URGENT - GF might be pregnant!! omfgwtf.

[wavey]

Its just shit after shit for me at the moment, on the 10th of july me and my girlfriend decided to have sex, wasnt kinda planned, alcohol kinda slipped it along...

i wore a condom, it was perfect, in date, all marks of approval that shiz, but still, now my girlfriend is saying shes eitehr late or missing her period...

Which in real time, yeah, a month on, it was in the "safe to be pregnant" zone. im shitting myself, becasue if her parents find out, im as good as dead, we're hboth 16 WAY TO FUCKING YOUNG.
i dont know if i can cope with a kid, i'd probs suicide.. this is killing me to type it but i needed to talk to somebody, something, whatever.....

Im praying and hoping shes just a little late....
we condom did not split, to my knowledge had no holes, although took a little getting into it but still, when i took the condom out, since it was her first time, she bled a little, which made it hard to see if anything had actually gotten into her, but still, if she bled, wouldnt that have washed away the Cum?

Im confused, scared and not putting much more for my life out there,....

I will not live if she is pregnant, i will suicide, im too young and i know her brother, he will rip my head off, no exucses.

[Deathwingo0o]

The best you can do if it reaaly happened is protect your offspring, it's your baby, after all. Don't suicide, your gf may be too sad to live on by herslef. Good luck.

[wavey]

Well firstly we dont know if she is, and shes just moved, which makes it all the more diffuclt

She also doesnt know any doctors, friends nothing down there, so going to a pharmacy or docs is not an easy task without being noticed by her mom, her mam would ask questions..


And the only timeshe is coming back up is in 4 weeks time, and thats no good... because by then if she hasnt had her period, we know shes preganant 99% .

If she is, im dead, either way, not by my own doing, but from my parents, her parents and her bro who will literally kill me.

[Oli1994]

Well for one.. Calm down

Can't she go to the doctor without telling family? Or just take pregnancy tests?

Just because she's pregnant it also doesnt mean she has to have a baby. This is 2010 so surely there are ways to prevent it. My science isn't upto scratch but abortion?

[notsure101]

Listen, settle the hell down first of all. Go to rite aid or any pharmacy type place and buy a pregnancy test. If its negative your good, if it's positive theres ways to work through it. I went through the same thing you may be going through now. I had sex with my Girlfriend when we were almost 15 and she got pregnant because of the condom ripping and me failing to notice it. What ya need to do is think of what you need to do and keep away from the thoughts of killing yourself. If she is pregnant you need to talk to your parents first about it and ask them not to say anything to her parents. Say that you want to talk to your girl friends parents by yourself. This will show responsibility and maturity coming to them when you found out and not waiting until she started showing. YOU NEED TO COMFORT YOUR GIRL FRIEND. I bet she is way worse off then you are right now. Her life could be potentialy ruined by this. Not getting into a certain college, failing classes all sorts of stuff. Comfort her and I bet she will start feeling better then she is now about it, and in turn will make you feel better. Look at it this way if you commit suicide and she has the baby you will miss those moments with a child of your own blood. Plus what would your girlfriend say happened to daddy? I went through this all, just keep your chin up comfort your girl and when she is moody for god sakes don't piss her off. Good luck with this brother.

[AutumnDae]

Well, you did use a condom, which was good. When you say "hard getting into" do you mean it was too small? If a condom is too small it can cause it to rip or break, obviously rendering it useless basically. So, let's hope that it didn't break.

The only thing you can do at the moment is wait. Wait until she can get a pregnancy test, or she gets her period. Obviously it's a stressful time, for the both of you. It could be stress that is delaying her period, a move is a big change, so that could maybe cause it. Has she ever been irregular before?

In the case that she is pregnant, you have three options. Keep the child, adoption or terminating the pregnancy. In any case, you should tell both of your parents as soon as possible. Sit them down and tell them exactly what happened. You both were drinking, one thing led to another, she's pregnant. They will probably be mad, yes, but hopefully they want to do what they can to help.

I wish you luck.

[love_linds]

Lik other people are saying, calm down man. First of all if its her first time there could be that scare and paranoina but then everything will be fine. My first time, I thought I was. But I'm not saying she's not.
Second, you need to educated yourself and your girlfriend about sex before you continue to hav sex. Semen may not get washed away from the blood. Semen also doesn't "die" right wen it hits air. And You need to find the right size condom. Also, do not kill yourself if she ends up being pregnant. She will never be able to trust anyone again. And she will suffer serious mental problems throughout her life. She needs her babys daddy for help.
Now about her family, it may not be as bad as you think. Just DON'T say ANYTHING to your parents or her parents until you kno fersure!!!!!
I hope this helps.
Just remember that killing yourself isn't the answer to anything!!!
Good luck.

[wavey]

Ok, first off she lives 4 hours away now. (in a car, she moved)

So its hard to actually see her, heck i aint seen her in 3 weeks.

now this, its made me shaken.
I dont beleive she is pregnant but since she just moved she aint registered @ a docs yet, but ive told her she can get a free test.

She is ONE week late.
it was her first time
she never gets them irregular. normally to the dot.

The condom i used was a Pasante health care "delay" it had a NON-Spermicidal lube.
Wish i got one with a spermicidal one to be safe now.

and she will NOT go for an abortion, adoption nor the abortion pill (8weeks)

When i said i shoulda got you to take the plan b pill today, she said i wouldnt of taken it.

She lacks to udnerstand its fluid until a few days.

[DanielBoy]

I have a few thoughts on the subject. Most condoms have something called spermicide, basically a chemical that kills any sperm that comes in contact with it. Next, a little whole in a condom shouldn't release enough semen to make much of a difference, and the spermicide should have done it's job.

Next, you are very young, not saying that I didn't start having sex a 14, but still. If she is pregnant, and decides to keep it, you need to step up, man up, and take care of the child. You might have not planned it, and alcohol was involved, but the fact you had a condom means it wasn't exactly the most spontaneous thing, and the fact you chose to drink means you think you are old enough to make adult decisions, so you need to be there for her. Also, sometimes after a girl has her first, she might be a little late on her period. Tell her not to tell her parents until the second month, and the proof from a pregnancy test. Next time, don't drink and the more protection, the better. She can get the pill, and that with you wearing a condom can keep this type of scare from happening twice if it is a scare and not the real thing. Sorry for the long winded replay.

I hope I helped. :D

[Kris2]

goint thro same thing m8 - n my gf deffo is preg . her rents went ape like as did mine but after 3 weeks they calmin down n tryin t help us like sort out what we gonna do. she 15 n i 16 n like school know now so we gets some ribbin n stuff mut main thing is do ya luv her or not n r u gonna stick with her if she is preg? we like solid but it bin hard n gonna get harder when babe born n stuff but u do the crime u do the time init

[Kaius]

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