Me and my Friend

[bvc123q]

Hi guys,
So for about 6 years I have been really close with a friend, and about 2 years ago we started jerking off together every week for fun, and about 6 months ago he came out as bi then had a sexual relationship with a other friend that i also knew, I then gave them bj's (sorry if this is tmi but i think its nessasary), a sunday oh idk mabe 4 months ago he took away every thing took back him saying he was bi he broke up with his/my friend, after that he acted super weird he called me a fag and a butt-pirate (IKR weird) and just wouldnt talk to me almost blocking me out, summer came by and we didnt talk cuz I had too much boy scout stuff, and i really wanna j/o with him or mabe stay the night but im afraid he will reject me and do shit, He used to be my best friend and i now feel like he is setting me as a aquatince.
Q's
1.I wanna be more friend like again what should i do?
2.What should i tell him
3.How do i go about asking if he wants to j/o with me?
4.What do you think happened to him and his thoughts
5.Should we stay friends? (I really wanna)

[DJK22]

well i think his parents or other friends found out about what was going on and told him angrily/harshly he shouldnt do that stuff. and he's probably just projecting the friends or parents view and attitude of the situation. But i could be wrong who knows. I think you should just talk 2 him about it all

[tinkergenius]

Hi guys,
So for about 6 years I have been really close with a friend, and about 2 years ago we started jerking off together every week for fun, and about 6 months ago he came out as bi then had a sexual relationship with a other friend that i also knew, I then gave them bj's (sorry if this is tmi but i think its nessasary), a sunday oh idk mabe 4 months ago he took away every thing took back him saying he was bi he broke up with his/my friend, after that he acted super weird he called me a fag and a butt-pirate (IKR weird) and just wouldnt talk to me almost blocking me out, summer came by and we didnt talk cuz I had too much boy scout stuff, and i really wanna j/o with him or mabe stay the night but im afraid he will reject me and do shit, He used to be my best friend and i now feel like he is setting me as a aquatince.
Q's
1.I wanna be more friend like again what should i do?
2.What should i tell him
3.How do i go about asking if he wants to j/o with me?
4.What do you think happened to him and his thoughts
5.Should we stay friends? (I really wanna)

Dude:

You use phrases like 6+ years, j/o for 2+ years. Like, How old r u?

Me personally, (and I'm just 14) but I think if you've been involved with ANYONE over a six/two year period, that you are just maturing, and kinda growing apart..AND THAT HAPPENS. That happened with my first B/F, but we still talk (have sex occassionally - because we just like each others bodies) but WE'Re NOT B/F's...and I miss him...but shit happens!
Bottom Line..the way I read this? MOVE on. Life's too short (as my Dad says)

I hope this helps in some way. Try to just be happy, ok?

xoxox

[AHSboy]

well i think his parents or other friends found out about what was going on and told him angrily/harshly he shouldnt do that stuff. and he's probably just projecting the friends or parents view and attitude of the situation. But i could be wrong who knows. I think you should just talk 2 him about it all

I agree with this, but i have another theory. I could be wrong, but i think he looks back on his past experiences and he has a different view on them now and is trying to put all of that behind him the best way he thinks possible, which would be: get away from any... not to be harsh, but "temptations". If he wants his space, let him have it, he'll heal in time and be ready to be full on friends again. Just be a good person toward him and you'll look like a better person to him in the long run, but don't be a pain. Also, don't ask him to do anything out of the ordinary for a while. One of my friends went through this and that is what happened. I'm just saying this from personal experience. I could be wrong...

[VTry007]

Hi guys,
4 months ago he took away every thing; took back him saying he was bi he broke up with his/my friend, after that he acted super weird he called me a fag and a butt-pirate (IKR weird) and just wouldnt talk to me almost blocking me out

1.I wanna be more friend like again what should i do?
2.What should i tell him
3.How do i go about asking if he wants to j/o with me?
4.What do you think happened to him and his thoughts
5.Should we stay friends? (I really wanna)

He clearly has decided he does not want anything to do with "that" kind of stuff anymore. It may be he has new friends, which he appreciates, who are not into that kind of thing. So his thinking is in line with their thinking. It may be his thinking about "that" stuff has become more clear to him and he decided that's not for him.

