Teenage Father

[Babobobo]

I know I won't be one, but I always have dreams of being a teenage father. I think I might be sick.

I want to bring a child into this world, I want to dedicate my life to them. To hold the baby close at night and protect it, to go to the grocery store and buy food for it. My family is not poor or anything, and I do really good in school.

Is this wrong to think of? Is it hormones? I really don't want it for the sex part, I want to take care of my baby. And having the title "father" and "dad" just warms my heart. Am I insane or what?

[tedgerson]

well i think that that's not a good idea

because most teens that have a baby end up droping out of high school


Don't double post, use the edit button - Kaius

[Kaius]

You've got to look at the logical side of it really. You're still in school, living with your family. If you drop out of school to look after a child you'll never really get a good job, therefore money will be a problem. It would be cruel to bring a child into this world without having any money to support it. Looking after a child is a full time occupation almost, its not all rainbows and smiles. I'm not trying to be mean I'm just talking from experience. The reason you feel like this is probably down to your hormones, it does happen sometimes. You've just got to think logical about it.

[karl]

It's a lovely dream, if that is as it stays. Maybe it would be better to wait till you're older to make it a reality

[Teenage Art]

I have the same dreams... -.-

[thatguy11223]

i want child too but im too young. one of my friends she has a baby and we are the same age we are 15 she had to drop out of school

[playa85]

I know I won't be one, but I always have dreams of being a teenage father. I think I might be sick.

I want to bring a child into this world, I want to dedicate my life to them. To hold the baby close at night and protect it, to go to the grocery store and buy food for it. My family is not poor or anything, and I do really good in school.

Is this wrong to think of? Is it hormones? I really don't want it for the sex part, I want to take care of my baby. And having the title "father" and "dad" just warms my heart. Am I insane or what?

I echo your dreams and longings...Hopefully you still have them when your old enough to care for one. In my case one of the greatest blessings from up above would the title of Father.....I get emotional just thinking about that...I think i would have a lot to offer that child....Hopefully one day, when im ready and the big guy upstairs knows im ready i will have one...till then,...all i have is my dreams....

[Rutherford The Brave]

I know I won't be one, but I always have dreams of being a teenage father. I think I might be sick.

I want to bring a child into this world, I want to dedicate my life to them. To hold the baby close at night and protect it, to go to the grocery store and buy food for it. My family is not poor or anything, and I do really good in school.

Is this wrong to think of? Is it hormones? I really don't want it for the sex part, I want to take care of my baby. And having the title "father" and "dad" just warms my heart. Am I insane or what?

I echo your dreams and longings...Hopefully you still have them when your old enough to care for one. In my case one of the greatest blessings from up above would the title of Father.....I get emotional just thinking about that...I think i would have a lot to offer that child....Hopefully one day, when im ready and the big guy upstairs knows im ready i will have one...till then,...all i have is my dreams....

If only you two knew.

[playa85]

If only you two knew.

Please share with us...what is your insight?

[Rutherford The Brave]

Please share with us...what is your insight?

If you want to scramble and work two jobs only to make barely enough to pay for said child. You want to give up every oppurtunity to hang out with your friends. Miss every chance to do something fun. Give up countless hours of sleep. Suffer emotionally, and to lose weight because you come second. Then go for it. I'm telling you because this world is no fun.

[Nancy Boy]

I kinda agree with winterfell.

[bidude94]

I know exactly how you feel to be honest. My girlfriend and I were talking about it last night, and well today I decided to wait until we finish school and I'm in the Air Force

[Captor K]

I used to think the same thing some years ago, but only because I thought have kids in mid-twenties and thirties was weird. Today, not only would I wait, but I really don't want children. I may adopt one or two later in life, but time will tell.

That's a very touching ideal you have, but you are nowhere near ready for a child. Taking care of someone else's child is one thing but taking care of your own is another. Babies demand constant attention - changing, feeding, bathing, and other such necessities as they cannot do these things themselves. Does waking up at three in the morning to soothe a screaming, cranky infant sound fun? How about when they spew puke down your back? Heaven forbid you should lose your balance and drop them. You have to be extremely careful with something so fragile, small, and helpless (one of the reasons having a child is unappealing to me).

