Scared for my future.

[Fiending_the_freedom]

I am so scared of my future.
What if things don't go the way I think they are?
For the first time in 6 years I can actually picture my life going well, a family, a purpose.

I'm so scared that I won't find something I like to do.
I have nothing that jumps my bones.
I'm not good at anything, and I can't find anything I'm interesting in doing.

I have no release.

I guess thats my biggest fear.
My future.

I know it sounds juvinille,
but after my boyfriend had his commitment scare and broke up with me for 3 days,
I feel like I can't count on anything that I planned happening to actually happen.

[enjoying_my_insanity]

its your life and you can live it however you want! everything will fall into place and you will be happy with your life once that happens right now just enjoy being a teen

[Aspiringanonymous]

The future is my greatest source of discomfort right now as well, and it's taking me a very long time to come to terms with the likely possiblity of all my good intentions going awry, and the fact that the life I have planned ahead is straying farther and farther from the life I truly wish to lead. You are not alone. It is a horribly crushing thought, to be faced with a possibly hopeless path ahead.

Perhaps there is a better way, but I learned to keep the fear under control by embracing it. So what if the worst case scenario does come true? The experience of life is not about some end goal, it is about the journey, and as nothing continuous stays constant, there is bound to be both desirable and undesirable times ahead. One never knows - I personally know people who found themselves [again] in mid-age and beyond. Even if one screws up, it is never too late to acknowledge the mistake and remember the intended path.

Visualize a river flowing downstream. Each water molecule making the journey knows not where it will go, nor how it will get there, but it is content to travel with the current and be open to whatever it will bring. To the observer standing on the shore, it is exactly this calm, natural flow which gives beauty to the scene - it would not be the same if some parts of the water decided to openly fight against the current, despite knowing that they cannot ultimately overcome it.

Similarly with our own lives, put forth one's best effort to assure a desirable outcome, but if at some point one is thrown off the path by unexpected external circumstances, it is wise to make peace rather than struggle needlessly. It is true that sometimes unfortunate things happen to the most promising and hard-working people, but if it does happen naturally, the wisest course of action is to let it be.

I spend a lot of time communicating with nature, and it has helped lead me to a peace that cannot be found anywhere else. Be open to everything, because real, lasting beauty is found when one recognizes the beauty in all of existence - including the undesirable. Even pain is beautiful, yes, because it is a vital part of life and the human experience, just like joy is. And, learn to let go, to embrace all that exists rather than focus solely on any exclusive subjects of desire - for when you do, the universe will embrace you in return.

May you find peace of mind. :hug3:

[Alfred Pennyworth]

I know exactly how you feel. It seems impossible to count how many nights that I have lain awake at night, thinking about my future, planning out in my mind over and over what would happen in my perfect future. I've come up with so many possible ways my future can turn out to happen, and once I've come up with one possible scenario, I always find another. As Krezlyn said, sometimes, you just have to learn to embrace the future. Try to live your life more on a day-to-day basis. Try not to let the future scare you. If something does scare you, try and talk to a friend about it, I've found that it almost ALWAYS helps. They may not get rid of the fear, but at least for that little while, you aren't worrying. The last thing I'm gonna suggest is to look back at your past. Think about everything you did, and then think about how you've turned out. How those little things that you probably worried about back then affected how you became the person you are today. Good luck, and I hope something someone here says can help.

[Brown.h.j.223]

I try not to think about it but it really bothers me. I want to be successful in life and a career but I don't think I will be able to have the life I want. Now, all I can do is work hard in school and hope everything works out.

[Fiending_the_freedom]

its your life and you can live it however you want! everything will fall into place and you will be happy with your life once that happens right now just enjoy being a teen

As much as I would love to think that way, thats more advice for me about a year ago.
I need to start thinking about my future, this time next year I will be moving out on my own and entering university, and I still act like a child! I cant just enjoy being a teen because technically I am an adult now.