messed up

[green]

So for the past day i have been sick with a cold and sore throat. Tonight i still have the sore throat and cant sleep. My dad doesnt really give a shit, my sister couldnt care less about anything going on in the family and my mum is pissed of because of everything i do. or really dont do. I have problems with remembering things, not helped by being sick, and she gets so angry at me for every little thing i do. She gets angry because i dont do anything on the weekends but theres not like i can do much when i have a bitch sister, a dad who doesnt give a shit and a mum who is constantly yelling at me for not doing anything even though none of my friends want to go hang out or come over or do anything like that. I just feel so alone and I wish that I had a family or at least a mum who would care for me and not get so angry even when i do mess up. every weekend shes always coming home from work or waking up in the morning and finding something to be angry about. wether its because i didnt do the dishes or because the fricken heater isnt on when she gets home. I just want to be back when i was younger and we all did stuff together and we had fun and talked to each other. I still talk to my mum but it always ends up on her asking me if a did something and me having forgotten and her saying "gee thanks harry" she just doesnt seem happy with our family and she always said that she wanted a smart athletic boy and im not athletic only smart. She just doesnt seem to want to be a part of our family. Shes probobly wanting to live in a nice, clean house with a fit athletic child who is popular and wants to study all the time and not forget things.


Sorry for the wall of text I just need some advice on my situation.

[justalovestruckteen]

just try to be the bigger person and don't let it get to you,

or you could tell her you don't like the way she's treating you

[Aspiringanonymous]

Sometimes we get stuck having to be with people who don't click with us for whatever reason - perhaps certain things changed over the course of the few years in which you grew up, whic also affected the relationship dynamics in your family. Your mother wants a son that meets her expectations, that is understandable, but it dosen't make you a bad person if you choose to be different. It's your life after all, not hers. If she can't accept you for who you are as an individual, then you two will just have to agree to disagree - which may be difficult now, but it will get much easier when you stop living with her and having your every move under her scrutinization.

Now, it's absolutely unreasonable to blame every little discomfort of hers on you. Of course, you can choose to approach her about it; if not, you'll just have to deal with it as best as possible until time comes for you to have a life of your own. It's not easy, I know, to have such a source of frustration in your immediate living environment - but it will be okay. And it is absolutely not your fault, if you displease her just by being yourself and going about your daily life normally. Perhaps she has other frustrations - and is letting it all out on you, because she just dosen't know any better.

You are not alone hun, you will always have your friends, and people like us on here at the very least. :hug3: