am i a bisexual

[lamami26]

lady gaga is super ugly

[Voleurz]

You can call yourself whatever you want. But if your sexually attracted to boys than that would make you bisexual.

[Captor K]

Some years ago, I never thought I could be with a guy either. Then I was found by the gay bogey monster.

You could be straight. You could be bi. There's even a (slight) possibility you could be gay. Who you can "see" yourself with at the moment may not really help you figure it out. Human sexuality is not black and white, understand? It takes time and thought to fully understand where you belong. At the current moment, though, to answer your question, you are at least exhibiting bisexual tendencies. But that hardly means anything.

The lady on the television does not sound very bright. Sexuality is NOT defined by "feelings" alone, I wish people would quit saying that! Why must people dance around the issue of the "sex" part? As far as I am concerned, the rule goes, BONER first, FEELINGS second. You have to become SEXUALLY attracted to someone, or someones, before feelings ever become a factor in whether you can be with them or not. I have some of the deepest "feelings" for girls, and I'm not even exclusively gay, but there is little sexual attraction for them.

On the other hand, being gay, I have to have a SEXUAL attraction for a guy first, before any sort of feelings get involved (that aren't lust-filled, dirty, carnal thoughts at that).

[lamami26]

but when i say i could never see my self having feelings for a guy.. i cant... its weird.... i would just like them for the sex...... jst having a boyfriend make sme squimish....

[Captor K]

but when i say i could never see my self having feelings for a guy.. i cant... its weird.... i would just like them for the sex...... jst having a boyfriend make sme squimish....


I was the same way not so long ago: Guy + penis + love + me = hell no!

But I had to at least entertain the notion before I became fully aware that I was sexually attracted to men, and that deep down, I always had been. Whereas I had been in your shoes, thinking only of relationships with girls, I came to realize that my sexual attraction lay with males. I only think of guys now, although, sometimes I do wonder what it's like to be with a girl. However, my sexual attraction, and my emotional and mental "attachments" are for guys. So the answer is NEVER always easy.

I can't tell you where you true sexual attractions lie — no more than any other member on this forum. Only you can, and you will find your answer on your own time, on your own terms. We can only sort of give you general directions; granted, since no one person can agree unanimously on these kind of topics, we'll pull you in all kinds of directions.

If you have an exclusive sexual attraction to girls, you are (probably) straight. If you are, and you can realize this at some point (whether it be now, or three years from now), those "feelings" will reveal themselves. You will probably find a girl who you may fall in love with.

If you have an exclusive sexual attraction to guys, you are (probably) gay. Don't be afraid to at least give it some good, long thought. If you realize that you are indeed gay, you will probably find a guy who you will fall for.

If you have a sexual attraction for guys and girls, you are (probably) bisexual. This is probably the hardest of all, because you may feel like you have to pick "gay or straight" as you may be unsure where you belong. Don't worry about labels right now. If, at some point, you fall for a girl, then later fall for a guy (both sexually), or vice versa, you may be bisexual. Also realize that bisexuality itself tends to lean towards one sex more than the other.

We can all give you different answers and perspectives, but sooner or later, the only answer that will matter is the one you say matters.

[I.J.]

Trust me, you may think that now, but eventually, you might find yourself falling in love with a guy, but don't think of it as a bad thing. It's totally fine.

You might not act lovey dovey to a guy as you would to a girl, but it would probably feel more like a really really close friendship.

[DJK22]

welp this makes you bi if you are attracted to both boys and girls

[ivanori]

I think you're bisexual. It may be temporary.. it may not be.
People can't just assume that you will fall in love with a guy someday (although they might be right) because you might not.
Things might not change.

[JOSEE]

NO! i belive its just a curiousity phase which most guys go through. in fact, im going through it right now and im 100% strait and ive masturbated to gay porn and to guys i think about. ur ok.

[cristian123]

Think your bisexual like me :p

[DJK22]

well if ur attracted to both guys and girls then your bi other than that ur not

[Brandon K]

to me its just being curious

[loverboy69]

Maybe jut curious

[atlf2856]

idk whatever u wanna consider it im the same way as u, i wnt sex w/ both but id nvr like a guy emotionally, i dont consider myself bi or gay

[BuckyB]

It could always just be your hormones. If you have raging hormones its very easy for you to have sexual thoughts about guys even though you are straight. Thats just a possibility though.

[playa85]

I was the same way not so long ago: Guy + penis + love + me = hell no!

But I had to at least entertain the notion before I became fully aware that I was sexually attracted to men, and that deep down, I always had been. Whereas I had been in your shoes, thinking only of relationships with girls, I came to realize that my sexual attraction lay with males. I only think of guys now, although, sometimes I do wonder what it's like to be with a girl. However, my sexual attraction, and my emotional and mental "attachments" are for guys. So the answer is NEVER always easy.

I can't tell you where you true sexual attractions lie — no more than any other member on this forum. Only you can, and you will find your answer on your own time, on your own terms. We can only sort of give you general directions; granted, since no one person can agree unanimously on these kind of topics, we'll pull you in all kinds of directions.

If you have an exclusive sexual attraction to girls, you are (probably) straight. If you are, and you can realize this at some point (whether it be now, or three years from now), those "feelings" will reveal themselves. You will probably find a girl who you may fall in love with.

If you have an exclusive sexual attraction to guys, you are (probably) gay. Don't be afraid to at least give it some good, long thought. If you realize that you are indeed gay, you will probably find a guy who you will fall for.

If you have a sexual attraction for guys and girls, you are (probably) bisexual. This is probably the hardest of all, because you may feel like you have to pick "gay or straight" as you may be unsure where you belong. Don't worry about labels right now. If, at some point, you fall for a girl, then later fall for a guy (both sexually), or vice versa, you may be bisexual. Also realize that bisexuality itself tends to lean towards one sex more than the other.

We can all give you different answers and perspectives, but sooner or later, the only answer that will matter is the one you say matters.

Hey Captor.....Thanks for the time and the effort you put into these posts..I couldnt have said it better myself and Im grateful that someone has said it..Defining your sexuality is not an easy task, and to me, it goes way beyond penis or vagina. For example if your remotely religious, that plays a huge part, your familial relationships also influence your decision...In other words, sexuality or orientation is not defined by j.o. session or by making out with a chik.....Its personal, its gut wrenching, and its sacred...
I really hope all of this has helped....