping right now so I sent her a text. And yeah I know being happy all the time isn't a good thing, but I don't wanna be the one to not make her happy. I'm sure things will be fine though.

[Hatsune Miku]

Well we talked earlier today and she explained why she was upset. She got jealous because I sounded really happy and she said she wishes she could make me that happy, I told her that that wasn't true, that she makes me happier than anything else. She was also pissed too because I always say Im a bad boyfriend. So yeah everything's good now.