quick question !

[Andrew.6]

What are the thing that make you gay ? is it because of people or maybe genetic I don't know

[thiscityisdead]

What are the thing that make you gay ? is it because of people or maybe genetic I don't know

I don't think it can be genetic but your sexual orientation can be affected by puberty and people your around everyday can have an affect on orientation as well as the things your attracted too as your hormones go crazy. There's really no simple answer =P

[reithedragonboy]

I don't think genetics has anything to do with it. It probably has to do with the things you've been exposed to while you were growing up and going through puberty. It has to deal with the feelings that you have concerning the same sex. It also has to do with what you personally believe in, not what you grew up believing in.
Overall, genetics probably plays almost no role in this; a person's personal preference and choices is what makes them who they are.

[blindbysight1]

Although some people say so, genetics do not cause homosexuality. its caused by each and every persons own feelings and how they were raised.

Puberty plays a big part in this as, im sure youve seen already on this site, it causes teenagers to experiment in sexual interactions with members of both sexes. this is most likely the time when people decide what their preference is, be it male or female or both.

Also, some people prefer to be gay because of something that happened in their childhood. ive read cases where young boys had done sexual things with older male teenagers, male guardians, male teachers, etc. and were raised with this memory that this is the right thing to do or that they find this more attractive.

However, some stereotypical traits of gays are caused by genetics but may not lead to homosexuality such as sensitivity, feminism, or sexual curiosity. this may be where you get confused.

hope this helps

[The Flightless Hawk]

I don't think anybody knows for sure. its just the way some people are.

[DanielBoy]

Okay, I'm bi first off. I think that people are predisposed genetically to a certain sexuality and a certain sexual identity, but I think some of it has to do with your childhood. :D

[lil emo boy]

you are born gay... Simple

[zander]

no one really knows, but it is not a choice. if you think it is then if your straight just think about choosing to like guys now. im sure it would be very difficult if not impossible for you to do that. the feelings are not your choice, if you act on them then THAT is your chose ,but think about it. how hard is it to not act on your feelings that deal with you very basic things like sexuality.

i guess because i am gay i get upset when people say "you choose it" because do you really think i would choose something that is going to make my life more difficult and possibly dangerous? or that i would want to make people hate me?

i think because most people in here are cool with it that sometimes we forget that still there is a lot of people that get ridiculed, or worse everyday if people know they are gay. their friend and even family can reject them. some kids have been kicked out of their house or even been beaten by their parents. some have to go to some "counseling" to try and get them to change. No, being gay is not a choice . you cant choose what you are attracted to and the sooner people understand this, this sooner the world may change their attitude and actions toward gay people.

sorry if i seem angry, but i live in this fear every day. fear of being reject, hated, my friends wanting nothing to do with me. this is a real fear and anyone that thinks i just choose to feel this way has no idea what they are talking about.

[ivanori]

I don't really think you're truly gay until you accept it, until then you're confused.
You can be straight and sleep with guys, and not be gay. Sure that's extremely rare, but there's really no defining point until you admit to being gay yourself.
There's no rule, no norm, or anything to base sexuality off of. It's extremely complex and comes in many different ways.

[chris4]

there is no answer yet, so its up to what you choose to believe.

the majority of gay people choose to see it as something you are born with (a gene) and those who are against homosexuality choose to see it as an environmental effect (in hopes they can change it).

Not to say that you NEED to believe its a gene in order to be open minded. I myself feel like it might be a little of both and im bi.

[alex.c]

I think that it's what you were exposed to as a child. I grew up with two sisters who asked me to play barbie's with them and practise painting nails on and who were surrounded with posters of hot guys. When i was about ten I went on holidays to this adventure camp thing and shared a room with 5 other boys who, every night, jumped around naked showing their cocks, and thats what was i was first exposed to, not boobs or pussies. So i think it's what happened when you were a child that causes some people to be gay.

[ben...]

I think its something you just are, i know some really straight "gay" guys that play sports and are very athletic and never are girly they just are gay, and then i know some really Fem. gay guys i think being gay is just apart of who you are.

[Captor K]

WARNING: *RANT AHEAD*

Although some people say so, genetics do not cause homosexuality. its caused by each and every persons own feelings and how they were raised.

