Am I Ready

[mudgee]

My bf is just going on 16 now and he realy wants a birthday banging. I always promised him one but i don't know what to say. I have wanted to have sex for a long time but im not shure if im ready.

[nick]

If you need to ask then the answer seems to be no, you're not ready.

[SneakBrain]

No one can tell you if you are ready or not it's all up to you, listen to your feeling not to a random people and if he want sex and you dont, you dont have to keep your promises to him. just do whatever you think it's right

[karl]

No one is ready if they have to ask!

[KellyNC]

I agree with the others, if you have to ask others if you're read you're not. If he really cares about you he'll stay with you.

[TheSnowCat]

I agree with what everyone else has said.... if you're unsure & have to ask, you're not ready. There is no need to rush into something like that. When the time is right, it will just happen.

[Silentkink]

Yeah if you have to ask if you are ready then you are not ready it is that simple.

[emily_smallfry]

I agree with what people said. Take it slow and only do things u are totally comfortable with. But, since we are young and it is a lot of first times for us, you are always going to be a little uncomfortable the first time u try some things.

[patrick99]

that depends do u have a religion (roman cathlic)

[Sasha]

Go with your gut feeling

[kentucky girl]

I agree with others if you have to ask then you are not ready. Don't let anyone force you to do anything you don't want to do

[Kartellmyst]

Probably not..You should wait..:)

[Hanyo]

Its not really the right time for you. If you have any belief in God, you should definitely wait until you're married. Even if you don't, there are a lot of practical reasons to wait.

For one thing, by NOT having sex, you remove any risk of accidental pregnancy. At 16, nobody is ready to be a parent. Suppose you're very liberal and think of abortion as a safety net... Well, that's still very traumatic on both the mind and the body, so by waiting you avoid any danger of having to think about or face that kind of a decision.

Also, you don't have to worry about the risk of disease if you wait. Sure, there's "protection", but... its not 100% reliable, neither is any kind of birth control (back-tracking to the pregnancy issue), but not having sex IS 100% reliable.

Finally, having sex can have powerful emotional consequences. There was a psychological study done on relationship bonding, and just hugging for 90 seconds or more in a single instance has a strong tendency to "bond" the girl to the boy emotionally, whether you want it to or not. That's just from hugging for a minute and a half, just imagine how powerful having sex would be.

This study's results also correlate with the increased rate of depression among teenage and young adult girls. Girls are having sex younger "bonding" to their partner, and often split up from their partner, or were never in an actual relationship, and the emotional trauma of having the bond broken can be a strong influence on the probability of depressoin.

So, I'm not saying this to try to scare you, just trying to bring up a few things that might help you to make a smart decision.

Plus, as you know, your BF really wants it. If he can respect your decision to not have sex, you know he cares more about you than having sex. If he continues to try to change your mind... well, sorry... you know what he values more.