Should I?

[REGRET]

I have been thinking about going to the school counselor. I've been thinking about it for a few days now. It would feel so fucking good to get all these things of my chest, to just tell someone about everything, and have someone listen, and try to help.

But the counselor at school has the right to call my parents and tell them everything, and I don't want that.
And I'm also afraid that she might not listen, just tell me to stop right cutting right now, and I can't do that.
So I wonder if anyone here has gone to the counselor at school and told them, and what did they say?
Tomorrow is the last day of school before I leave on a trip to Lapland, so I'm maybe going there tomorrow and tell her everything, do you guys think I should do that?

Sorry for taking up space, I just want some tips and advice and stuff.

[Fiction]

I've never been to a school councellor, but if she will be trained to deal with these types of things so i'msure she will listen and understand. I do think if you go and tell her there is a high chance she will tell your parents but this may help you on the way to reocvery. One thing i would say is maybeit is not the best idea to go just before a trip away as your parents may then change their mind about you going if they find out. Although if you relaly feel you need to speak to someone immediatley then please don't let that hold you back. Hope i helped :)

[xlovexkurtx]

I would maybe go to a therapist. It's illegal for them to tell your parents anything unless you say you're gonna kill yourself.

[the8bitter]

Consoulers never help- take it from a guy who has been suicidal all of his life. At least in public schools were everything is undefunded anyways. They WILL or will at least TRY to call your parents. One time there was a missed call from our school's consouler and I ended up deleting it so mom would never find out (never called again either).

[Syvelocin]

Please, don't go to a school counselor. Do whatever you can to arrange something with a therapist or psychologist. There's a far greater chance that they'll understand and be able to give you the help you need.

My counselor was just horrible. She freaked out over the smallest things (like cutting, though I know that isn't small, but imagine how she reacted when I told her about my multiple personality). She called my parents EVERY TIME I came in with a new cut on my arm. She would always start with "Alex..." in an incredibly menacing, scolding tone, and finish with the cliche "Don't cut yourself." Most school counselors aren't knowledgeable in psychology, even though they always say "come to me if you need me." I've only met one school counselor who wasn't lying when they said that. Usually, they deal with schedule changes and disciplinary actions.

If your school has a social worker, try and get an appointment with him/her over your counselor. My school social worker had requested to see me one time and she really did understand better and was much more helpful than my counselor. They have a little more training in that area usually.

But you know who's better than a social worker, counselor, and therapist combined for that stuff? Though it's not a substitute for a professional, I've found a loving, caring teacher to be much more helpful. The best advice I've ever received about my situation came from my 9th grade Lit teacher. She would use Shakespeare references to give me advice, and it always stuck. "All of us have the power to create and destroy within us. You can decide which one you'll use," that was the main one that stuck with me, she even wrote it in my yearbook. And she'd always do things like telling me to not cut over the two days of the weekend, just for her, and to do myself a favor and watch a comedy or see a play. She gave me the motivation I needed to get through the worst school year of my life. I've been fortunate enough that my teachers have been incredibly helpful to me.

[REGRET]

yeah, I think that the counselor would make a very big deal and probably call my parents. My school does have a psychologist, maybe I'll contact her or something, 'cause I need to talk to someone soon.

Thanks for the help everybody :)

[Mike321]

Good luck with it, hope everything goes okay
And as the other have said, avoid the school counsellors and psychologist is the best bet

[Alex_.-]

u shud, talking it out always helps and gets u another perspective

[REGRET]

Thanks, I'll try to contact the psychologist or therapist. :)