Kaius
July 26th, 2010, 12:12 PM
You've now reached your teenage years, suddenly life seems to suck, and you keep wishing you were back in your fun, carefree past. Here's how to deal with this depressing nostalgia, so you can have great fun again, being a teen.
Think about why you are miserable now, and what's making you long to be back in the past. There could be many reasons why you may feel this way. Has someone bullied you? It may be the whole workload that school or college is giving you, or the fact that you are you missing your old friends and memories. It may simply be the major change you're experiencing as a teenager. You must discover the reasons for your sadness if you want to get over it. Try writing a letter to yourself, or someone else with the intention of them reading it, with the reasons why you’re feeling like this. It sometimes helps knowing someone will be reading it and may be able to give you some help.
If you really don't know what it is that’s getting you down, why not write up a diary with your current thoughts and feelings every week or so. When looking back upon diary entries, people are usually surprised by what they thought during the time. And sometimes it helps you find a pattern on the days you’re down and so you’re able to pin point what the cause may be.
Accept your present situation. You’re at the age now where life is going to require a bit more work than you used to have – That’s all part of growing up. It’s a common thing to wish for the past and missing the things you’re used to. Change is a part of growing up, and believe it or not you aren’t the only person that resents it. Everyone you’re age is going through the same sort of change, maybe not the same experiences but the basics are there. What’s done is done, moving on is the best way to help yourself
Look through the list you created. Decide upon which complaints are realistic, and which ones are unachievable. For example “I want to be 3 again” is something that may seem appealing because of the lack of responsibility but it isn’t going to happen. Whereas “I want to be 7 again because I miss having friends” Now that, there is something you could do about it. Look at the possibilities there are to achieve these things. Join a club at school for something you’re interested in. Meeting people with the same interests as you may spark up a friendship you didn’t expect – Everything is worth a try.
There are many things that could be on that list, even though you can’t see a way through them there’s always a light at the end, however dark the tunnel is.
Ditch all those impossible whims from the list, and try to fix the possible ones! It's a total waste of time mourning over it. Attempt to make the possible ones real. Try to make some new friends, meet up with old ones. Watch your favourite childhood movies, look through old photos or home video’s, and most importantly, SMILE, there are only 7 years of your teenage life, make them as happy as possible
For those of you that are unable to reach old friends and memories. Whether its because you’ve moved away from home or because those people have past away or moved on. It doesn’t mean you have to live in darkness for the rest of your life, there’s always a solution. Try seeking out a school counsellor, or a professional one based away from the school. They’re easy to talk to, and will not let out any information to anyone unless you’ve asked them to. (They will only do this without your consent if they think your health is in danger.). If this doesn’t appeal to you, try talking to someone you trust, whether its friends, family or a family friend. If you feel you can’t talk to them verbally try writing a letter to them or an email and leave it where you know they will easily get hold of it.
Stick with people who are friendly and can help you. If you are still with some people who were with you during the times you now long for, talk it over with them. They might be feeling the same way. Talking it over helps whether you realise it or not. If you aren’t then try some of the things above, there are always people, whether they are here on VT or in real life, to help you and they’ll go to their best lengths to do so. Don’t sit in darkness anymore, you’re worth more than that.
Disclaimer: There are many things teenagers go through that are not suggested in this post, but it doesn’t mean giving these things a shot won’t help the situation. Give them a try, you may be surprised by the outcome of it.
Based on a few points from here (http://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Teenage-Depression-and-Nostalgia) (That have been rewritten and added to by me)
Think about why you are miserable now, and what's making you long to be back in the past. There could be many reasons why you may feel this way. Has someone bullied you? It may be the whole workload that school or college is giving you, or the fact that you are you missing your old friends and memories. It may simply be the major change you're experiencing as a teenager. You must discover the reasons for your sadness if you want to get over it. Try writing a letter to yourself, or someone else with the intention of them reading it, with the reasons why you’re feeling like this. It sometimes helps knowing someone will be reading it and may be able to give you some help.
If you really don't know what it is that’s getting you down, why not write up a diary with your current thoughts and feelings every week or so. When looking back upon diary entries, people are usually surprised by what they thought during the time. And sometimes it helps you find a pattern on the days you’re down and so you’re able to pin point what the cause may be.
Accept your present situation. You’re at the age now where life is going to require a bit more work than you used to have – That’s all part of growing up. It’s a common thing to wish for the past and missing the things you’re used to. Change is a part of growing up, and believe it or not you aren’t the only person that resents it. Everyone you’re age is going through the same sort of change, maybe not the same experiences but the basics are there. What’s done is done, moving on is the best way to help yourself
Look through the list you created. Decide upon which complaints are realistic, and which ones are unachievable. For example “I want to be 3 again” is something that may seem appealing because of the lack of responsibility but it isn’t going to happen. Whereas “I want to be 7 again because I miss having friends” Now that, there is something you could do about it. Look at the possibilities there are to achieve these things. Join a club at school for something you’re interested in. Meeting people with the same interests as you may spark up a friendship you didn’t expect – Everything is worth a try.
There are many things that could be on that list, even though you can’t see a way through them there’s always a light at the end, however dark the tunnel is.
Ditch all those impossible whims from the list, and try to fix the possible ones! It's a total waste of time mourning over it. Attempt to make the possible ones real. Try to make some new friends, meet up with old ones. Watch your favourite childhood movies, look through old photos or home video’s, and most importantly, SMILE, there are only 7 years of your teenage life, make them as happy as possible
For those of you that are unable to reach old friends and memories. Whether its because you’ve moved away from home or because those people have past away or moved on. It doesn’t mean you have to live in darkness for the rest of your life, there’s always a solution. Try seeking out a school counsellor, or a professional one based away from the school. They’re easy to talk to, and will not let out any information to anyone unless you’ve asked them to. (They will only do this without your consent if they think your health is in danger.). If this doesn’t appeal to you, try talking to someone you trust, whether its friends, family or a family friend. If you feel you can’t talk to them verbally try writing a letter to them or an email and leave it where you know they will easily get hold of it.
Stick with people who are friendly and can help you. If you are still with some people who were with you during the times you now long for, talk it over with them. They might be feeling the same way. Talking it over helps whether you realise it or not. If you aren’t then try some of the things above, there are always people, whether they are here on VT or in real life, to help you and they’ll go to their best lengths to do so. Don’t sit in darkness anymore, you’re worth more than that.
Disclaimer: There are many things teenagers go through that are not suggested in this post, but it doesn’t mean giving these things a shot won’t help the situation. Give them a try, you may be surprised by the outcome of it.
Based on a few points from here (http://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Teenage-Depression-and-Nostalgia) (That have been rewritten and added to by me)