Mummy knows best.....

[Cloud]

or so she seems to think.
as those of you who know we semi well will know ive been with my girlfriend for the past 6 months, and everythings going awesome, now the reason this isnt in R&D is because its my mother being an over opinionated nagfish....
Everytime I joke about something to do with her in future and such or make plans for later on in the year shell add an "if your still together" to it or have a woah woah woah rant where she spews out her mummy knows best crap that Ill have atleast 10 girlfriends before i settle with one. And thats the bit thats frustrating the crap out of me, she thinks her lifes the perfect model to go from and i must follow in her relationship footsteps. Its like a kick to my face when my own mothers even more pessimistic about my life than i am when im the one who seems to over analyse everything and get myself worked up over the little crap...
so if you can be arsed reading that, whats your opinion
is she right or does she need to butt out like i think she does?

[misery_business]

Well she has her opinions but I don't think thats being very supportive, just tell her to not say that and to at least try to be more supportive :P

[nick]

Who know's whether she's right Calum. You know most teen relationships fail at some point, but that doesnt mean that yours has to. She probably thinks she's protecting you from getting too hurt if things go wrong later on rather than meaning to poke fun at you.

[Scarface]

Well it seems to me you're very sure about this relationship. So to me I would tell her to back out. As sometimes her experience in relationship and her attitude is not always the same as yours. They can go off on their tangents about how being young you go through a lot of relationships and arguments and separation and all that, but you seem well set that this girl is definitely for you. So as I once heard "Take what you want and leave the rest" meaning let what some of what she says sink in and let the other go out the ear. Just don't let her pessimism get in the way you know your relationship status better than she does. Hope things work out man.

[Perseus]

Tell her how you feel. Maybe she's jealous that you have a more stable relationship than when she was your age.

[Kaius]

I think its a bit of both really. I think she needs to butt out and let you both have the relationship how you want it. Talking of the future is healthy with couples that are looking to get even more serious as time goes on, but the other side of the coin is that shes only looking out for you. Like if you planned for all this stuff and then it all got blown away with the wind its really going to leave a lasting impact. More than anything though i think she is being quite unfair in her approach to it because shes not allowing herself to let you get on with your relationship because of her own past. I'd tell her to leave it be really, you need to see these things for yourself. More than anything, prove her wrong. I know the stereotypical teenage relationships are something that may stir it up a bit, but what everyone else outside needs to realise is that its not always like that pending you find that person you really connect with.

[Sage]

I think acknowledging the reality that most relationships are temporary is healthy. You are annoyed because it may suggest you or your girlfriend are incapable of sustaining a relationship. That may or may not be true, but it is irrelevant. She's not being pessimistic, she's being realistic.

tl;dr: She's telling you what you don't want to hear and it bothers you because it's true.

[thiscityisdead]

Yeah i agree that she is being a little unsupportive with your relationship With your girlfriend which is 90% your business and 10% her business.

I've been through this before, just talk with your mom and hopefully she'll understand your side of it all. Hope I helped =)

[INFERNO]

Perhaps she's commenting that many teen relationships don't last long and can get very emotional. In a way she may be trying to be protective of you and telling you to not spend as much time together because it'll be a short-lived relationship, so the effort may go to waste. She's not being very supportive and my first thought why would be she doesn't approve of your partner and what you do together (which she may think the partner makes you do). She probably didn't have many boy-girlfriend relationships at your age and because you're deviating from her life and her opinions, she approaches the relationship with resentment.

I'd agree that many teen relationships don't often last long and when they end, it ends in a big festival of emotions. If you haven't tried already, tell her you acknowledge this and agree with this (even if you don't) so there is one less thing to argue about. She'd probably keep her "mommy knows best" talk but by agreeing, hopefully she either butts out more or becomes more supportive.