What Have I Done?

[The Harlequin]

I get the feeling atm that it only takes a short time for people I befriend to tire of me. One person I can think of used to be very inclusive of me, and I got to know his group of friends very well, and I felt like I was a part of their group... hell I know I was...

But for some reason, I haven't been invited to anything since the end of February. But it's not like he's completely dismissive of me, when I'm in his company we talk as if we hang out most every weekend like things used to be.

And it's not like I don't try to organise things myself amoungst the group of us, I don't expect us to only socialise at his house and only meet up if we're going back to his house, but it seems that I'm ignored.

I don't understand how if his opinion of me is that low as to exclude me completely, he can still talk to me as if nothing has changed at all?

I find myself feeling depressed, knowing that friends of mine are meeting up and I never seem to merit an invitation. If I have done something wrong then I'd be fine apologising for it, but I can't think of anything that I could have done to piss him off, and every attempt I make to ask our mutual friends if he is annoyed with me yield assurances that all is well...

But it's not.

On MSN now, my ex and his gf are at his house, and I was talking to them about nothing really, a light-hearted conversation, then all of a sudden I just get sent a

"Dude.
Leave me alone."

Is there really any need for that? I don't have a problem with people, but for some reason they feel like they can treat me like shit and get away with it

And they know I won't do anything to stop them, because every time I do it seems as though I can't take a joke

I don't mind a joke.
But I don't want to be at the butt of every single one...
Jesus, I don't know what to do anymore, I feel so fucking isolated right now it's unbearable...

[Azunite]

I am in the same situation, one by one friends abandon me without any notice.
If you have done something wrong, surely you would know and surely they would remind you somehow.
Worthless scum they are, leave them be !
Seriously, these types are the most encountered, they come to friendship and go. You can't rely on them unless you are one of them

[The Harlequin]

I know, it's bloody ridiculous!
It's almost as if they can't be arsed one day to make any effort - or even the far more likely scenario: I think they probably just want to feel self-important again, or see how much influence they hae on people by sudden exclusion.

I don't know.... You know this guy is one of the laziest I know? His family are rich and so he can't be arsed to get a goddamn job - I got employed around February, and his mother even tried to encourage him to get one while I was there...

I suppose the only reason he hasn't ditched this other guy is because they've known each other for about 10 years, and where I live it's last in, first bloody out. I can't WAIT for Uni ---!!!!!

Anyway, what's your story? I do feel a bit better after venting my fury, lol,

[Icarus7]

I am in the same situation, one by one friends abandon me without any notice.
If you have done something wrong, surely you would know and surely they would remind you somehow.
Seriously, these types are the most encountered, they come to friendship and go. You can't rely on them unless you are one of them

Yep i went through the same thing.


I have had friends who do the same thing. Some of them are worthless ppl that change according to the wind. They just behave following the "leader" rules. But most of the time they are ust insecure boys who try to "look mature" and change their attitude every time like a driver who lost the direction. Dont worry.

If they dont invite you, just relax and try to find some other friends.
Sometimes one should change a little of attitude to gain more acceptance.
I changed mine a little, that doesnt mean change your inner self but just they way you look to other. I used to be very quite, now i "speak through the ears" and a lot of ppl like that so i have became more sociable and thay are inviting me more. For example chit chatting more and having a good sense of humour are great "bonus" for getting invited to plans.

About your rich friend...try to be more humourous and learn some jokes, everyone loves to laugh and maybe you can get more his attention. :yes:

if you ever need someone to talk just pm me or leave a message on my profile :)

[DrkZ90]

That's how it always starts with the "friends" I have, and it just keeps getting worse with each one that does the same... and it's specially worse when you try to find out what happened...

I think it's very fucked up, and all I know is that, at least in my case, it must be my fault, since everyone I know ditches me the same way... it hurts so much to know they are doing something together and couldn't be arsed to invited you... specially when they are just next door and think that you somehow won't find out you weren't invited... and when they lie when you're the one inviting them to do something...

I'm sorry I really don't know what to do in the situation, only that I can relate to it...

[The Harlequin]

^^ That's okay, it does help to know I'm not the only one who is going through this ~ feeling isolated is by far one of the worst things about this past year and next year doesn't look any better,

It might be our fault just as well as it might be that they just enjoy to feel power over a situation by willfully excluding whoever they choose (:^{