Gay Friend

[KillerKing]

Rant Alert

Okay so i found out my friend was gay a few months ago off another friend and it was kinda obvious anyway. But i accepted it it didn't bother me what so ever. But now it is, eventually he came out to me and i pretended to be shocked but he knows i know now. And now it's like i'm not his friend. I'm best friends with this girl and so is he and i know gay people are known for their gal pals but it seems he thinks that he can only be with girl friends. Before he came out to me he would talk to me all the time but now he just uses me when he needs me and it's always him and her. I got no problem with them being friends and them hanging out with each other but it really F**KS me off that i'm best friends with both of them and they don't even ask if i want to hang out with them. I know it seems the girl is just as bad but she's not, she often asks me to go out places but he never does. Not anymore. We even had a picture of the three of us together and he cropped me out of it. I'm just fed up of being used by him and then ditched until the next time he needs something.

So what the hell do i do. I'm in no way homophobic, i mean, I'm Bi for christ sake but i've become so transparent to him because even when the three of us do hang out together, he only ever talks to her... unless of course he needs me for something.

I can't tell him he's so ignorant to me without feeling really awkward around him after or without him falling out with me.

What am i supposed to do guys?? :(

[misery_business]

Well he's obvs not being a real friend, i think you should just hang out with other people who don't just use you and make you feel like this, if they don't want to hang out with you or talk to you their not worth your time, you can still be in touch with the girl and be her friend but this guy seems really rude tbh. Or talk to the girl and make her tell him and maybe he will realize how he's making you feel, I personally would just get new friends...
Good luck ! :)

[Scarface]

Well this is kind of a touchy subject. Though what he's doing is pretty unacceptable. Maybe because he's really comfortable with his sexuality and has gotten attached to the attention of attention from the girl. The best thing that I would do and it's pretty straight to the point. Just talk to him, as awkward as it may seem it could patch up and won't cause a falling out. I would ring him up meet up with him and tell him how you feel (not abrasively) calmly. Tell him that you feel a little left out and tell him he's one of your best friend and you want to hang out like you two used to. It just hurts you and maybe you could hang out more. I really hope this works for you. If you need someone to talk to I'm always here. VM me anytime.

[KillerKing]

This is the problem though i can't tell neither of them about the way he is with me because he's still going to take it the wrong way and i get the impression he already knows what he's doing as i've kinda hinted to it.

[Captor K]

Hinting won't get the message across. As Goose/Ronnie said, you need to take a hands-on approach. You don't have to scream, curse, or Crucio him, but nevertheless, keeping silent is not the way you'll resolve the problem. It's just going to continue to eat away at you, and at some point, you'll snap at someone and it might not be pretty.

Talk to him regardless, even if he might take it the wrong way. Tell him to just shut up and listen to you (I had to do that to my bestie once, after staying furious with him for days). Friendship is about openness, and if he is any kind of friend, he should be open to hear how his actions are making you feel. Pull him aside and say, "Hey, I need to talk to you, and I want you to let me finish before you say anything."

Lay the cards out on the table and let him know how angry/frustrated you are, and tell him how the TWO of you can resolve this issue. Keep your temper in check, and try not to swear, as that may not help your case. Afterward, if he makes an EFFORT to include you and show you consideration, then that at least shows he cares. If he disregards you and your feelings completely, don't bother with him. Toxic friendships will only drain you in the end, so go pal up with someone else.

[Chill_dude]

Talk to them and tell them whats up because I know what its like to have a friend to ditch you for another one of your friends tell them that you don;t like being left out and if they start to be jerks screw them cause a real friend wouldn't be so cocky and rude

[Twilly F. Sniper]

You apparently seemed to be unaccepting in some fashion to him. I know this subject as well, I was like your gay friend, I actually still am.

[Sleepy Raisin]

Hinting won't get the message across. As Goose/Ronnie said, you need to take a hands-on approach. You don't have to scream, curse, or Crucio him, but nevertheless

This is just.. Awesome. :)

But i seriously suggest talking to him regardless of thr akwardness. If he continues to ingore you or doesnt care then forget about him, find a new friend.
Thats what i would do at least, also, why cant you talk to her about it?

[Brice]

Sorry about your friend. Here's my advice, for if you don't want to tell him exactly how you feel: Ask him to hang out, frequently, and if he can then maybe your friendship will mend itself. Or you could hang out with him and the girl when she asks.

[xXl0sth0peXx]

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