Bromance

[Andrew.6]

I am new so here it goes !
Well, I have this friend that I known since third grade (I am in tenth know) and he is a year yonger than me, he live in the same street as i do. Anyway the problem is that I do everthing with him and what i mean is like going to all the places with him we talk thru cellphone at hour like 2am to 6am. and stuff like that but nothing sexual. 'cause I like girls, I am str8 and he is too but I have a girlfriend that I really like and I she told me she is jelous of him because I spend to much time with him intead of spending time with her. and I think she thinks I am gay so ... do you people think spending too much time with him is gonna make me gay ?

thanks for the advice, help or whatever !

[Bougainvillea]

Why would they? He's just your best friend. Lots of people have bromances. I don't think anyone would think that, unless they're just joking around with you.

[lightkun]

Dood, I got a friend like that. We do everything together. Well almost anyway.

[Captor K]

I have a mixed gay-straight bromance. I'm gay, and my straight best bud and I are extremely close. We know many of each others' fears, deepest secrets, strong points, weak points, sexual fantasies, etc. He doesn't even mind me cuddling him, and he has yet to "become" gay (I only wish that were true!).

So now, spending too much time with him is not gonna make you gay in any way, shape, or form...unless you already WERE gay. But you said you were straight, and we have nothing to go on but your word, so if you are straight, just relax.

As for your girlfriend, I might can see why she'd be jealous. Just make sure you're not totally leaving her out of the picture. If she's being petty about it, though, you might want to tell her to slack off.

[Dean1]

He cant make you gay if u spend time with him. If u know your straight then your straight but if ur curious then thats different.

[zander]

i think it sounds like you just are close. i think having a close friend like that is a good thing

[KillerKing]

Just explain to your girlfriend that he's more like a brother to you but your going to have spend more time with her if you want it to work.

[NeverLetGo]

You shouldn't get mad or think someone is gay because they hang out with their friend. Jeez. I have a bromance and people just live with it... I dunno... Man crushes and romances are not a bad thing and your girlfriend should be fine with that.

[welcome_to_chaos]

no..it just means u have a good friend

[thedisman]

no def not mot if u dnt feel attracted 2 him

[DJK22]

of course not. if your attracted to men in general then ur gay.but trust me hangin out with a friend whos a guy ok

[Brandon K]

no it wont

[Enormous]

Spending time with him isn't going to make you gay, heck if that did make you gay, no one would be straight. And about your girlfriend, you need to make sure you are spending enough time with her as well.

[BuckyB]

Its perfectly fine as long as you let your girlfriend know that hes just your best friend and that you love her.

[Milo1234]

your friendship between your close friend and yourself shouldn't interfere with you and your girlfriend and if it does then i think you should talk with her about it and explain to her that you are close friends and should try and work something out

[Cazzman]

tell your girlfriend to stick it! friends are really important and it sounds like you guys are relly close so put him first. staying friends with him will not make you gay at all, you're just friends

[Jockstrap]

no it just makes him your best friend

[Judas]

I think it's just your deep friendship with him. You don't have any strong feelings so you wouldn't be gay.

[Clawhammer]

Sounds like she's being just a wee bit demanding. There's nothing wrong with having a best friend who you spend lots of time with, you said yourself you're straight, why should this make you doubt it?

[DanielBoy]

I am new so here it goes !
Well, I have this friend that I known since third grade (I am in tenth know) and he is a year yonger than me, he live in the same street as i do. Anyway the problem is that I do everthing with him and what i mean is like going to all the places with him we talk thru cellphone at hour like 2am to 6am. and stuff like that but nothing sexual. 'cause I like girls, I am str8 and he is too but I have a girlfriend that I really like and I she told me she is jelous of him because I spend to much time with him intead of spending time with her. and I think she thinks I am gay so ... do you people think spending too much time with him is gonna make me gay ?

thanks for the advice, help or whatever !

Okay here it gos. I am bisexual, but I really am not sexually attracted to black guys. I have ALLOT of black friends, and my best friend and I are like that. Sad because he just graduated and is going to be 5.5 hours away. But yea, it has to do with personality, and it seems like you two have a REALLY strong friendship. Find yourself lucky. :P

[bond3108]

I can see what she means but it's up to you. Just explain to her maybe?

[Billy15]

Friends are friends are friends and no, spending time with them (even to the extreme) isn't going to change your sexuality. I have a friend like that and I am gay (of course he doesn't know that) but even if he did, it isn't going to make him gay to just because we spend time together.

I think most guys find it easier to confide in their best friend (more relaxed, no fronts) and personally, I think I would be more worried about the gf who seems jealous of your friendship and is ready to call you gay because your not bowing at her feet and giving her all your time. Best friends are best friends and she has to just let you be you. Just my opinion lol.

[Alex_.-]

no, u can't "turn" gay you either are or u aren't....it's gentetic

[adaman1]

Alright, the first thing I will say concerning relationships. You've been friends with this guy for seven years, there is no way a girl should get in the way of that. Girlfriends are most of the time temporary, but friends will last a lifetime. I had a best friend (I suppose you could call it a bromance), anyways, his new girlfriend had the same problem with me (I am not gay, though possibly bi, I haven't decided yet) so anyways, my friend listened to her, and as a result my prior best friend won't speak to me, the girls already out of the picture for him, and he regrets ruining our friendship over a temporary girlfriend. Don't ruin your friendship, trust me, if you're not gay you're not gay, period.
Just one last thing. Always remember, Bro's before Whoe's man...

[GeneralCrash70]

No dude, I used to have a friend like that, were still just as close but we spend less time with each other because we don't go to the same skool, and our schedules are fucked, but there's nothin wrong with it. As far as the gf thing, you could spend a lil more time with her

[Nexus]

The only thing that is going to make you gay is feelings intimacy towards your buddy. As of right now, I would not worry about that.

Reassure your girlfriend.

[Jerkface327]

i dont think theres anyting wrong w/ u spendin time w/ ur friend. u guys r just friends. i think ur gf is just overeacting a bit

[LittleMonsterMike]

HELL NO i wish i had a friend like that and if your girlfriend doesn't understand the importance of that kind of a friendship then she doesn't deserve you

[TopGear]

Well Here I go to finish this off once and for all!

BROS BEFORE HOES!

END OF DA STORY!

[Daniel_]

Oh what I'd give to have a bromance..

[paul48]

lol. no. its just a friend ship

[Rosss]

I think its actually your girl that is jealous

[whatup]

spending a lot of time with one friend will most likely not make you gay

[Jmann]

Yeah I do it allllllll the time. haha But my gf then was also friends with my best friend who is like my brother and would joke around that we were gay but she knew weren't

[dkp123]

no, nothing makes you gay.. you either are or aren't

[ImCoolBeans]

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