Self harm problem with boyfriend

[ellenreesx]

I have a very loving relationship with my boyfriend, whom i have been with for 7 months, but whenever I cut, he blames himself and feels like he is making my illness worse. My main problem is Body Dysmorphic Disorder, and yes he does make me feel beautiful, but I am just fixated on the thought that i am disgusting and that people see me as deformed. I cut because it keeps the focus off my face and because it makes me feel better and gives me a rush. How can I explain to my boyfriend that I cut for this reason and not because of him? He means the world to me and I dont want this to cause problems in our relationship, as I've been cutting since I was 13, I am now 15. Thanks in advance x

[georgiamay]

All i can really think of is just tell him. Explain to him that it's not him that makes you cut. Make sure he know's how much he means to you, and just just tell him everything you said in this thread. Tell him why you cut, that it gives you a rush and makes you feel better. Tell him that he makes you feel beautiful, just tell him the truth, that's all i can say really :/

VM me if you ever need to talk, i'm always here :) x

[Fiction]

I agree with Georgia. Point out to him you where cutting before you started going out with him and that therefore it can not be his fault. Tell him how he makes you feel beautiful, and that he actually helps not makes it worse. All he reall needs is reassurance.
Hope this helped :)

[enjoying_my_insanity]

also tell him it is a addiction in a way cuz youve been cutting for 2 yrs you need to feel that and its not his fault at all as the other ppl said just tell him that it is not your fault

[Mike321]

As everyone else said, just be honest with him, tell him that its not his fault.
From past experence, its just best to tell the truth and i'm sure he will understand and make you feel better not just him

[ShinigamiMaiden]

This is why i'm kind of glad that my boyfriend already has experience with it. I'm not saying i'm glad he does it, i'm just saying it's good that he can help me as much as he does because he does it too. I've been doing it since I was 12 and i'm now 14 but i've noticed how it really doesn't make my life any better at all. Talk to him about it. Try and make him understand that it's not because of him you are doing it.

[ellenreesx]

Thankyou everyone. After a lot of thought I realise that I'd rather stop cutting than lose my boy, as i love him more than anything, especially my razors. So I am going to try my best and give up for good <3

[georgiamay]

Thankyou everyone. After a lot of thought I realise that I'd rather stop cutting than lose my boy, as i love him more than anything, especially my razors. So I am going to try my best and give up for good <3

that's great well done :) if you ever need to talk just VM/PM me, i'll be here for you if you need me.

[Mike321]

Thats really good, well done
Good luck with it, you'll do it
PM me anytime, if you need anyone to talk to