JG3
August 19th, 2010, 01:32 AM
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So I am probably near the end (or past) of being able to post on these forums, but something has really been bugging me lately and I would like your opinions on it...
Our family and another family have been friends for a very long time, my parents and the other family have known each other for many years. Their kids, my brother, sister and I have always been close - 'related but not related' and I had told them one day that if they ever needed anything to give me a call or a text and I would help them in some way no matter what. I told them this probably 4 or 5 years ago when they were younger, and they are now 11, 14, and 16. The middle boy had always been close to me for whatever reason, he said he doesn't like the same stuff his brothers do, which I could understand when he was 9 or 10. Now the issue...
I was at work the other day and I recieved a text message from the middle son, stating that he was having some trouble and needed help and mentioned the fact that I stated I would help him in some way no matter what, so I told my manager i'm taking my break and went out to my truck and asked him what was up. He said he had some 'personal' questions and wanted to know if he could talk to me. I said yes i'll see what I can do, he started asking me questions on penis size, pubic hair and just general 'growing up' stuff that we all go/went through. Then the kicker came, he asked me if we could experiment and that he really wanted to see what an 'older' penis looked like. Now i'm very open on sex-ed because it is important to understand what is happening to your body as you go through teenage years and had mentioned to him that I understand the experimenting part, it's normal, but you should experiment with the friends in your grade that are going through the same things. He then said that he had been asked by his friends in his grade (he isn't a complete zombie following me around and has friends) but he didn't want because he says they are not as 'mature' as him and it wouldn't work (he was an early bloomer). I told him I wouldn't honor is request due to the 6 year age gap between us and because I don't morally feel comfortable with it at all and could get in a lot of trouble down the road (I want to be a bio teacher).
Now the consequences:
-He refuses to talk to me in person.
-If I send him a 'hows it going' I get a very colorful response and called a liar.
-He insists on reminding me of what I said to him when he was 9 and how he no longer trusts me.
This is really eating me up, he is like a brother to me and I hate seeing him hurt but at the same time what he wanted was a blow to my mind. I'm hoping this ends up being an elongated mood swing and he will come to his senses, but it's been about 3 weeks now since the incident.
What would you guys have done?
Thank you
So I am probably near the end (or past) of being able to post on these forums, but something has really been bugging me lately and I would like your opinions on it...
Our family and another family have been friends for a very long time, my parents and the other family have known each other for many years. Their kids, my brother, sister and I have always been close - 'related but not related' and I had told them one day that if they ever needed anything to give me a call or a text and I would help them in some way no matter what. I told them this probably 4 or 5 years ago when they were younger, and they are now 11, 14, and 16. The middle boy had always been close to me for whatever reason, he said he doesn't like the same stuff his brothers do, which I could understand when he was 9 or 10. Now the issue...
I was at work the other day and I recieved a text message from the middle son, stating that he was having some trouble and needed help and mentioned the fact that I stated I would help him in some way no matter what, so I told my manager i'm taking my break and went out to my truck and asked him what was up. He said he had some 'personal' questions and wanted to know if he could talk to me. I said yes i'll see what I can do, he started asking me questions on penis size, pubic hair and just general 'growing up' stuff that we all go/went through. Then the kicker came, he asked me if we could experiment and that he really wanted to see what an 'older' penis looked like. Now i'm very open on sex-ed because it is important to understand what is happening to your body as you go through teenage years and had mentioned to him that I understand the experimenting part, it's normal, but you should experiment with the friends in your grade that are going through the same things. He then said that he had been asked by his friends in his grade (he isn't a complete zombie following me around and has friends) but he didn't want because he says they are not as 'mature' as him and it wouldn't work (he was an early bloomer). I told him I wouldn't honor is request due to the 6 year age gap between us and because I don't morally feel comfortable with it at all and could get in a lot of trouble down the road (I want to be a bio teacher).
Now the consequences:
-He refuses to talk to me in person.
-If I send him a 'hows it going' I get a very colorful response and called a liar.
-He insists on reminding me of what I said to him when he was 9 and how he no longer trusts me.
This is really eating me up, he is like a brother to me and I hate seeing him hurt but at the same time what he wanted was a blow to my mind. I'm hoping this ends up being an elongated mood swing and he will come to his senses, but it's been about 3 weeks now since the incident.
What would you guys have done?
Thank you