I dont know what to do...

[Ender]

Well, I've fallen in love with my best friend. In my mind, our friendship is perfect and nothing can make it better. Actually, in my head, he is a brother to me. He is the best friend anyone can ask for. But lately, alot of my free time is spent thinking avout him, in more than friendly ways. I even have sexual dreams about him.

I try talking to him about it, and he doesnt seem to care. But he doesnt help the situation much.

Im not sure really what im asking of you here, but any advice? Any at all would be appreciated.


If you're reading this, i :wub: u.

[misery_business]

I have exactly the same problem with my best friend :/

Maybe it's not that he doesn't want to listen to you or he doesn't care or maybe he feels akaward when you try to talk about it.
But I think this puts your friendship at risk, you can tell him or you can just leave it see if the feeling will pass.
I know how you feel :) sorry not the best at giving advice X]

[Ender]

Stupid hormones... :P

[misery_business]

haha I know right ! I hate how much I love her :P
But do you actually think anything will happen between you two ?

[nick]

Trae, we dont really know just how much you've said to him and that makes it difficult to answer. The impression I get is that you have said enough for him to have responded if he had the slightest interest in you other than just as a friend. But he hasnt done that. At the same time he hasnt turned you away and called you disgusting or anything. That says to me that he is a good friend but just that and doesnt want to be anything more. I think you should leave it.

[Ender]

I know that, but how. I dont want to think of him as more than a friend. But he keeps popping up in my mind, and dreams.

I've told him pretty much everything, thats the type of friendship we have.

[Art_dude]

Take a cold shower? hahah seriously tho... this is tricky...
He's clearly not interested, but has proven himself to be a good friend by listening and allowing you to talk through it. I think you have a classic case of transference. You have a great friend (who no doubt happens to be attractive too) and with your hormones a ragin', you project sexual feelings of desire onto him. For now, just stop talking about it and give yourself some time to cool off. You have to realize that you can not be with him in any other way, other than as a friend. Would you want to jeopardize that? Of course not. Start casting a wider net and you'll realize eventually that you were never really romantically interested in him in the first place. Just give it some time :)

[Ender]

Take a cold shower? hahah seriously tho... this is tricky...
He's clearly not interested, but has proven himself to be a good friend by listening and allowing you to talk through it. I think you have a classic case of transference. You have a great friend (who no doubt happens to be attractive too) and with your hormones a ragin', you project sexual feelings of desire onto him. For now, just stop talking about it and give yourself some time to cool off. You have to realize that you can not be with him in any other way, other than as a friend. Would you want to jeopardize that? Of course not. Start casting a wider net and you'll realize eventually that you were never really romantically interested in him in the first place. Just give it some time :)

Thanks. :)

After a long talk last night with another friend of mine, i've decided to back off, not mention it at all, and see what happens. :)

[Aspiringanonymous]

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