Therefore, you do not want to ask if he wants to j/o.

The only thing left is how to save this friendship. You want to talk about the things you are both interested in. You want your friendship to continue with typical communications and interaction.

If your friend brings up your past activities, then just talk about how boys are curious and like experimenting. But because everyone is growing, people will grow "out of things". Hopefully he should feel better with himself if he understands that his participation was just something that growing boys will do.

[bvc123q]

well i think his parents or other friends found out about what was going on and told him angrily/harshly he shouldnt do that stuff. and he's probably just projecting the friends or parents view and attitude of the situation. But i could be wrong who knows. I think you should just talk 2 him about it all
I dont think his aprents did i talk to his mom at walmart every day

[bvc123q]

Dude:

You use phrases like 6+ years, j/o for 2+ years. Like, How old r u?

Me personally, (and I'm just 14) but I think if you've been involved with ANYONE over a six/two year period, that you are just maturing, and kinda growing apart..AND THAT HAPPENS. That happened with my first B/F, but we still talk (have sex occassionally - because we just like each others bodies) but WE'Re NOT B/F's...and I miss him...but shit happens!
Bottom Line..the way I read this? MOVE on. Life's too short (as my Dad says)

I hope this helps in some way. Try to just be happy, ok?

xoxox
ok i guess and im 13 almost 14 and yeah we have been friends that long amazing right?

[bvc123q]

I agree with this, but i have another theory. I could be wrong, but i think he looks back on his past experiences and he has a different view on them now and is trying to put all of that behind him the best way he thinks possible, which would be: get away from any... not to be harsh, but "temptations". If he wants his space, let him have it, he'll heal in time and be ready to be full on friends again. Just be a good person toward him and you'll look like a better person to him in the long run, but don't be a pain. Also, don't ask him to do anything out of the ordinary for a while. One of my friends went through this and that is what happened. I'm just saying this from personal experience. I could be wrong...

Yeah ok i will think about that one

[bvc123q]

He clearly has decided he does not want anything to do with "that" kind of stuff anymore. It may be he has new friends, which he appreciates, who are not into that kind of thing. So his thinking is in line with their thinking. It may be his thinking about "that" stuff has become more clear to him and he decided that's not for him.

Therefore, you do not want to ask if he wants to j/o.

The only thing left is how to save this friendship. You want to talk about the things you are both interested in. You want your friendship to continue with typical communications and interaction.

If your friend brings up your past activities, then just talk about how boys are curious and like experimenting. But because everyone is growing, people will grow "out of things". Hopefully he should feel better with himself if he understands that his participation was just something that growing boys will do.

ok thx

[LittleMonsterMike]

I think he's scared he doesn't want people to know he's Bi and he want to move on so i think chances of your friendship being repaired are slim to non sorry but I've been in the same situation and i know what both of you are going through

[Judas]

1.I wanna be more friend like again what should i do? Talk to him. About something else. Don't let him get a chance to leave or ignore you.
2.What should I tell him? Avoid the topic - it may be sensitive at the moment. Try something you guys have in common.
3.How do I go about asking if he wants to j/o with me? You need to build up your friendship again, then try. I doubt he'll accept your offer at the present situation.
4.What do you think happened to him and his thoughts? Maybe he wants to stop. Maybe he wants to be different than what was before.
5.Should we stay friends? (I really wanna) Up to you and him.

[Fall3nNotForg0tt3n]

1.I wanna be more friend like again what should i do? just talk to him about something, his interests for example
2.What should i tell him... defently dont bring up the topic it could just push him further away
3.How do i go about asking if he wants to j/o with me? just leave it alone for now... if you bring it up you'll ruin your friendship with him and you wont ever get the chance again.
4.What do you think happened to him and his thoughts... cant say.. dont know him.. only he knows for sure
5.Should we stay friends? (I really wanna) if you put in the effort you could stay friends... if you've been friends that long its a waste just to through it away.