Shitty Situation

[WakeyEr]

OK, so me and my girl friend have been going out sence March. No one really knows except for my closest friends along with hers. For some reason she dosent want anyone to know until the end of High School (Starting seccond of three years in september) She says to save the drama. I dont know if shes imbarresed or if its really of the drama. I dont know if we should keep going out or if I should end it. I mean I love her, ans she says she lovs me. Where really close. I just need some advice on if I should keep with her, or wait or what? Thanks!

[XpopularX]

She think ppl will at her diffrent because shes going out with. i dont know how ur guys school status is but maybe she cant see herself bring u around her friends.

[WakeyEr]

Im friends with all or most her friends, and some of her closest friends know..

[AutumnDae]

Some people, just don't want a lot of people to know who they are dating. When people find out someone has a boyfriend/girlfriend, rumors often start, and it would probably come between you two.

I can see where she is coming from, drama is dumb, and she's preventing it, but I also see your side. I doubt she's embarrassed, more likely just wanting to keep things on the down low.

[JayTea]

I agree, I just think she is avoiding the drama. If I get a girlfriend I will likely try to do the same thing. As AutumnDae said, it is dumb and can ruin your relationship, and I think it is indeed a smart move to try to preserve what you both have.

[Kaius]

One of my ex's did this, and tbh it broke us up in the end. One of her friends didn't like the fact I was with her, and she'd ignore my existence when she was with this friend and pretend she didn't even know me to her other friends except a select few. It pushed me away from her and closer to someone else, not that I dislike that. I think really you've got to talk to her about it, cause it won't do much for your relationship if she's pretending shes single to everyone else.

[kyle95]

If you love her, respect her wishes and don't put pressure on her. There must a reason. I can think of a couple, as I'm sure you can too. The point is the combination of reasons could be staggering, so don't waste your time guessing, chances are you may be wrong. So be happy you're with her. It's not a popularity contest. On the other hand, if it gets to a point where she tells you to hide when some people pass by, I'd say there are some issues here and you need to have a serious convo with her - in as much as she's feeling uncomfortable, she's making you feel the same. There has to be some compromise mate

[DanielBoy]

Sounds a little iffy. I do agree that high school drama is BS with relationships, and the more people that know, the more people will try to split it up, drama is what high schoolers strive for, makes it less boring. They may act like they are not trying to start anything, but they are; anytime someone tells you someone said something about you, they are trying to start something. ANYWAYS, I do however think if she really loved you, or wasn't ashamed of you in some way, she wouldn't care who knew. You really should talk to her about it though. Making a relationship public knowledge is a decision for both of you to make together. Good Luck. :P

I hope I helped. :D

[WakeyEr]

OK, Thanks guys. I think I will just talk to her, and strighten it out. We are going to one of our friends Birthday partys so ill maybe ask her then. I really hope it works out. Wish me luck!