Drunken Rape?

[Blastoperzz]

So me and 2 friends decided that we wanted to have a fun time. Well actually one friend did, I will call him Al. Al, decided to call his uncle and have him bring us 3 boys who are 16 a 24 pack of beer. I didn't want to do but you know how peer pressure is. So we snuck out And me and the other friend who I will call Dan, got pretty drunk. We had about 8 beers each, while Al only had one. I was having fun, but we decided it was getting late and when went to sleep. When I was asleep I woke up to Al, who was the only sober one, attempting to make out with me (a drunk sleeping guy) and attempting to give me a hang job while spooning me. And I didn't notice or wake up because I was drunk and we didn't go to sleep till 3:30 A.M. Now I am 100% straight, so I did not like this, at all, and I did not know my friend was gay. I was so disgusted, I ran to the bathroom and puked, and also stated crying since it was so gross to me. After that I just layed down on the couch so Al would stay away from me. Now I did some investigating, and he told my one friend that he is gay. And it was his idea to get drunk, but then he decided to not drink, so I think he got me drink on purpose just so he would get away with this, which I consider close to rape. Now I haven't said a word to anybody, and I just keep thinking about it, and how gross it is. What would you do in this situation. And don't tell me enjoy it, Im not gay/bi. Please Answer because I am so confuzed. You can also pm for more details.

[Captor K]

Gah, this is a tough one.

First of all, have you confronted this guy about it? I think you should approach him and bring this up. Try not to let your anger get the better of you, but it's understandable either way. Abuse is abuse, and what he did was flat out wrong. So, you need to mention it to him if you haven't already. Something like this won't go away on its own, and it seems it will only fester unless you say something about it. If he apologizes, forgive him. Forgiving can be hard, but it's good that you do; it makes you the bigger man. If his apology isn't sincere, forgive him anyway, but consider if he's worth saving the friendship over.

And it might be best if you just keep your distance for a while. If, with time, you are able to put this behind you and move on, then that is good. But make sure he understands that you will not tolerate that kind of disrespect. If he can't respect you, then you don't want him around, do you?

This is a really tricky situation, and this is about the best I can do for you. Also, you need to let your anger out; all that pent-up rage isn't healthy. Beat up your pillow for a while. It may make you feel better. *hug*

[TopGear]

Personally I would advise you to first do not put yourself in that you stay away from him or talk to him and tell him that you did not like what he did at all and if he tries it again that you will tell someone. Also if it does happen again then I would go to a trusted adult such as a parent, teacher or someone that you can trust and report him. Thats called sexual Assault.

For the future make sure you know ur friends before you get hammered.

[Deathwingo0o]

I am not going to say much because there is not much to be said. Just tell
him you're straight and have a g/f(lie to him) and say you wish only to be friends with him. Good luck.

[Blastoperzz]

Thanks everyone, :D and i would tell an adult, but i would be in so much trouble for being drunk you guys don't even know. I think about it everyday :// It just has me so worked up. Like sad and mad. I probably just won't say anything. If he brings it up, I will tell him that was not acceptable. I will forgive him, but we are not like best friends, so I probably will not be hanging out with him, at least anytime soon at all. If he apologizes I will forgive him, to some point, and he will think I did the whole time. But I don't think deep inside I ever will. On the plus side I won't be getting drunk again any time soon.

[Judas]

Tell someone you trust.
Keep away from this guy.
Don't get drunk again.

[KFC_Kid]

I would consult the police

[DanielBoy]

So me and 2 friends decided that we wanted to have a fun time. Well actually one friend did, I will call him Al. Al, decided to call his uncle and have him bring us 3 boys who are 16 a 24 pack of beer. I didn't want to do but you know how peer pressure is. So we snuck out And me and the other friend who I will call Dan, got pretty drunk. We had about 8 beers each, while Al only had one. I was having fun, but we decided it was getting late and when went to sleep. When I was asleep I woke up to Al, who was the only sober one, attempting to make out with me (a drunk sleeping guy) and attempting to give me a hang job while spooning me. And I didn't notice or wake up because I was drunk and we didn't go to sleep till 3:30 A.M. Now I am 100% straight, so I did not like this, at all, and I did not know my friend was gay. I was so disgusted, I ran to the bathroom and puked, and also stated crying since it was so gross to me. After that I just layed down on the couch so Al would stay away from me. Now I did some investigating, and he told my one friend that he is gay. And it was his idea to get drunk, but then he decided to not drink, so I think he got me drink on purpose just so he would get away with this, which I consider close to rape. Now I haven't said a word to anybody, and I just keep thinking about it, and how gross it is. What would you do in this situation. And don't tell me enjoy it, Im not gay/bi. Please Answer because I am so confuzed. You can also pm for more details.

First what "Al" did was not okay. I am bi, so I know that sexual tensions can get high, and get close to controlling some of my actions, but he should have been smarter than that. If he is your friend, I don't think you should condemn him to jail or anything like that, but you do need to talk to him. I know you are very confused, and very uncomfortable, but you need to try to support "Al", but before you do that, you need to make it clear to him that what he did was not okay, and not to do it again. It may take a while, but after you get over that bump, then you can help him find an outlet for all that bottled up sexual tension. From what I can tell, if he was that desperate to get with a guy, it wasn't really him doing it, but his hormones. I am not trying to justify what he did, or takes sides. Al needs his friends more than ever at this point. One stupid act should not end a friendship, if you guys are good friends. All I can say is try your hardest to get over it, and to talk to him about it. If you are that traumatized by what happened, then I guess you need to take time, and keep your distance. I can't really tell you what to do, only what I would do. I'm sorry what happened, for both you and Al. :(

I hope I helped. :D