Marriage

[oscarlichen]

Am I the only one that does NOT want to get married, ever? Not just because it would be illegal or something in some states(for me) but I just never want to get married, really.

[karl]

Illegal now or when you're legally an adult? Me? I'm not specially interested

[kidkizzet]

I don't want to get married. I was the only one in class who didn't put their hand when we were asked who wanted to get married someday.

[Fruit_Tart.]

hmmm... i think marriage is a great thing for you and your lover. it's jus a step in your life that makes you and your lover "one". i do want to get married but i prolly won't or just won't while im still around my current family just cuz im considering of marrying a guy more than a girl.

[The Dark Lord]

I think marriage is becoming obsolete and if you love someone then you don't need a piece of paper telling you so.

[Fruit_Tart.]

I think marriage is becoming obsolete and if you love someone then you don't need a piece of paper telling you so.
i didn't mean just the paper. the ceremony. i dunno... the feeling of knowing that you guys are committed to each other.

[love_linds]

That's understandable. Sounds pretty normal to me.
I'm kind of indecicive about the whole marriage thing too. I mean, I kno it sounds lame but I would LOVE to marry my boyfriend that I hav now but I feel most marriages end in divorce. And that's wat makes me not want to get married. I kno WAY to many couples who got divorced. For whatever reason.
Its really sad...

[Sage]

it's jus a step in your life that makes you and your lover "one".

Says who? Signing and a piece of paper and throwing some righteous ceremony is pretentious and asinine and doesn't prove anything to anybody. If you love someone, that should be enough.

I think I've made my thoughts on marriage rather clear. *cough*

[TheSnowCat]

That's something i've been putting a lot of thought into, as well. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years & we have a beautiful baby girl together. I love him very much & I think that he loves me too. The thing is, everyone I know seems to have more problems after they get married & the couples I know who never did get married seemed to have the best relationships in the long run. Sooo, I don't know.... i'm honestly considering not getting married because what do we really need a paper to prove our love for? Our actions speak much louder than any paper or title.

In the end, I think you should just do whatever you're comfortable with. I don't think there's any right or wrong answer to your question. It's all a matter of personal opinion & what you really want, you know.

Best of luck!

[Heretic]

Marriage is that last legal form of slavery, one of my close friends said that. I agree wholeheartedly.

[Aspiringanonymous]

i didn't mean just the paper. the ceremony. i dunno... the feeling of knowing that you guys are committed to each other.
Definitely. I don't believe in this romance stuff, not to mention I don't understand it either. Alternatively, I'd love to have a living partner(s) based on compatibility of values and lifestyle, founded upon a platonic familial love, which of course wouldn't include even the thought of any form of 'marriage'.. but it's not possible anyway.

[kidkizzet]

Alternatively, I'd love to have a living partner(s) based on compatibility of values and lifestyle, founded upon a platonic familial love, which of course wouldn't include even the thought of any form of 'marriage'.. but it's not possible anyway.

Why's it not possible?

[Aspiringanonymous]

Why's it not possible?
Just due to the sheer unlikelihood of coming across someone else who genuinely believes the same way. I'd still love to be proven wrong, of course.

[enjoying_my_insanity]

i definatly want to get married cuz i am a religous person and i think when you are really in love with someone you become one in Gods eyes through marriage but i kinda see what you guys are saying especially about divorce but i personally really want to get married

[alexwander]

Bachelor's life is the best stage of life in the life cycle but to get married is not a compulsion but it's a need or i can say it's a solution to your loneliness when we grow old we need somebody to share our feelings, human is very emotional kind of animal and he or she always wishes that some body care for him or her. Though family and friends cars for us but the type of care and love that a partner can give you is unique and no body can take place of him or her.

[Sage]

Bachelor's life is the best stage of life in the life cycle
Amen bro. I'd wholeheartedly agree with you if this is where your post ended.

but to get married is not a compulsion
For a lot of people, it is, actually.

but it's a need or i can say it's a solution to your loneliness
Hooking up with somebody is the solution to loneliness.

when we grow old we need somebody to share our feelings,
Yeah. Like a girlfriend/boyfriend.

human is very emotional kind of animal and he or she always wishes that some body care for him or her.
No, there are plenty of people who don't want that, at least in the romantic sense.

