my mom is so discouraging

[Jess]

she thinks I'm going to get C's in all my classes, she wants to kick me out when I'm 18 and she doesn't care if I don't find a good job and she thinks everyone will hate me :mad:

It's like she doesn't care about me at all!

[the8bitter]

I'm in the same boat as you- my mom doesn't care about grades too much but she hates me so it would make sense. She's always coming up with some smartass response when I have problems. Bitch.

[Cloud]

Have you ever thought its your mothers ways of encouraging you to prove them wrong?
Or to be more independant and take charge without needing mummmy to hold your hand all the way through

[The Ninja]

make her feel horrible about herself, shes doing it to you. i dont know what your mom does as a job but if she ever gets fired dont "be there for her" make her feel crap. prove her wrong by getting a job. and move out at 18 and never speak to her again. honestly this is what i plan to do. and yes i do realize i am a total asshole at times.

[DarkHorses]

I'm sorry that your mom is like this. Have you ever tried talking to her about how she makes you feel? You don't deserve to be made to feel like you're not good enough or that you won't amount to anything. Even if your mom doesn't change if you talk to her, try not to let what she says get to you. You can be a good person, and do something important with your life. Don't live your life to please her, live it to be happy with yourself.

[Jess]

Have you ever thought its your mothers ways of encouraging you to prove them wrong?
Or to be more independant and take charge without needing mummmy to hold your hand all the way through

No it can't be that :/

make her feel horrible about herself, shes doing it to you. i dont know what your mom does as a job but if she ever gets fired dont "be there for her" make her feel crap. prove her wrong by getting a job. and move out at 18 and never speak to her again. honestly this is what i plan to do. and yes i do realize i am a total asshole at times.

meh I don't want to be evil like that but I'll prove to her that I'll do well this year (hopefully) and get a job.

I'm sorry that your mom is like this. Have you ever tried talking to her about how she makes you feel? You don't deserve to be made to feel like you're not good enough or that you won't amount to anything. Even if your mom doesn't change if you talk to her, try not to let what she says get to you. You can be a good person, and do something important with your life. Don't live your life to please her, live it to be happy with yourself.

thanks :)

[Cloud]

and how do you know im wrong jess?

[Dunce]

Has she actually told you all of this or do you just sense some discouragement on the education front?
First of all she may want you to prove her wrong with the grades.
If you want you could try tell her that she's being cruel and unrealistic. Ask her why she has no faith in you.
But if this has hurt you to the point where you no longer care what she thinks then ignore her. Do whatever you want in life. It's about you and not her.
After a while you might be talking to her, after how she's made you feel you probably don't want a relationship with her though.