ugh.

[beedubs]

Im soo confused. I love my boyfriend, i really do. but i dont want to date him anymore. idk why its just like were looking for different things in a relationship i feel. weve been dating for almost a year, but my feeling are changing. last night we got into a fight, and when we finaly talked about it he told me alot of other things that happened last night with his family. he told me that without me he would litteraly have nobody. now i still feel like i dont want to date him, but if i break up with him it will be soo bad for him. im not sure what to do. i know i have to tell him how i really feel, but every time i have the opportunity i cant get the courage to. see hes my first boyfriend and i feel like i need to try different things. i want to experiance other relationships. i do love him and i always will, its just i dont want to be with him. idk its just so confusing and i dont want to hurt him. i really wanna just cry and hide from the world. please help

[emt.Cam]

Brian, a lot of us know what you're experiencing. Your first love is such a huge impact on your life and your heart. What you're feeling is not uncommon in the least. There is such a small percentage of couples -gay or straight- that stay with their first love: those that do are pretty remarkable, in my opinion. Wanting to experience other relationship(s) is normal especially since you're already hanging out with another person. This is NOT wrong unless you're doing stuff while you're with this person, but you're allowed to have friends. Listen, you need to do what's best for YOU. I'm sure you already know, but it's going to be hard for you and for him. Life is a journey full of decisions and yes, heartbreak. It's part of life and no one likes to go through it. It makes one stronger in the long run, regardless of the pain while recovering. It'll be much easier on yourself if you tell him sooner rather than later. Like I've said, this is about you. I'm sure you'll love him for a long time in ways, and you'll always have the connection you share. If things are meant to be, then you'll find your way back to each other. Take care and if you need anything, drop me a PM. Have a good night Brian.

[beedubs]

forget the part about me talking to someone else. and thanks cameron that really helped. its just hard because i know i can do it, i just dont want to crush him. i know i need to do what best for me but right now it will be soo hard on him. i thinking of just telling him that i still love him and always will and i want to remain good friends. idk its very confusing.

[emt.Cam]

That's understandable Brian. I wish you the best of luck and if you have any more question, don't hesitate to send me a PM or something.

[nick]

Brian, a lot of us know what you're experiencing. Your first love is such a huge impact on your life and your heart. What you're feeling is not uncommon in the least. There is such a small percentage of couples -gay or straight- that stay with their first love: those that do are pretty remarkable, in my opinion. Wanting to experience other relationship(s) is normal especially since you're already hanging out with another person. This is NOT wrong unless you're doing stuff while you're with this person, but you're allowed to have friends. Listen, you need to do what's best for YOU. I'm sure you already know, but it's going to be hard for you and for him. Life is a journey full of decisions and yes, heartbreak. It's part of life and no one likes to go through it. It makes one stronger in the long run, regardless of the pain while recovering. It'll be much easier on yourself if you tell him sooner rather than later. Like I've said, this is about you. I'm sure you'll love him for a long time in ways, and you'll always have the connection you share. If things are meant to be, then you'll find your way back to each other. Take care and if you need anything, drop me a PM. Have a good night Brian.
Brian its not often I admit that someone has said it all but that is such a great answer from Cameron (+rep). It is difficult to deal with these things but sometimes you just know its time to move on and in the end its kinder to your boyfriend to admit it than to just drag it out.

You can talk to me anytime too.

[beedubs]

Thanks for the great advice guys! Very helpful :)

[Babobobo]

Explain to him that you're bored of doing the same old same old, maybe he'll feel the same way and do different stuff with you. He's probably going through some rough times and this isn't the best time to break up.

[beedubs]

i did explain last night to him. and well today we did the same shit and he annoyed me just the same. he is going through rough times, but he seems stable. things recently got better with his fam, he was just having a bad day.. and the bad thing is, we keep getting closer and closer to our 1 year (august 17) and idk what to do if i should do it before or after or idk!!

[Noah_101]

Wow, i dont envy u. Ending ur first love is always hard, because it was ur first. The only advice I can give u is be honest with him and dont string him along. Its gonna be hard, i know that from experience (i was in the same position as ur b/f). It will also be hard to be just friend atleast in the beginning. But I understand how u wanna have new experiences and date other people. Good Luck :)
If u ever wanna talk, PM me

[beedubs]

thanks cute dude :)

[ImCoolBeans]

do it now, too close to that could send a bad message

[kyle95]

Mate this can't be a one-way relationship. It's seems you're the considerate one. Quit sacrificing yourself and move on. He can't hold you hostage and pull on your heart strings. A relationship is based on the strengths of the people involved, not on the manipulation of the more decent person.

[DanielBoy]

Again, as you said, you need to tell him how you feel. You do need to know that everything about a relationship is about timing. You can't tell him something crushing like that when he is on the edge of crisis, it is your job to be there for him. Maybe give it another month, and if you feel the same way, then you need to tell him. I know I always preach about being open, but this is a case where timing trumps being open with your partner. :\

I hope I helped. :D