She was abused.

[Syvelocin]

Well, this is a part of the forum I've never been on before.

Rith was physically abused as a child by her aunt. What bothers me, is that now that her aunt is sober and no longer under the influence of alcohol, she fully forgives her. She sees no wrong in it, but I care about it.

Rith was raped again today. It's the same guy, he's a family friend. And by what her diary says, it breaks her apart bit by bit every time.

But of course, the reason I'm posting this is, if you don't know already, Rith is my alter. So of course, her being raped affects me. I have no way to determine if the entry in her diary is for real. I mean, she does have a memory that's different from her personal experiences. According to her memories, she was first raped at age 14, four years ago. But I didn't lose my virginity until one year ago, so that was just one of her memories. But I'm not sure about it now. My memory blanked out around seven last night and I don't remember anything before eight in the morning today. So I am at a loss of ideas on how to deal with and solve this.

[TheFame]

Um im sorry but what?
smh

Are you schizophrenic? lol this is confusing..

[Clawhammer]

I hate to say this, but the post doesn't quite make sense. Is this person who was raped another person, such as a friend, or a part of you, such as a multiple personality situation? (That's what it kind of sounded like) Please explain and I'm sure we'll do our best to help.

[NeverTooLate]

i got lost >.< didn't make sense to me

[Sith Lord 13]

I wish I knew what to tell you. Having DID is a very complicated thing. There are no simple answers. Best thing I can suggest is to try and piece together what happened. Find verifiable facts, talk to people you may have been with, basically fact check as much of her story as you can. See if it fits.

[ShatteredWings]

Guys, constructive please?

id have to agree with alex. try to piece together what you know happened to your body (since, that's what you can prosecute people on) and see what comes out with it. Can you talk with rith a bit more easily now? I know, you lost over a week and it's harder to figure out, but you really have to try.

is her family people you know are live people(vs. memories of things that didn't... exactly happen)?

[Syvelocin]

I wish I knew what to tell you. Having DID is a very complicated thing. There are no simple answers. Best thing I can suggest is to try and piece together what happened. Find verifiable facts, talk to people you may have been with, basically fact check as much of her story as you can. See if it fits.

Thanks, that's a nice logical approach. I'll work on what I can salvage from my memory and start from there.

Guys, constructive please?

id have to agree with alex. try to piece together what you know happened to your body (since, that's what you can prosecute people on) and see what comes out with it. Can you talk with rith a bit more easily now? I know, you lost over a week and it's harder to figure out, but you really have to try.

is her family people you know are live people(vs. memories of things that didn't... exactly happen)?

After reading the entry, I took everything a bit too critically. I mean, I found a bruise that scared me, but I could have just as easily gotten it from falling the day before when I was running, and I was very achy that morning, but I woke up on the couch so that would have made sense. I really don't know what I can take as evidence and what I can dismiss.

It's all so confusing...

To tell you the truth, I've been a bit afraid to directly communicate with her. She's been seeming a bit... moody recently (the discovery of her diary helped a whole lot to get inside her mind). But after this, I know I'll have to try and talk to her. She's in denial right now, but I think she has still admitted it to herself somewhere deep inside, by how she described the session with the psychologist.

They are apparently alive, I've actually went about looking them up, but I haven't met them as far as I know. Since she recently turned eighteen, she hasn't kept in touch with them.

[ShatteredWings]

from her perspective entirely, i wouldn't want to keep contact with an abusive family after being 18 either.

seems scary, but it might be better, just so you two can start dealing with what's going on, and putting together the past. even if you two don't get along well, she's part of you still.
:hug:

[Syvelocin]

Okay. I left a sticky note in her journal. Which turned into six.

She's ignoring my existance. Not surprised, she thinks I'm the alter. "End of conversation."

[Syvelocin]

Oh luvvie, you really should stay out of my journal. Tsk tsk.

A. He has nothing to do with your life. He's my problem. And I'm trying to keep it that way. Your life is, so far, incredibly good to you. I don't have to introduce him into yours.
B. I don't hate you. I just want to live a life that is as close to a normal one as I can manage. DID is not something I need.
C. But, through this site, I could help you, y'know. If you wish. Your wellbeing does directly affect me anyway, not that it is the only reason I'd help you.
D. And finally, you treat me like the alter. I hate to get into this conversation again, but I think we need to deduce who is the first personality. I know it doesn't feel like you're the "second" personality, but it doesn't seem possible to me either that I would be.

[ShatteredWings]

Not surprised, she thinks I'm the alter.

I know it doesn't feel like you're the "second" personality, but it doesn't seem possible to me either that I would be.

you could both be right, if you split off too far ago and devloped significantly differently it might be harder to deduce whoes the 'other' one, and tbh does it matter?

[Sith Lord 13]

you could both be right, if you split off too far ago and devloped significantly differently it might be harder to deduce whoes the 'other' one, and tbh does it matter?

Agreed. Just because one is an alter it doesn't make them a second class citizen. It's as much the alter's body as it is your own. Just work together. I know, it's not that easy, but it's a goal to aim for.

[welcome_to_chaos]

Did is a very dificult and confusing subject especially because of alters. but what does it matter? your still two people sharing the same body. :) but anyways. just saying you guys might want to make sure theres not any more alters. usually a person with did only shows one or two but have many. just saying. hope you two can work it out

[Asylum]

Rith if you ever need someone to talk to, you know I'm here. Perhaps report him even. This way he can't hurt you. Alexandra do you have someone to confide in? PErhaps if you told somoene.. a friend that Rith and you are both closet to, to maybe get you both out of this situation. It's really Rith's decision in the end to do something. However if you perhaps write a note to Rith saying how it affects you, perhaps she will understand and maybe do somethign about it. However Rith, I know it's scary.. I wasn't raped but was sexually abused, I knw what you are going through. REporting is the best thing in the end. If you report him you'll never see him again. He will never touch you again. You can get away from this. He doesn't have to hurt you anymore. As for the both of you, I think neither of you is the alter. I see you as both equals. If either of you ever need to talk, i'm always here for you guys. Both of you. I seirously consider you my friends even though I barely know you. We can all get through this together stay strong. I suggest Rith that sine you are going through this a pshycologist can relaly help or a counsler as far as the abuse goes. Even the multiple personailties. But that is completely up to you. Just talking about it can help. It's really not good to hold thigns in. :( *huggles* I'm here for you both. Stay strong!

[Syvelocin]

I've always wondered about having only us two. Why just two when I've heard of others having several? Alex and I are definitely the only prominent ones, if there are any others, as we are incredibly distinct from each other.

I've posted a thread from my perspective, about that situation with my "uncle." That might clear up a few things about exactly what the circumstances are.
Our thing is that our lives don't overlap. Like we really are two completely different people, we just don't coexist of course. Alex doesn't know anyone who I know, and I don't know anyone she knows.

We're both seeing a therapist, not that any professional has been that helpful. This therapist, however, specializes in family counseling. We're seeing her for her quality though, as she has been the most helpful, kind, and understanding professional that we've seen so far.

Thanks much Songul. I really do appreciate it.

By the way, I've finally gotten news that in this case, it IS considered multiple accounts, even though we're different people. So Alex is going to be using my account, and apparently she will change the font colour to magenta so there's a distinction. Just so you know for the future. She isn't on as often as I am, but when she does turn up, she'll post in the different colour.