How about finances? Children are expensive as hell, and the older they get, the more money they cost. You can't expect your parents to do everything; it would be your baby, not theirs. You will definitely have to work a job, maybe two, and to support the child, you might even have to make the sacrifice of dropping out of school. Will you pay for the doctor bills? The diapers? The clothes? The food? Or when they get older, will you pay for their dental care? How about their car [insurance]? The prom dress/tuxedo? Where is the mother in all of this?

You'll be tired a lot. You might not always get as much sleep. The baby's needs will have to come before anyone else, you included. Wanted to go to that movie on Saturday with your best buddy? Forget it. Wanted to go out to eat with your friends? Forget that, too. Kiss your social life pretty much good-bye, and welcome to adulthood!

It's not wrong to want a child at all, but I am strongly discouraging that you let this idea get the better of you at such a young age. Wait until you finish your education (if you're gonna go to college, go for it) have a job, living on your own, and is financially and emotionally capable of taking care of a household. Then you can start thinking about bringing a baby into the world.

[playa85]

If you want to scramble and work two jobs only to make barely enough to pay for said child. You want to give up every oppurtunity to hang out with your friends. Miss every chance to do something fun. Give up countless hours of sleep. Suffer emotionally, and to lose weight because you come second. Then go for it. I'm telling you because this world is no fun.

Yes and I agree with you...If you read my post, i told him that it would be cool if he still felt that way when he is actually old enough and mature enough to have one....right now is not the time but keep in mind that the ideology is still awesome,.....

[SWMG]

You should leave that as a goal for the future after you graduate from college and have a wife and all for the baby to be happy

[niko0202]

I used to think about it then one of my mates got a girl pregnant and just to be clear its ruined his life were only 14 so his parents like killed him he has had to leave school with no qualifications and his parents have to pay for a kid they hate and the girl he had the child with hates him so they only see eachother to hand over the baby its really horrible he is so sad and angry he even said once he wanted to kill himself. It really aint a good idea...
Also since he has a child he can't come to the all the Partys or get toghthers and he sees us all having fun and laughing about it on Facebook and he calls us up and says how he misses it all and wants to die...

[playa85]

Yea...definetly....having a kid at a young age is a horrible idea.....both for you and her and especially for the baby.....

[The Flightless Hawk]

everyone wants to be a parent, BUT you need to wait until youre way older and can financially and emotionally support a family. It's not a good idea you would not be happy, the mom wouldn't be happy, but more importantly, the BABY WOULDN'T BE HAPPY OR SECURE

[Kingoffury]

At least wait till your education is done!! Kids are expensive to take care of, so if you start to early you may just run out of money. I say hold off on that idea for now!!!

[Undie_guy]

Dude that's just stupid. You haven't even thought of how much work it would be or how you would support a child and how much you'd have to give up.

Also, how equipped are you for being a father? I mean really emotionally equipped and maturity necessary.

Everything you said in your post shows you're not equipped, ready, or mature enough.

[yeahitsbrandon]

If you want to scramble and work two jobs only to make barely enough to pay for said child. You want to give up every oppurtunity to hang out with your friends. Miss every chance to do something fun. Give up countless hours of sleep. Suffer emotionally, and to lose weight because you come second. Then go for it. I'm telling you because this world is no fun.

completely agree Boss DJ. Though it may sound ideal, it requires quite abit of money and alot of time which you dont have if you plan on staying in school. If we had endless time and money then that would be perfect but since we dont...

[Judas]

I don't share your feeling but you have to be realistic. There are many factors and things right now in your life that will disrupt your attention or care should you have a child. Maybe just leave it for a while.

[Randomchaos]

I know I won't be one, but I always have dreams of being a teenage father. I think I might be sick.

I want to bring a child into this world, I want to dedicate my life to them. To hold the baby close at night and protect it, to go to the grocery store and buy food for it. My family is not poor or anything, and I do really good in school.

Is this wrong to think of? Is it hormones? I really don't want it for the sex part, I want to take care of my baby. And having the title "father" and "dad" just warms my heart. Am I insane or what?

I FEEL THE SAME WAY. I dream about the day I have a little girl and a little boy, I just can't wait. It isn't most likely hormones, just probably what you are built for. Certain people are built for Parenting/Raising Kids and others aren't. I am sure whoever you end up with, boy or girl, will be lucky to have a good father.

[Kaius]

This is a month old, don't bump :locked: