Is it better to...

[wowfan]

I know this guy at my school and hes gay and we kinda been like messing about but nothing serious, but he wants it to be, i dunno if im 100% gay yet but i like a guy thats in his 20s and i was wondering that if u r experimenting with guys is it better to do it with someone ur own age or older cause they r experienced and know wot they r doing?

[Scarface]

Well I would want to be with someone my age that way we have a lot more in common, plus that way it's legal that way there's nothing to be an issue. Plus if I were you I would want to be %100 sure that you're gay because committing to a relationship is pretty serious. As you should be attracted to them as they are to you.

[Billy15]

This is just my opinion OK? First off, if you are 15 (like me) and have sex with a guy who is in his 20's, that's illegal almost everywhere and someone could possibly get hurt.
Perhaps older guys do have more experience IDK (and I'm not suggesting that you can't be attracted to older guys lol) but (for me anyways) I think I would want my first time with someone close to my age, someone who has similar experience, someone who would be as nervous as me lol and someone who I could learn together with but that's just my opinion.

[nick]

Stick with the guy at school, thats a big age difference with the guy in his 20s and that would certainly be illegal here in the UK. He could end up in prison if you got found out and would not get a comfortable time if he was put away for sex with an underage boy.

[Captor K]

I'm attracted to somewhat older men (not bridging over thirty), but you're fifteen, so hands off the 20 year old. Stick with the guy at your age. I can certainly understand the "experience" appeal that an older man might have, but in this case, until you're of consenting age, it's best to stick with your friend. Experimenting is a great way to learn each others needs, desires, hot spots, etc.

Don't worry about being unsure if you're "100%" gay. People who are exclusively gay or straight are kinda few and far between. Don't bother sticking a label to yourself right now. I'm gay, but I'm open-minded and moderately attracted to the opposite sex. I wouldn't turn down a little fun with a close girl friend if I were feeling the mood.

Go with what you feel is best. If you want to pursue a relationship with your buddy - and it seems you already have a close-knit one, in my opinion - then do so. It may work out, it may not. Time will tell, so I guess the best advice here is, "Don't knock it til you try it."

[Tavi]

In my opinion I say you go with the one closer to your age. experience isn't everything.

[guacamole24]

Considering you are fifteen, messing around with a twenty year old might not be the best idea. I'd say stick with your own age; you'd probably have more in common.

[DanielBoy]

Really I would have to say who you are more comfortable with. There are laws in place dealing with people way older than you, but if you feel more comfortable with the older guy, go for it. I feel like if two people consent to something, it is okay as long as someone was not forced into it, or pressured into it. I think you might want to start with the guy your own age, you will find that everything is going to be more equal than if you date the guy who already finished puberty. Just use your BEST judgment! :D

[Icarus7]

I think you should think slowly and know exactly what u want... ar you ready to start a relation with someone who is in his 20?? isnt he too big for you? or do u prefer. The guy who is your age? some ppl like mature partners but that goes with a lot of responsibility from both parts and like Billy said. It could be illegal so be careful. Just think about the relationship. How can it be? Do the guy really love you? I hope everything will work for you. :) If you need help. Just PM me :)

[dbeazy791]

do whatever makes you feel good, man

[Oren]

It's always fun to adventure with your sexuality with someone who hasn't done it before. That way you won't be rushed into things that you don't feel comfortable doing, and it is a better idea being with someone your age for legal/control issues.

[bond3108]

I'd stick to then guy your age. What exactly have you done physically with him already?

[niceguy44]

stick to the guy your own age.

[JimSauce]

Someone in their 20s is a huge age difference if you're 15. That'd be illegal here.

And I would rather be with someone most like me; the same amount of experience and curiosity.