My dad wants grand kids

[The Joker]

"If I had a gay son, I'd be unappreciative."

My dad told that to me. I did not understand at first, and he elaborated and said that he would be upset if I didn't produce grandchildren, and that adoption would not be an option.

Apparently he fucking raised me to produce grandchildren, like that's all I'm good for. He also insinuated that being gay was a choice.

He doesn't know I'm gay, thank fucking goodness. This upsets me so much, my own father wouldn't be supportive of who I am. Today we spent the whole day fucking yelling at each other and I know we will end up estranged, at this rate.

So fucking mad right now...

[Fruit_Tart.]

i was in the same fucking deal a couple of months back. but i do want to have my own kids and this was a different situation. my dad saw a guy that acts gay and told me that he doesn't want me to be like that. on the outside i hopefully wont be but in the inside i will always and it just hurt.

so i just wanted to tell you i feel your attitude toward this kinda situation. :*(

[The Joker]

Yeah, I actually want kids. Fucking sucks not being able to relate with your own blood...

[TheFame]

I think very selfishly. The way i do anything is i always put me first. If i had any sort of father figure in my life and he said that, then i would literally think fuck you , im gay, and you can spend your time accepting it while im living my life.

I live to satisfy nobody. I dont live up to anyones expectations. I expose myself at them and take it or leave it . If they cant accept me then thats really their fault and until they stop being childish, then they can talk to me.

^ thats my advice to you, you'd never get hurt



Adopt a child or mix your sperm together with your boyfriend. He'll make you happy. If your fathers still being childish about the gay thing than i guess your son dosent need to be around a homophobic area, because your son will be raised to be whatever it wants and it will still be loved.

[Andrzej]

I am in a similar situation, except it is with both my parents. They clearly know/suspect that I am gay, even though I haven't come out yet. When I do come out, they'll definitely be upset over it since I didn't turn out the way they wanted me to. It sucks, but oh well, I guess.

They'll get grandkids though. I want to be a father some day and have a son. I've always wanted kids.

[Bougainvillea]

I live to satisfy nobody. I dont live up to anyones expectations. I throw myself at them and take it or leave it . If they cant accept me then thats really their fault and until they stop being childish, then they can talk to me.^ thats my advice to you, you'd never get hurt

As long as you don't throw yourself at people, and act like a complete fucking asshole about it, then I agree with you.

Matt, you're dad was harsh. But you have to remember, that it's every dad's dream to see their son or daughter to have a family of their own. It's just the way people are. Especially people who were raised in a traditional manner.

I'm pretty sure if/when he does know that you're a homosexual, that he'll accept it. It'll be hard, and maybe not in the way you want. But he'll accept it.

[Rutherford The Brave]

I know what that's like. Once I gave him one, he was upset at me. You can't really win in this situation.

[Bougainvillea]

Greg, I'm pretty sure if I got Cathy pregnant, my mom would be pissed. But extremely happy inside, because pregnancy often leads to an infant.

[TheFame]

but Joker, he may have not really meant what he had said. I dont know your father, who knows maybe if you told him he would end up being all "Im sorry i never knew"!

[Rutherford The Brave]

Greg, I'm pretty sure if I got Cathy pregnant, my mom would be pissed. But extremely happy inside, because pregnancy often leads to an infant.

I miss Cathy :(

I hope she'd be pissed. Sadly I never really knew what it was like to be raised by my own parents. I made a dumb mistake and well I don't even know why he's mad its not like he's been around.

[The Batman]

Matt when you do decide to come out to you dad he'll either have to accept it then or learn to accept it. I'm going to be honest but him just bringing it up is him hinting that he might think you're gay and he's trying to make sure it doesn't happen.

[DanielBoy]

"If I had a gay son, I'd be unappreciative."

My dad told that to me. I did not understand at first, and he elaborated and said that he would be upset if I didn't produce grandchildren, and that adoption would not be an option.

Apparently he fucking raised me to produce grandchildren, like that's all I'm good for. He also insinuated that being gay was a choice.

He doesn't know I'm gay, thank fucking goodness. This upsets me so much, my own father wouldn't be supportive of who I am. Today we spent the whole day fucking yelling at each other and I know we will end up estranged, at this rate.

So fucking mad right now...

Tell him. If he doesn't accept you for who you are fuck him. A person's sexuality is not a choice, I know. It has to do with your personality, and your sexuality is the cornerstone of your personality, and is one of the main things that makes you who you are. It is not something that you can change at will. If he can't understand this, maybe it is better to cut him out of your life, maybe some time to himself will help him to realize that his way of thinking is wrong, and that if he doesn't learn to accept you, he won't have you.

[Bougainvillea]

Tell him. If he doesn't accept you for who you are fuck him.
Uh, no. Don't tell him that. There's no need to be completely disrespectful. I highly doubt he's going to just deem you a failure and a disgrace. It's understandable that he'll be upset when he finds out his son is gay. Not everyone is going to accept homosexuality. Deal with it.

It has to do with your personality, and your sexuality is the cornerstone of your personality, and is one of the main things that makes you who you are
I don't think so. I think it's a main drive in our primal instincts. I don't know about you, but my main personality doesn't revolve around my bisexuality.

Like I said before, I think that he'll accept you, Matt. It'll take a while. But I HIGHLY doubt he'll just say "UGH. My son is a faggot. He's not my son anymore."

[Alex_.-]

that generation is typically close-minded on controversial things like sexuality, but your not living your life to please your father so eventually he'll learn to be happy with his son the way he is.

[nick]

You can talk to me anytime you want. I still care.

[The Joker]

I think very selfishly. The way i do anything is i always put me first. If i had any sort of father figure in my life and he said that, then i would literally think fuck you , im gay, and you can spend your time accepting it while im living my life.

I live to satisfy nobody. I dont live up to anyones expectations. I expose myself at them and take it or leave it . If they cant accept me then thats really their fault and until they stop being childish, then they can talk to me.

^ thats my advice to you, you'd never get hurt

I'm leaning towards that.

but Joker, he may have not really meant what he had said. I dont know your father, who knows maybe if you told him he would end up being all "Im sorry i never knew"!

My father is a negative, soul-sucking beacon of darkness who I dearly love. He meant it, he probably wouldn't have wanted to upset me though.



Thanks everyone.

[Sheiuni]

just tell him your gay. then adopt a kid. too bad for him, that jackass. he shouldnt upset you like this. im sorry.

[Fruit_Tart.]

just tell him your gay. then adopt a kid. too bad for him, that jackass. he shouldnt upset you like this. im sorry.
but he said he wants kids. well... idk of his own but yeah adoption is a good way to go too. there's alot of kids out there that need that sorta help.

[Maverick]

Hey, Matt,

Just remember this is your life, not his. You do whatever you want to do and what will make you happy. While it will be nice to have his support in whatever path you choose, if you don't you just have to pave your own way without it. He may change or he may not, but just be true to yourself and proud of who you are. Its always better than pretending to be someone you aren't.

Stand up for who you are and what you believe in no matter what. For now I would just bite your tongue and avoid telling him until its absolutely necessary.

[DarkHorses]

Be who you are, and eventually your dad will have to accept it. He might not be happy about it, but don't let him change you. What matters most is that you're happy. Once he sees that you're happy being gay and with your future, he will probably be more accepting. This is your life, not his, live it for yourself.