Yeah, still alone...

[MattHolyman41]

I don't feel really confident right now. I'm gonna be 18 in a few months and I am still alone. Yes I had some crazy stuff going around on parties... well you know how it goes when you're drunk... but while sober I wouldn't touch these girls. I'm too much of a good guy and I look for the best girls.

But am I really worth one?

I'm just a stupid loser... what can a good girl have from me. No damn benefit!!!

I don't even have the guts to ask someone out.
Why aren't females those who ask their partner out?

Yeah, and the biological urge to finally get laid drives me crazy. I find myself staring at each and every pretty girl that walks around. I imagine myself having sex with them and then regret it because something like that would never happen.

I know that 18 years is a young age... But what I want is to make it while I still can... While I'm still young... while both of "us" would be still young and beautiful and full of energy.

[Scotland]

I don't feel really confident right now. I'm gonna be 18 in a few months and I am still alone. Yes I had some crazy stuff going around on parties... well you know how it goes when you're drunk... but while sober I wouldn't touch these girls. I'm too much of a good guy and I look for the best girls.

But am I really worth one?

I'm just a stupid loser... what can a good girl have from me. No damn benefit!!!

I don't even have the guts to ask someone out.
Why aren't females those who ask their partner out?

Yeah, and the biological urge to finally get laid drives me crazy. I find myself staring at each and every pretty girl that walks around. I imagine myself having sex with them and then regret it because something like that would never happen.

I know that 18 years is a young age... But what I want is to make it while I still can... While I'm still young... while both of "us" would be still young and beautiful and full of energy.

Dude, this is gonna sound stupid coming from a guy 3 years younger than you, but i do seriously know how you feel, However a little birdy told me that alot of girls preffer shy guys, just find a girl you like and start talking to her.. easier said than done but there is some1 out there for us all, you just have to try before you buy.

I'm sure theres lots you have to offer to girls, you just can't see it in yourself, and yes your worth it, we all are in 1 way or another.. your a handsome guy (no homo) just give it a go and see what happens, what's the worst that can happen?

Good luck, i know that probably didn't help much but im tired :L

[nickw_2013]

Not everyone finds someone during high school. I have a friend in the exact same situation as you, except shes a girl. Honestly, its not a huge thing to worry about right now. Eventually, when you meet someone special, things will work themselves out.
But I agree, girls should be able to ask guys out without it being a huge deal.

[staying_alive]

College is a new life. Most high school relationships end at college anyway. You'll find the right girl at some point, even if you have a million more drunken hookups to do so (welcome to college!). High school isn't the end of things, it's the beginning.

[RElk]

First off, you gotta have confidence in yourself. Girls can pick up on that pretty quickly. If you keep talking to yourself like that, or even say that out loud to a girl, you aren't going to get very far. Attitude is the number one key.

[ImCoolBeans]

i used to be the same way.. just gotta be confident and it'll happen. even if you think you cant do it just go do it, it worked for me and now im pretty confident in myself

[MattHolyman41]

confidence is one big problem... I don't know how to be confident when I want to. I just can't pop this feeling out of nothing! Especially not when I feel really down.

[wtblife]

I know exactly what you mean about not wanting to waste your youth, I turn 20 in November and I feel like I have to make the most of my last few months as a teen.

Make a goof out of yourself, make the first move, do w/e, you'll realize in a few years that you had no reason to be worried. Judging by your pic I don't think you have much to worry about, just go out and enjoy yourself and quit moping around on these forums! :P

Seriously though you don't gotta have much confidence, just talk to people you might be interested in and have normal friendly conversation, see if they want to hang out sometime or go to a movie or something and just continue the normal dating pattern. Using a buzz to help your confidence isn't terrible, you'll learn to be more comfortable that way as long as you continue to stay social. also parties are a good environment to avoid the awkwardness or just enjoy youth, nobody cares what you do!

[Rex99]

I too am a victim of having no confidence, but one day, when I saw the girl that I like look at me, I just felt the urge to do it. I walked up to her, and said "Hi". Later, maybe within the next 2 or so weeks, I plan to ask her out, and even if she says "no", I would rather be rejected than regretting not asking her out for the rest of my teen life. It is really a fight or flight moment for me when it comes to this stuff, and I hope to have my first gf soon. If not, I will just have to forget her and move on.
But, not even 1 fortnight ago, I would look at this girl and wish she knew who I was.

[[[chickaroo92]]]

Just go up to some random girl of whom you know a bit about. Make random conversation, and see how things go from there.
If the girl walks away and laughs you know she wasn't the right person. Or, go on a "group date" with some of your friends, and invite some girls at random to see a movie or something...
Don't be shy and don't be nervous. Try to be funny, and like I said, just make random conversation.

[Deathwingo0o]

Me too, but I'm almost 17, feeling damn lonely TT

[javs26]

girls like shy guys, and im sure you can get a nice girl :P i was in the same situation but now me and my girlfriend are having our 1 month tomorrow... aww fuck, i made plans with a friend for tomorrow... anyway, even if confidence isnt your strong suit, you can still find a good girl, cus i know im still shy and nervous around my girlfriend

[DanielBoy]

Yea man, it is a bum deal. One thing I can tell you is you have somewhat of a bad self image. Girls love confidence, and it can help you too. Just think of this: "To hell with the bad, bring on the good". Any time I am feeling down, and anytime I am feeling not so confident, it helps. :) If you get confident, don't let little shit get to you, you will find a girl. You are good looking, and the only thing you need is confidence, with those two things in your arsenal, most any girl will melt. I don't mean cockiness when I say confidence, I mean a good self image, and courage when it comes to weird, or difficult situations. This can even mean just asking her out. Keep eye contact, have a sweet confident smile, and use comforting body language to make her feel safe. If you have that, any girl will say yes. Stop moping about being a Virgin, and get out there, everybody has their first at different time. :D

PS: It is a proven fact that men who wear red feel more confident! Try that. :P

I hope I helped. :D

[MattHolyman41]

However a little birdy told me that alot of girls preffer shy guys, just find a girl you like and start talking to her.. :L

I learned from my personal experience and experience of other guys that this is never true. Once you're shy everything just breaks down. She knows she can play with you. She knows she can do whatever she wants. Aren't they bitches?

[misery_business]

I learned from my personal experience and experience of other guys that this is never true. Once you're shy everything just breaks down. She knows she can play with you. She knows she can do whatever she wants. Aren't they bitches?

That is so true but some do like shy guys and those one i tink are the best ones that are loveable and just amazing :) Alot of girls think they can take advantage of guys because their shy, but don't let anyone do that to you.
You need to be more confident in yourself, your a nice,polite good looking guy from what i can see :D confidence is the key :D confident but not cocky!
good luck!

[Azunite]

Don't keep saing " be confident " we just can't be!

[misery_business]

Don't keep saing " be confident " we just can't be!

yeah but with a girl you like your gonna ask and be confident if you really want her.