Who Do I Choose?

[that1blondekid]

Alright so I am in a bit of a situation here.. Between 2 girls and I don't know which one to choose.

The first girl I have known for 4 years.. she is really nice and fun to be around. i'm comfortable around her.. and she's not "too popular" in a bad way. We hug often.. and were very good friends.

The next person i have known for about a year and a half... she is like BLAZING hot.. she is on the popular side.. and hangs with some people i do.. but not many. recently i told her i liked her.. and her response was very kind. :confused: she is very comfortable around me and has apparently said nice things about me.

So i would like some advice on what to do?????/ Thanks in advance.;)

[The Madness.]

Well it really depends on the kind of relationship you want. If you want a longer relationship with more commitment, then you should pick who you think can last longer in a serious relationship.

If you want a short fling or just to date a little bit, then pick the one you think will be more like that.

And most importantly, pick the person you're more happy with. :)

[Captor K]

We can't choose your girlfriend for you.

Katie above has some good advice, so definitely take what she has said into serious consideration.

Also, maybe it would help if you sat down and made a list of characteristics, qualities, and other such things that you look for in a girl and in a relationship. Carefully select and identify which girl matches up to the things you want, and perhaps that girl will be the one you really want. If a list is not your cup of tea, there are other ways.

Get a mutual friend of both girls to be nosy. Have said friend(s) to see what the girl(s) think of you, if they're crushing on you, if they'd like to date, etc. If one says you're a good friend, but she's not interested like that, then obviously she isn't for you. You've already mentioned that the second girl had a kind response, but you didn't really give enough details for me to give any further helpful advice on the matter. If both of them would like to date you, refer back to my first two points, concerning Katie's advice, and my list.

You could throw caution to the wind and just ask out the one you like the most (or think you like the most). I can't guarantee that this method will work in your favor, but nothing in life is guaranteed anyway.

Also, you could just chill. Keep spending time with them if you're uncertain about which girl to pursue. Given a little time, your attraction to one over the other should become rather dominant. Take it on the slow side and sort out your feelings. There's no reason to rush yet, is there?