Physical

[cooldude123]

Hello again...

I have been with my girlfriend for over two months now, and in our relationship all is well. We see eachother everyday or two, and constantly text eachother. When i'm with her all is fine, the usual relationship stuff. However, i think it's its about time to move to the physical stage. Yes, we've kissed, made out all of that, but that's as far as it goes. I don't mean 'sex' but i think you know what i mean... Just moving it further between us both. How would i know if she wants to or if she's ready. I could just talk to her, but i don't know how i would say it...

Thanks for the replies....

[misery_business]

I think talking to her is a good idea, always make sure you are both ok with it and don't make her do anything she doesn't want to do.
good luck :)

[Marcie]

Personally, I don't think that is a good idea to even start that. I don't think that's a good idea, nor is it right, to go to that place until marriage. I've been with my girlfriend for about a month now, officially since the 23rd of July (officially meaning I talked to her Dad and all that) We've pretty much been under the understanding that we were dating for about a month. I haven't kissed her yet, and I'm not planning on kissing her for a long time, possibly not at all, unless I marry her... I just think that is wrong to do what it seems like you're suggesting..

[cooldude123]

Personally, I don't think that is a good idea to even start that. I don't think that's a good idea, nor is it right, to go to that place until marriage. I've been with my girlfriend for about a month now, officially since the 23rd of July (officially meaning I talked to her Dad and all that) We've pretty much been under the understanding that we were dating for about a month. I haven't kissed her yet, and I'm not planning on kissing her for a long time, possibly not at all, unless I marry her... I just think that is wrong to do what it seems like you're suggesting..

Well a lot of people would disagree with you. Personally, i believe life's too short, but that's my opinion...

Also, thanks for the reply misery_business. I don't think i'll talk about it anytime soon as things have just suddenly gone south...

[Art_dude]

hahah why Marcie posted here, I have no idea....

cooldude123: I answered this question a little while back in another thread and it seemed to be helpful - it's all about gauging reactions. A lot of people feel they need to sit down and have a serious discussion with their partner to discuss where they feel the physical aspect of their relationship is going, when in reality that's really not needed. I'm not demeaning that method by any means, I'm just saying it isn't really necessary 100% of the time. Like many things in a relationship, the sexual aspect needs to be 'felt out' and you'll figure out boundaries by being around her more often. Try taking it slow. Say you're making out one night. Try putting your hand on her thigh or stepping up your kissing. Anything that will subtly increase body contact. If she reciprocates or draws back - great! If not - that's fine too. Now you know what her limits are. If she asks you about it, simply say you felt you were at a different stage in your physical relationship. As long as you respect her and her boundaries than it should be fine. Hope this helps!

[Marcie]

Well a lot of people would disagree with you. Personally, i believe life's too short, but that's my opinion...
I know a lot of people would, and do, disagree with me lol. I get that a lot in real life. (as in not on the internet) But that doesn't mean I won't still give my opinion.

hahah why Marcie posted here, I have no idea....

What does that mean?

[cooldude123]

Marcie: Fair enough...

Art_dude: Thanks for the reply, i'll try that... Thanks :)

[Art_dude]

Glad I could help cooldude! Just remember to always be safe, cautious, and have fun :)

Marcie: It means exactly what it means. I don't see why you would post your opinion here if it falls on deaf ears - clearly the OP is fine with sex before marriage so why you would post an opposing opinion when you're aware of his convictions is beyond me.

[Marcie]

Marcie: It means exactly what it means. I don't see why you would post your opinion here if it falls on deaf ears - clearly the OP is fine with sex before marriage so why you would post an opposing opinion when you're aware of his convictions is beyond me.

Just because he currently thinks something doesn't mean it's impossible for him to change his opinions, even if it is improbable. And for others who might view this thread.
Also, even if it does fall on deaf ears it's still planting that thought in the back of their mind and it might resurface later.

[kyle95]

There's a lot of emotions involved with that mate. For girls, it's a much bigger emotional investment than it would be for us. They should not be obliged to make a decision because something that intimate can be hurtful to her if you decide to up and leave her after she gives herself to you. And what's the rush mate? It's wonderful that you have such a nice girl that's taking it slow. If you truly love her, don't play head games with her and don't take advantage of her, it's far better to deal with your urges privately then to ruin such a good thing with a lovely girl. My advice: don't do it, and even if she does want to, be a man, step up to the plate and tell her that you love her too much to ask this of her at this stage - she'll respect you more and trust you

[DanielBoy]

Just tell her how you feel. It is really up to her how far stuff gos, so really it all depends if she is ready. If you are lucky, and she feels the same way, there you go. It may feel off, but just say it from the heart, and it will usually work out. :P

I hope I helped. :D