How do I stop feeling so bad about it?

[average1]

Well here's the thing I knew I was pregnant a while. I wanted to hide it from everyone up until I was 4 months pregnant but I wasn't sure I could and anyway when I was 4 months pregnant I told my boyfriend and family. They told me I had to abort it. I didn't want to and I moved in with my sister for a while but then well I guess it's just so depressing. I just felt so like quarantined like an outcast. And then like I saw my bf one day in the store and like he talked me into getting it done . So I had the abortion that day. I knew I would regret it and now I can't get pass the greif and depression I feel now. I've never been this depressed usually I'm easy going quite cheerful but now I can't but always be on the verge of tears how do I get over this?

[Kaius]

Guilt is going to come very naturally to something like that, especially seeing as you wanted to keep the baby. Its not going to be something that's easy to overcome, but in time it will ease. Try to keep yourself busy at the times you know you're most liable to need support. Play games, watch movies or see some mates. Take a warm bath or a nap and just try to keep your thoughts on different things. I know its easier said than done. Maybe talking will help, is there anyone you can talk to about it? Maybe your sister for example. People on here are going to be there for you, all you need to do is ask and we'll listen. Feel free to PM if you need to talk :)

[average1]

Guilt is going to come very naturally to something like that, especially seeing as you wanted to keep the baby. Its not going to be something that's easy to overcome, but in time it will ease. Try to keep yourself busy at the times you know you're most liable to need support. Play games, watch movies or see some mates. Take a warm bath or a nap and just try to keep your thoughts on different things. I know its easier said than done. Maybe talking will help, is there anyone you can talk to about it? Maybe your sister for example. People on here are going to be there for you, all you need to do is ask and we'll listen. Feel free to PM if you need to talk :)

I talked all that happened is I'd end cry and scream cuz of the pain

[nick]

Its a shame that you let yourself be talked into this and really your bf and family should not have pressurised you into something that was wrong for you. Have you been back to your family doctor? Guilt after an abortion is very common and I would be surprised if there was no counselling service available.

[average1]

yea I have

[Rutherford The Brave]

yea I have

As a woman, it is not uncommon for you to feel upset or depressed after an abortion. Your body and brain are ready for you to physically raise a child. So when you break that connection you often feel like you killed your baby or you want it back.

[Fiending_the_freedom]

Call the abortion clinic and ask them for there therapy services. Every abortion clinic offers therapy afterwords if you feel you need it.
You're not alone, this happens to most women that get abortions, especially those who would have preferred to have kept the baby.
I know what your going through, I myself am seeking counseling to deal with my after-abortion feelings.

[Azunite]

I think 9/10 woman will feel very bad after the abortion, even if they were so eager about gettind rid of the baby. As Tegan said, you should take therapy a bit.

[average1]

yeah I think everything happens for a reason my bf left me for a girl he got pregnant if I would've kept it I would've been in a world of trouble.

[xlovexkurtx]

Just know that you did the right thing. When when you feel down, think about how much a baby would fuck up your life right now. School, relationships, money, everything would change for the worse.

[skate4life]

il hate to get my gf pregnant

[average1]

it's been 4 months since then I feel happier I just found out I'm pregnant I guess it's my only way I could really cope well at least I'm with someone that'll love me and accept that I could have his kid and he won't hate me for it. :)

[TheFame]

Its okay :)

Its not like you killed the baby, its like you prevented it from happening.

I think that was a smart choise because now you can plan when to have your baby. and when you do you will be more happier and your baby will be more happier!

Its for the best!

[Polski101]

In November last year, I managed to get my Girlfriend Pregnant. Ok, I was 14 and I've heard it all before about why were you like that at your age and whatever. Yes, it was a mistake to get her pregnant but it's my life. I remember the day I finally found out (December 21st) as I was away from home with friends and suddenly one of my closest friends heard me shouting, swearing my head off and I told them the news. We had the abortion in January and it was the worst mistake we managed to make. As a lad, it was the best decision I made but also the worst decision I have made. I regret the abortion more than the conceiving and in a way, I always wish I kept the child. I'm sorry to admit it but you'll never forget it happening and you'll always live it down. We had therapy, counselling but the best support you'll get is your closest friends and It doesn't help when you're Autistic either but I told my closest friends and I was supported all the time and even now I often break down when thinking about it but I have to live on and so she does and she had it worse than me - I had to be the strong one.

I hope for the best for you anyway. If you ever need to talk, I'm listening (Frasier quote too!)