Hurt vs. Weakness

[ivanori]

I used to be extremely depressed. I tried committing suicide once, but it was a feeble attempt. I did it because I was extremely lonely, hated my school, was hurt by my family, and because I was going to move to another country for a year. It really wasn't all that much, these days I have to deal with that multiplied by 100.
But the thing is I hate it when people say that someones life is easy in comparison to theirs after they tell them their problems. I believe that it is a persons strength/weakness that is most important. A weak person might be completely hurt by a small thing, and a strong person will hardly be affected by something of a higher caliber. So truly the amount of pain cannot be fully measured by the event/hurt but one needs to remember to include the persons endurance to such things.
Agreed?

[Rutherford The Brave]

I used to be extremely depressed. I tried committing suicide once, but it was a feeble attempt. I did it because I was extremely lonely, hated my school, was hurt by my family, and because I was going to move to another country for a year. It really wasn't all that much, these days I have to deal with that multiplied by 100.
But the thing is I hate it when people say that someones life is easy in comparison to theirs after they tell them their problems. I believe that it is a persons strength/weakness that is most important. A weak person might be completely hurt by a small thing, and a strong person will hardly be affected by something of a higher caliber. So truly the amount of pain cannot be fully measured by the event/hurt but one needs to remember to include the persons endurance to such things.
Agreed?

I think you can only gauge the amount of pain based on the person. Yet, it cannot always be true. A weak person might not care about one thing and a strong person might have an insecurity. No one is invincible no one can avoid pain. I tend to just bottle it up and stay quiet. I try to be neither strong nor weak.

[Aspiringanonymous]

I prefer not to use the terms strong and weak, as 'weakness' tends to be taken in a negative context by those who are unwell. The bottom line is that each of us is different, and respond differently to situations. There is no such thing as a small problem; if it hurts, then one should be concerned. Too often, when attempting to help someone, we get caught up in the concrete details and our individual bias towards it, forgetting that many manifestations can lead to the same abstract experience.

This is why I avoid describing specifics when I speak of my own struggles; no one will interpret it properly, period.

[Sith Lord 13]

I must say you're absolutely right. Some people could lose their entire support structure, everything they own, and still walk out smiling. Then you have the people who can be shattered by a few choice words. You must take into account the fact who the event is happening to, in addition to the magnitude of the event in order to truly understand the impact.

Take myself for example. I'm what people would consider weak. You should hear the number of times my father has told me to "man up", because to him, what I'm experiencing isn't so bad. Now, admittedly, he doesn't know half the shit I'm going through, but that's besides the point. When he sees me reacting to something, he tells me to cut the melodrama. Because to those who are less sensitive, seeing a more sensitive person react to something seems ridiculous. For people who feel the world more directly, the pain can be much worse.

I've rambled a bit, so to some it all up, yes, you're absolutely right, a person's sensitivity does play a huge role in how they experience life.