Though family and friends cars for us but the type of care and love that a partner can give you is unique and no body can take place of him or her.
Exactly. The person you're with is special, and signing a little piece of paper and throwing a big extravagant ceremony doesn't change that at all.

[1_21Guns]

no you're not. i don't see the point... why should you have to make a big special deal to prove you love someone?

[Kaius]

Tbh, marriage is a ring on the finger and a slip of paper. You don't need all that just to prove you're in love with someone. I mean yeah its nice to have your friends and family around you when you go through that process, I'd like to get married at some point. All these hen nights and stag nights you have for "Your last night of freedom" are all a bit fucked in my opinion. As long as you have that someone, who cares whether you're married or not?

[1_21Guns]

i agree with Aaron completely. :)

[Apparitions]

Lots of people do not want to get married for many reasons. It's more common than it was before. I personally want to get married, however I completely understand people like you that don't. As long as you are happy with your partner and you both feel the same way about this then you don't need a certificate and a ring to show your commitment to each other. It's completely up to you though. You might end up changing your mind later in life.

EDIT: One bad thing about marriage is the 'what's mine is yours and yours is mine' bit. This is why you need a pre-nup so you don't find yourself with a £30,000 debt and homeless because they took everything when you get divorced.

[Jenna.]

I can't wait to get married. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and we've already discussed it. (Don't start preaching about how I'm only 17 and blah blah blah. We love each other and are each others' best friends, and people have told me that we have the kind of love most people wish for and we're like two old shoes together b/c we complement each other so much.) I think the whole idea is very romantic and sounds exciting. :]

[Apparitions]

I can't wait to get married. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and we've already discussed it. (Don't start preaching about how I'm only 17 and blah blah blah. We love each other and are each others' best friends, and people have told me that we have the kind of love most people wish for and we're like two old shoes together b/c we complement each other so much.) I think the whole idea is very romantic and sounds exciting. :]
That's all good, but do you really need to marry each other to show your love for each other?

[Jenna.]

That's all good, but do you really need to marry each other to show your love for each other?

If you truly love someone and want to spend the rest of your life with them, why not get married? There comes a point (at least to me) where I want to be more than just "boyfriend/girlfriend."

[Apparitions]

If you truly love someone and want to spend the rest of your life with them, why not get married? There comes a point (at least to me) where I want to be more than just "boyfriend/girlfriend."
Fair enough. I can see why people won't want to get married though, especially considering how expensive it is to get married these days.

[DanielBoy]

Some people don't want to get married. I think as far as gay marriage gos, it will change, and if someone doesn't step up I will, it is protected in the bill of rights under freedom of religion, where religion being your physiological beliefs and if you believe you will still goto heaven and god wants you to marry who you want, then you are good to go. Actually, a federal judge in California just found it unconstitutional for gay marriage to be illegal. I think when you find someone you care about deeply enough, you might feel differently. :P

I hope I helped. :D

[Sage]

If you truly love someone and want to spend the rest of your life with them, why not get married?

1) Lot of money.
2) Lot of work, especially if you don't care for blindly following traditions.
3) Most married couples seem rather unromantic and depressingly bored.
4) "why not _____" isn't an argument.

Some people don't want to get married. I think as far as gay marriage gos, it will change, and if someone doesn't step up I will, it is protected in the bill of rights under freedom of religion, where religion being your physiological beliefs and if you believe you will still goto heaven and god wants you to marry who you want, then you are good to go. Actually, a federal judge in California just found it unconstitutional for gay marriage to be illegal. I think when you find someone you care about deeply enough, you might feel differently. :P

I hope I helped. :D

This thread has nothing to do with the morality or legality of gay marriage, this is about marriage in general and whether or not there's any point to it.