Wanting her to care and know.

[SecretHarmer]

Hi everyone,
Now i'm not going to tell anyone anything personal about myself but, I self harm, I'm not that bad well not as bad as some people.
About a week back i self harmed on my hip, and cut myself over 10 times which left a mess that i had to hide. I went my friends house, she noticed it and said what was that i quickly panicked and said my sister did it which she said she beleived but in the past i told her i self harmed.
Anyway, I do it sometimes on my stomache and I sort of want her to know so she can help me and be there but last time she found out which was a while back she was angry and didn't bother with me.
Also she must think i don't do it anymore, But when she found out she called me emo etc, now only if your a self harmer do you see it as a cry for help, and an addiction.
I want her to know, but she may just abandon me, i don't know what to do but i wish i could tell her and make her understand.
When i told her a while back, she didn't understand why i did it, i try explain about things that upset me etc and she never understood.

[xlovexkurtx]

Ah, the emo thing. I fucking hate that. It's just a classic symptom of not understanding, though. The first time you told her, she was probably really freaked out, because people fear what they don't understand, and people react to fear with anger. If you really want to tell her, and you're ABSOLUTELY SURE that she cares about you and won't stop being your friend because you're "emo," then tell her. Just sit her down and start by saying that you need to tell her something extremely important and personal, that this is really hard for you, and you really really really want her to understand so she can help you. A non-self harmer can never completely understand a self-harmer, but just ask her to try. She will be shocked at first, so give her a day or two to come to her senses. If she still is angry and mean to you about it, then fuck her, she doesn't deserve to be your friend.

[SecretHarmer]

I don't know if she does care about me. I always make the effort in our friendship, and she always cancels are plans.
I value you her, more than she values me, I don't think i'll tell her, only if she sees it herself by accident.
Pisses me off but what can I do.
Thanks xlovexkurtx :)

[xlovexkurtx]

No prob. Just remeber, self-harming is your secret, and it's a big one, so don't tell anyone unless they're gonna help you.

[SecretHarmer]

Yeah, Well rather than take a risk i'll just keep it to myself, like I always have. :)

[georgiamay]

Just tell her, and tell her that its not for attention, and explain to her that it doesn´t make you "emo" or whatever. Just tell her how you feel about everything. It will be scary, opening up like that is always going to be hard, But it will make you feel better afterwards once you´ve let it all out.
If she´s a true friend, she´ll try to understand, and she´ll help you through this.
It may seem like it won´t be worth it now, but once you do it, you´ll soon see that it was a good idea.
If you tell her, she´ll help you.
I doubt she´d abandon you, and she´ll atleast listen to you. Even if she doesn´t understand, and least you will have told someone about it, which will make you feel so much better.

You can PM or VM me if you ever need to talk aswell, i´m always here :hug:

[xgeekyrocksx]

your friend will care if you tell her. if you show her that you need her.
i mean, now i know that people who dont self harm generally dont see how it can be addicted, and why you would do it. just tell her and explain your not emo caus you self harm. Telling people is one of the hardest things to do. ever, but sometimes its gotta be done. i wish i'd listened when people told me that before.. xxx