Are you kidding me? If this even had the slightest bit of truth to it, there would be even LESS, if any, gay people in the world. How do you explain kids raised by homophobic parents? They're raised to believe gay is not okay, so then why are they gay? Shouldn't they have been straight? And what are these so-called feelings you mention? Self-hate? Loathing? Confusion? Denial?

Puberty plays a big part in this as, im sure youve seen already on this site, it causes teenagers to experiment in sexual interactions with members of both sexes. this is most likely the time when people decide what their preference is, be it male or female or both.


I strongly disagree. My earliest realization of being gay was around six years old. Puberty didn't kick in for another six years, and it only reinforced the fact that I was gay. Many gays have a notion that they have same sex attractions at a very early age. And all teenagers don't experiment. I sure didn't. And what about the ones that do? If two curious boys experiment, and they both realize they're still straight, then what? I would have loved to be bi and have the best of both worlds, but no matter how much I want it, I am gay with every fiber of my being. My sexual attraction for women does not exist and it never has.

Nobody, despite what you've said here, "decides" to be gay. Sexual preference doesn't EXIST. For someone to have a preference, it implies that you LIKE both things, but you prefer one thing more than the other. You can't "prefer" being gay over being straight, if you always were gay never liked the opposite sex to begin with. The only people who might even HAVE a preference would be bisexuals, and even they are more inclined to one sex more than the other. The word isn't sexual preference, it's sexual orientation.

Attraction is NOT a choice, simple as that.

Also, some people prefer to be gay because of something that happened in their childhood. ive read cases where young boys had done sexual things with older male teenagers, male guardians, male teachers, etc. and were raised with this memory that this is the right thing to do or that they find this more attractive.

What anti-gay website did you pull this from? This little myth is used by anti-gay believers all the time, and it is denounced over and over again because it's so damn stupid. Explain boys who have never had any sexual interaction with guys in their childhood, or even with girls for that matter, and they still have same-sex attraction? What about boys raised in balanced and loving homes and still turn out gay? What about boys raised in violent anti-gay communities and guess what, still turn out gay - even if they try to suppress and deny those feelings? Explain the millions of gay guys who are married to women, have sex with women, start families with women, but are still gay (and know they are) and are incapable of loving the woman in the sense of them "completing" each other. What about gays who live in intolerant countries, like Iran, where being gay is enough to have you killed? You still think those people decided to be gay, when their very life is at stake?

How about the fact that the America Psychological Association, the American Psychiatric Association, and the American Medical Association (among other associations), are very clear that sexual orientation is not a choice. Mind you, these associations are filled with credited professionals who know what they are talking about, possessing much more knowledge and understanding about sexuality than you do. Would you say they are all wrong?

Do you believe everything you read? Can you not string together more than one coherent thought?

However, some stereotypical traits of gays are caused by genetics but may not lead to homosexuality such as sensitivity, feminism, or sexual curiosity. this may be where you get confused.

Stereotypes are just what they are, stereotypes. Stereotypes always apply to a small number of people, not an entire group. All gays are not sensitive; I know quite a few who are tough as nails (which seems to be a requirement when you're gay, having to deal with such social intolerance). I know even more gays who aren't feminine, who do typical manly things like work on cars, play sports, get in fights, workout; these guys are masculine enough to pass right under the nose of society because they come off as straight.

As for the sexual curiosity part of that, I'll call it what it is - bull. Straights AND gays all have a wide range of sexual curiosity, varying from fetishes, to orgies, to vanilla sex, to swinging, to menage a trois, or to more kinky things like bondage, spanking, or sadism and masochism, voyeurism, and exhibitionism? What about the astounding number of different sexual positions practiced by straights and gays alike? Everybody has different tastes and desires to experiment sexually, no matter what their orientation, and your attempt to pin "sexual curiosity" exclusively on the gay community is unreasonable and illogical. I'm pretty sure when my straight counter parts have sex, it's not just "man on top; woman lies there and stares at the ceiling waiting for baby to fall out."

Your complete and utter lack of understanding about human sexuality is blinding. Stop believing everything you read when you google it.

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