Wants a GF

[the8bitter]

I'm kind of a geek, so most girls think I'm kind of dorky or something. I always wanted to give and receive affection to a female. I actually think I would be pretty good- a few of my female friends (who I'm not having those kinds of relationships with) think I'm really sweet in real life. In fact, one of them told me that I was so nice she wanted to strangle me XD.

I don't think a real life relationship is for me, I think E-Girlfriends or long distance relationships are better for me. I'm a bit socially akward, but online it is much easier to interact. That is not to say I'm a complete shut-in glued to the comp, I DO try and talk to my high school peers but usually they just ignore me even if I'm trying to be pleasant to them. I don't understand...am I THAT disgusting? I shower every day, get nice colognes and such and I'm still disregarded by most people (besides my friends, the majority being nerds too :D). What should I do... it's gotten to the point where sometimes all I can think about beyond classwork are all of the cute girls in class. I'm not desperate (I really want another nerd I can actually connect with XP) but I think I'm hungry to give affection and of course receive a little if be.

[justalovestruckteen]

Why not ask one of your friends out?

[the8bitter]

Why not ask one of your friends out?

I'm not like that with my female friends (I don't think they're my type or into me love-wise), and all my nerdy friends are guys. I never judge by appearance, I like intelligence in an individual more than anything else. Nerdy women always seem attractive to me...glasses really seem to turn me on for some reason (LOL) but then again it's natural when I myself am sort of nerdy.

[TheFame]

For the socially akward people, this will take a little longer :P

Get a nedry girlfriend :P Shed be intelligent.

[the8bitter]

For the socially akward people, this will take a little longer :P

Get a nedry girlfriend :P Shed be intelligent.

That is what I'd like- somebody smart. But I'm probably too ugly for even then, I'd rather have somebody to truly engage in conversations with rather than just kiss and touch 24/7 (although I do like that stuff)

[Andrew.6]

well maybe you can change you appearances a liitle and try talking to a girl so you lose that fear of close relationship. or maybe try being funny and nice to girls if you do that maybe they will like you

[the8bitter]

well maybe you can change you appearances a liitle and try talking to a girl so you lose that fear of close relationship. or maybe try being funny and nice to girls if you do that maybe they will like you

I try and be nice to everybody, and I do like to wear some of the newer-style clothes (Aeropostale, especially Hot Topic...love their shirts even if I'm not an emo) whenever I can. I just don't want to be completely random (walk up to some poor stranger and start talking) because that is just intrusive to do somebody you wouldn't even know beyond the fact they're a student in yer class.

[justalovestruckteen]

this reminds me of the time when I was looking for someone on the internet,I join lots of sites and chatrooms, but what I did'nt know is the person I have been looking for was right there the whole time!and I only discovered that when I was'nt looking...

its weird how things turn out somtimes,

Anyways, I don't think you should change yourself for a girl,
the perfect girl will come and like you for who you are,

(I think you'll find someone, you seem kind and nice :) )

[zoom zoom]

Hey i got something for you. beauty Captures Attention, but Personality Captures the Heart. so its not all about beauty. you should go for someone that makes you happy, and dont just judge someone by their looks.

To answer question. A GF i think is someone that you can count on. well she is like a best best friend, but you have engaged your relationship with this person, and it has involved into something that kinda binds you two. A GF is someone that you allow into your life, and you can trust her, and she can trust you.

[notsure101]

Work on humor, girls love a guy that can make em laugh and make em feel good. But dont try and be to clingy and lovey dovey if you do find that girl your looking for.

[justalovestruckteen]

Work on humor, girls love a guy that can make em laugh and make em feel good. But dont try and be to clingy and lovey dovey if you do find that girl your looking for.

Personally, to me, I go for lovey dovey clingy guys (like that he wants to know were I am, every second of the day, just because he doesn't want me hurt, more like obsessive)
I don't know, I do have weird taste,
but I am just saying some girls would love it

[notsure101]

Personally, to me, I go for lovey dovey clingy guys (like that he wants to know were I am, every second of the day, just because he doesn't want me hurt, more like obsessive)
I don't know, I do have weird taste,
but I am just saying some girls would love it

Thats the word I was looking for obsessive. Thank you! :D

[Fruit_Tart.]

i dunno if you mentioned it but would you consider changing your style/fashion. that's what sorta helped me get noticed. lmao! i wore really low class stuff and i changed it and i started getting noticed. i know it shouldn't matter to your "lover" but it's just a thought. :) best of luck to you!

[Drivenbyjeter2]

I know how you feel man. Believe it or not, that's how I am. I'm the guy that is "just friends" with everyone and is that "nice guy" and "smart kid". But you know what, don't be down on yourself, things will turn around. Right when you stop focusing on the topic, and just act yourself, it will happen when you LEAST expect it.

That's what happened to me recently. I gave up on trying to find a girl, and just enjoyed life and all my friends. Then I met this amazing girl through some people. She was hot, funny, and had a really interesting personality. The type of girl that never went out with me, but when you just act yourself, you appeal more to girls, cuz you are just YOURSELF :) not acting like a guy trying to get a girl.

Hope this helped man :)

[tomboysk8r1314]

This is random but I love the nerdy, geeky guys xD

Haha so my advice to you would to be yourself. You never know, there could be a girl out there that has a crush on you. Try to boost up your confidence a tad because a good majority of girls like confidence in a guy.

Best of Luck! :)

[justalovestruckteen]

Or try another sex,

if girls don't work try guys

[scuba steve]

Or try another sex,

if girls don't work try guys

That's rather brash... Not everyone can just switch like that :P

But anyway I would advise that you do put yourself out more, gain confidence i was the same about your age no really socially confident. Being yourself is key, so why don't you try change your appearance a bit. No offence but you are kind of young to have "style" ome get it early others take longer to figure out what you like but still, some possiblities? Contacts, hair gel and maybe lose a bit of weight...?

[the8bitter]

That's rather brash... Not everyone can just switch like that :P

But anyway I would advise that you do put yourself out more, gain confidence i was the same about your age no really socially confident. Being yourself is key, so why don't you try change your appearance a bit. No offence but you are kind of young to have "style" ome get it early others take longer to figure out what you like but still, some possiblities? Contacts, hair gel and maybe lose a bit of weight...?

I'm at a decent weight. There are skinny nerds, and chubby nerds. I'm the "well-rounded" nerd. I always go to Hot Topic because they have all of the geeky t-shirts and stuff there.

[scuba steve]

But still sports could help put a bit of tone on or something, i'm sure it's not everyones thing and i'm not trying to offend just stating that it could help as well as make yourself feel better - linking ack to the confidence issues.

[Demented]

Don't have a 'nerdy' personality. Wear nice clothes, perhaps that fit who you are. Aeropostale, AE, Hollister, Racing, Underarmour. Don't wear stuff that looks like you got at a thrift store or garage sale. Like you said, have a good hygiene. Get to know some more girls and eventually you will become friends. Then see what goes from there. Hope all goes well! :)

[dents]

im almost in the same boat as you, im pretty smart almost nerdy,, but i also play sports, but some reason girls always judge me for my looks. I dont know why i cant get them. I dont like to change myself just for a girl