Coming out to my aunt.

[oscarlichen]

Well, my aunt's a lesbian. She's asked me if I was gay before and i've had girlfriends before so she thinks i'm completely straight. Should I and when should I come out to her? I think she'll get mad at me but I don't know why.(P.S my family's kinda homophobic, even my grandma and dad don't really like my aunt because she is gay. But I like her the most.)

[ackmedsgirl666]

well well well my friend you have come to a fork in the road
of course i think you should most definately come out to your aunt. atleast she will be able to understand you and what you are choosing to do and maybe be able to support you and give you some advice to help you along. yes yes, coming out is never easy. i still rememer when i came out to my family. they were most unimpressed because they are all old fashioned. but if you are willing to tell your aunt then go for it. if your gay or bi whatever you choose you should never let other ppl choose your paths for you. if and when you decide to tell the rest of your family they may atfirst look at you oddly but if they love you enough they should eventually learn to accept you for what you are
hope this helps and feel free to pm me if you like

[MisterE]

if she is who you feel most confortable coming out to that is great! just wait for a time when you feel you would like to, when you alone probably would be best, if you find you still want to wait then wait, if not go for it,
i wish you the best of luck :D

[Skeln]

I agree with the two above that your aunt would probably be a great person to come out to. I would probably keep it a secret between the two of you for awhile so that you can slowly prepare yourself emotionally if you ever want to cme out to the rest of your family. It can be a very scary process, but it should work out knowing that they are your family and should be there to help you.

[XpopularX]

Tell her, she can be your support. And when you can have an adult on your side you can handle your life better. Try giving ger little hint but if she dose not get them tell straight up. I don't think she will get mad because shes know what your going through.










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[thepieman]

I'd be surprised if she went mad, because that would simply make her a hypocrite. I'd tell her, she should understand, and as suggested above, keep it between the two of you for a while until you feel it is the right time to tell others.

[oscarlichen]

Okay everyone, I told her, and some more people. Here's the complete story..http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=80021

[DanielBoy]

I think you should, being open with at least one person feels good! She will not be mad, she is the same way, and will probably be happy you came to her first, so go for it. :D