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celine93
August 7th, 2010, 03:26 PM
I have recently been to see my doctor on account of revealing my suicidal thoughts and feelings to my best friend. She encouraged me to do this, and I told her I would- for her.
the only people I told about my visit to the docs was my friend and my teacher who is e mailing me over the holidays to keep me sane, really.
I received a call on thursday night from my friend and she was hysterical. She was screaming and sobbing and I couldn't understand what was going on.
It took me a while to calm her down and when I did she revealed that she was so worried for me. She told me she felt worthless and that she was partly to blame because she couldn't help me (she lives in Scotland and we only see eachother every few months).
I was trying to reassure her that she does everything she can physically do. But she doesn't believe me.
She then told me that her parents are getting a divorce and she's been suspended from school, and her mum has made an appointment for her to speak to a counsellor because she's not been eating and she's been locking herself away for days.
This has been going on for weeks- but because I was seeing the doctor and counsellors and god knows what else to try and get over myy SH she never told me because we needed to concentrate on me, apprently.
I told her we'd get help together and try to encourage eachother, but she won't listen to me.
She's refusing to see any counsellor or help at all until I'm over my problem, because she thinks it woiuld be too much for me to handle right now.
She text me last night telling me that she 'completely understood how it felt to self harm' and that I wasn't alone. So I text asking if she would tell me if she has been cutting and she hasn't replied since.
I've tried calling her mum and she just says that she is staying out because her and her mum don't get on so she doesn't keep dibs on where she is or what she's doing.

This all started when I told her about me. I was being open because she asked me to be and I love her. We're so close and it's killing me to know that I've done this to her and now I can't help her.
What if I have encouraged her to self harm without realising it?
I wouldn't have opened my mouth if I knew it would have effected her this way.
How can I make sure she's okay? What am I supposed to do now? I didn't mean to hurt her. Ugg!!

Kate

misery_business
August 7th, 2010, 03:31 PM
this happened to my friend and i though it was my fault aswell.

Don't try to blame yourself ok, you didn't do anything wrong, try calling her and get her to talk and if she is self-harming try to talk her out of it or something, tell her to not worry so much about you because it really is going to hurt her when she thinks your not okay, just talk to her about how she feels and try to get her to talk more cause that really helps. Tell her its not all about you and that she needs help too.
good luck :)!!

celine93
August 7th, 2010, 03:42 PM
Hey,
Thanks for the advice- I think my main problem is tryin to get her to talk to me. She fine and then the minute I mention self harming or anything like that she either ignores me or completely changes the subject.
And because she lives so far away it's not like I can reassure her in that way. I don't know what she's doing or where she's going.
She punched a police woman the other day.
I know she's acting differently and its scaring me- that she can be so positive towards me but then I tell her that she needs to help herself too, and she's the most negative person.
She will just not listen to me.
But I'll try getting her on the phone again- thank you.

Kate