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Azunite
August 6th, 2010, 05:19 PM
So, my parents are divorced when I was 4 and my dad got married to a woman who I was okay with her and I like her now it is no problem.
But my mom... My mom had a boy friend who i thought he was just a friend, I saw him like in only 2 years at once.
And my mum had another boy friend, I thought they were going to marry but that's not the story.
So let's say the guy I mentioned first is A, the other is B.

My mum says this " I was always dating with A, after we divorced. But you were too young to accept this so I had B as my partner for like going to parties together, but he misunderstod and thought something was going to happen. But I always loved A".
I go to a therapist every 6 months or some and she told me my mum would never get marry ( thats what my mum said to her )
My mum CAN marry, but her acts and this asshole A's acts....
1-Both A and B bought many presents to me ( including PS3 and laptop) thinking they could decieve me.
2-A is acting like a child to me now, he talks me as I was a baby and keeps interrupting.
3-I saw that A guy sleeping with my mum once, or i thought I saw, I was in shock so I dont remember.
4-And my mum uses my event of leaing the house in university as this " YOu will leave the house and A will move in, what's wrong?" She is such an oportunist!
I need help people, my mum lied me for whole these years, and I wonder now I am selfish or she is selfish.
And when I behave kinda cold to this A guy, my mum wents mad and says " He is my boyfriend and you have to get used to it!" and yells and yells and I say " Go F yourself" inside me.

What confuses me also, is that this A guy dissappears, B comes, B dissappeares, A comes.
I fear my mum may be some sort of a.. Whore let's say.

And one of the most annoying thing is that he is here like noon and he rarely leaves at late night, he always has meals with us and he usually stares at me in a stupid way and makes my name like little baby names ( like he makes "cengiz" something like "cengolino")
I mean, why the fuck he is always at our house? He usually comes to my room and asks stupid questions about school and my friends. Since he is in our household, every night more guests come to our house and eat with me. When I tell this problem to my mum she just says " You don't see them, you are always in your room so cut it! " I may be in my room but still it is very bothering!

Please people I am having a breakdown and this affected my lessons for the whole year. I need help from you people publicly, personally.
Thank you.

misery_business
August 7th, 2010, 02:47 PM
Well im not the best at giving advice or anything on this topic, all i can say is that your not being selfish and I don't think its fair she treats you like this, as for her boyfriend or boyfriends? Just try not to pay attention to it, or give them a chance maybe? maybe that would make everyone happy and you might end up liking at least one of them two.
sorry i couldn't be much help but you can PM or VM me if you wanna talk :)!

1_21Guns
August 7th, 2010, 03:45 PM
I need help people, my mum lied me for whole these years, and I wonder now I am selfish or she is selfish.
And when I behave kinda cold to this A guy, my mum wents mad and says " He is my boyfriend and you have to get used to it!" and yells and yells and I say " Go F yourself" inside me.

i wouldn't say you're being selfish, your mother lied to you, to be mad is perfectly understandable. she doesn't seem to have much respect for your feelings, and as long as she's happy really doesn't seem to care about anyone else.

What confuses me also, is that this A guy dissappears, B comes, B dissappeares, A comes.
I fear my mum may be some sort of a.. Whore let's say.

all i can put this down to, is she hates to be alone, she doesn't like not having a man there that she can be with. my auntie is very similiar. although she likes her independance, she still messes around with her ex husband and another man. I wouldn't say shes a whore for it, she's only going between two guys, she just isn't used to having to stand on her own two feet, so she always runs back to someone.

And one of the most annoying thing is that he is here like noon and he rarely leaves at late night, he always has meals with us and he usually stares at me in a stupid way and makes my name like little baby names ( like he makes "cengiz" something like "cengolino")
I mean, why the fuck he is always at our house? He usually comes to my room and asks stupid questions about school and my friends. Since he is in our household, every night more guests come to our house and eat with me. When I tell this problem to my mum she just says " You don't see them, you are always in your room so cut it! " I may be in my room but still it is very bothering!

he probably thinks he can just walk all over you, like your mother seems to.
it's perfectly understandable for you to not like so many strangers in your house, i mean who would?
he's trying to get along with you, and when you shove him off, he seems to treat you like an idiot. he seems to have about as much respect for you as your mother does, which isn't right. but with the looks of it, your mother isn't leaving him, so it's pointless letting him get to you that much, he has no right to ruin your education and everything else. and by no means should you allow him to do that.

Please people I am having a breakdown and this affected my lessons for the whole year. I need help from you people publicly, personally.
Thank you.

in the end, it will only affect you as much as you let it, although it's very hard to not let it affect you at all, if you just let the way they treat you hit you straight in the face, it'll make them think they can just keep walking all over you, you'll feel like your worthless and it'll just make you even worse. i'm not saying it's easy to not let it bother you, but in the end, it's better to look to the future and thinking about yourself, then let what's happening now destroy it.
i'm here if you need me, PM/VM etc.
good luck.

Azunite
August 7th, 2010, 03:58 PM
Thanks Nat I have no idea what would I do without you <3

And misery I wanted to thank you here too you two are the best :)

1_21Guns
August 7th, 2010, 03:59 PM
welcome hun, anytime :hug: