Cousin smells like pot :/

[differentduck]

Okay. I don't know if this is the right forum but here it goes.

I am staying at his house for awhile. I am 15, he is 16, so like his mom lives here too. And he left here at 5 o'clock last night, came back just now (it's 3:00 PM) grabbed 20 bucks and when he walked past me i was hit with a wall of marijuana smell. then he left again. I want to approach him and talk to him about it, but I don't think I should. Help.

P.S. his mom was in the kitchen and he didn't say anything to her and he left out the back door so she didn't smell it at all. Maybe I should talk to her, but that would be weird and I wanna ask him first.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Dude, it's his life. Just let him do what he wants to do. Its a personal choice, and he made it. You may not like pot, but once again you aren't him. If your concerned about it talk to him, although I do not think the outcome will come out the way you want too.

[Zeh Crazy]

I think you should leave it alone and let it play out. After all, it's really none of your business. It's between him and his mom.

[zebra_]

weed is not a big deal. its kinna like coffee, if he wants to do it, then u cant do anything about it. its his life, u cant control what he wants to do. if u dont like pot then dont do it

[Sordid Saint]

Don't talk to anyone about it but him, he's not going to turn into a bad person for doing pot. But if you don't want him to be on it while he's around you, you can talk to him about it and tell him not to do it while you're around.

[love_linds]

I'm sorry, kid. I kno how you feel...
And not to be stereotypical of a pothead but he probably won't giv a shit how you feel..No one in my family does..

[Vurtine]

Lots of people smoke weed and I do at times. Just try and ignore it because if you confront him about it you could end up falling out over it. If he's happy doing it.. leave him to it and if it turns out bad then he'll learn from his mistakes :)

Hope I helped!

[Zazu]

I think most people's responses encapsulate what I think - there's nothing wrong with putting a small amount of a natural herb into your body. There's more to life to worry about than your cousin smoking a bit of weed.

[Antares]

Don't say a word.
I think it will create even more problems because it is very obvious the parents have no regard for their kids.
If they let him stay over night and then have him come home and leave again, it is obviously they really don't give a fuck or they just don't know how to parent-at all.

So, just enjoy the rest of your stay, and let that prick ruin his life.
Maybe his parents will get a clue when they get a call from the county jail at 4am.

[Filipe]

Weed is illegal in most countries and it's nothing like coffee.. It's bad for you and it kills you.. While you're high you have no control over your actions.. If you really like your cousin tell him to stop. Don't listen to any of these people! WEED IS BAD FOR YOU! IT'S A DRUG! STOP TRYING TO DEFEND IT!

I wish you well, hugs :)

[The Batman]

I don't think talking to him is really going to be as bad as everyone here is making it out to be. As long as you aren't too confrontational about it and you're considerate then he'll atleast listen to what you're saying maybe not follow it though.

[CaptainObvious]

Weed is illegal in most countries and it's nothing like coffee.. It's bad for you and it kills you.. While you're high you have no control over your actions.. If you really like your cousin tell him to stop. Don't listen to any of these people! WEED IS BAD FOR YOU! IT'S A DRUG! STOP TRYING TO DEFEND IT!

I wish you well, hugs :)

The statements that "[weed] kills you" and "you have no control over your actions" while high are both entirely false. Please do not post false information in the drug forum, thank you.

I don't think talking to him is really going to be as bad as everyone here is making it out to be. As long as you aren't too confrontational about it and you're considerate then he'll atleast listen to what you're saying maybe not follow it though.

I dunno, I'm half and half with you here. You're right: it should never be a bad thing to talk to a cousin if you're concerned about them, and if it's handled considerately and sensitively the worst that should happen is he doesn't take the OPs concerns to heart.

But really, what's the best that happens? Do any of us think that this conversation will result in her cousin doing anything differently? Highly unlikely. So basically it comes down to the question of whether or not we recommend that the OP talk to her cousin about a personal habit of her cousin's that is unlikely to change, just because the OP disapproves of it. And the fact is, absent a seriously destructive habit like a full blown heroin addiction or something, I would never recommend such a thing. It doesn't turn out well in practice, whether or not it's justified.

[Zazu]

Don't say a word.
I think it will create even more problems because it is very obvious the parents have no regard for their kids.
If they let him stay over night and then have him come home and leave again, it is obviously they really don't give a fuck or they just don't know how to parent-at all.

So, just enjoy the rest of your stay, and let that prick ruin his life.
Maybe his parents will get a clue when they get a call from the county jail at 4am.

Weed doesn't ruin your life. It hopefully doesn't mean you're a prick either. I've smoked a fair bit of cannabis over the years and have hopefully turned out to be a pretty decent person - I'm not one of the idiotic, brainless sheeple that most people seem to have turned into as of late and I have just got myself a job working with one of the UK ambulance services. I can quite honestly say that I treat all living beings with a high level of respect (even though some frustrate me), I'm someone who will get on with anyone. I'm very open minded, I'm very liberal.


Weed is illegal in most countries and it's nothing like coffee.. It's bad for you and it kills you.. While you're high you have no control over your actions.. If you really like your cousin tell him to stop. Don't listen to any of these people! WEED IS BAD FOR YOU! IT'S A DRUG! STOP TRYING TO DEFEND IT!

I wish you well, hugs :)

As mentioned, this is very generalised. Yes, cannabis can be bad for you, anything can. Smoking it will introduce carcinogens into your respiratory system, consuming toxic levels is believed to induce certain levels of psychosis and of course it can completely fuck up people's lives - I don't dispute that. I just think that it's a thing of respect really (as with any drugs, be they legal or illegal). If you respect a drug, realise what it can do to you if you take too much, learn your limits on the drug and learn when it is safe to consume it and when it is not, I feel that it's relatively harmless. The exact same applies to things like prescription drugs too (which are just as easily abused / disrespected).

In terms of having on control over yourself when you're under the influence of cannabis, I really don't believe this is at all true. From personal experience (and many in-depth conversations with other health care professionals / friends), cannabis doesn't affect your basic morals / senses of right and wrong. It doesn't make you want to kill people, it doesn't make you want to go and jump out of windows. Yes, it will impair your basic motor functions, but you shouldn't be consuming cannabis during a time when you need to be driving / working. If you do, you're an idiot (due to the obvious dangers to yourself and others caused when trying to do things such as driving when under the influence of any motor-altering drug) and have no respect for the drug.

So whilst you may seem lazy and won't be able to do anything physical / mental, you still won't feel the desire to do anything 'immoral' (murder / rape / making a general idiot of yourself). I personally always retain full control over my actions when under the influence of cannabis, it's just the way in which I perceive what I'm doing that is altered.

In conclusion, I still believe that cannabis is relatively harmless when respected and not used often / as a coping mechanism. Like I said in my first post, smoking a bit of weed now and then won't make you a bad person and won't fuck up your life imo. The legality of it doesn't bother me - I take the general view that nobody has any form of authority to tell us what we can and can't do in life / can and can't put into our bodies. If a human being has any kind of respect for his fellows then he shouldn't murder / rape e.t.c. Won't go any further into that as it's a whole other topic.

[love_linds]

STOP TRYING TO DEFEND IT!

Woah, I'm NOT trying to defend it. I'm probably the LAST person to. I'm just trying to be realistic. Speaking from personal expiriences here.
I've talked to my friends and family about it and they really don't giv a shit what I think or hav to say. It sucks.
Just trying to keep him from going through the..rejection, I guess you could call it.

[Sordid Saint]

Filipe, I've gone to school high before, and I could still do perfectly fine on my work and I could focus even better because it makes things that are boring (like class) not boring, so I was actually paying attention.

It's not going to ruin my life and I smoke fairly a lot. And if it does, well then you proved me wrong, but chances of that happening are very slim.

[DanielBoy]

It really is not your place to talk to him, you are his younger cousin. Talk to his mom if you are that concerned. Just tell her what happened, and tell her to say she smelled it, so he doesn't think your a nark or something. The decision is yours.

I hope I helped. :D

[Azunite]

Well it is bad for him to smell but if you tell him, he will still do what he does.
I use perfume and deodorant myself but still I smell sometimes, maybe you were in the wrong place in the wrong time.
Go and smell him now, see what you can find

[Socialist]

Find his pusher and tell him/her to stop selling the pot to your cousin. That way you won't have to deal with that putrid stench anymore.

[thiscityisdead]

Weed is illegal in most countries and it's nothing like coffee.. It's bad for you and it kills you.. While you're high you have no control over your actions.. If you really like your cousin tell him to stop. Don't listen to any of these people! WEED IS BAD FOR YOU! IT'S A DRUG! STOP TRYING TO DEFEND IT!

I wish you well, hugs


^^^ first of all it's weed..it's not a manmade drug like meth or crack with shit under your sink...god grew it and put it on this earth for medicinal purposes, I have complete control over my actions and even if you tried it once your opinion would change not saying everyone enjoys the high but it's not like you can DIE from it and it's not even addictive but a gateway to all those other stupid manmade bullcrap... If your gonna do a drug...smoke weed...lol it's legal in 1/4 of the states =/
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If you think he's maybe abusing it talk to him but 20bucks could last him a few days. Depending of course on how much he smokes a day..

Man that's a long one hope I helped

[QUUIT]

Touchy subject is touchy.

Anyways - I really don't care what anyone has to say. Long term use of pot is, in my eyes, dangerous. It may very well increase risk in the development of psychotic disorders, including schizophrenia, for example. I mean, if it was so great, why is it outlawed? Why aren't more people doing it?

The only time I could actually recommend something like this would have to be for medicinal purposes. A friend of my father, for example suffers excruciating pain. I won't get into what's wrong, but he does. He'd been known to smoke a joint or two on occasion, and when he does, he moves around like everything perfectly fine. I'm even a tad iffy about this - if it isn't prescribed, it's illegal. Simple as that.

Anyways, for your situation... I don't know. Talk to your cousin. I know that I, on occasion, get smells like cigarettes mixed up with the smell of pot. Even the smoke of burnt smudging sticks; they smell a great deal like pot. Maybe he isn't even doing it. Maybe he was hanging with a friend who did it. Who knows.

And, if you really feel that there is a problem, talk to the mother. Keep in mind though, you are kind of interfering in business that isn't yours, so don't expect everything to be all warm and fuzzy after you do. Chances are, you're cousin will be really mad at you for doing it.

Well, those are my thoughts on the situation, at least.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Touchy subject is touchy.

Anyways - I really don't care what anyone has to say. Long term use of pot is, in my eyes, dangerous. It may very well increase risk in the development of psychotic disorders, including schizophrenia, for example. I mean, if it was so great, why is it outlawed? Why aren't more people doing it?

The only time I could actually recommend something like this would have to be for medicinal purposes. A friend of my father, for example suffers excruciating pain. I won't get into what's wrong, but he does. He'd been known to smoke a joint or two on occasion, and when he does, he moves around like everything perfectly fine. I'm even a tad iffy about this - if it isn't prescribed, it's illegal. Simple as that.

Anyways, for your situation... I don't know. Talk to your cousin. I know that I, on occasion, get smells like cigarettes mixed up with the smell of pot. Even the smoke of burnt smudging sticks; they smell a great deal like pot. Maybe he isn't even doing it. Maybe he was hanging with a friend who did it. Who knows.

And, if you really feel that there is a problem, talk to the mother. Keep in mind though, you are kind of interfering in business that isn't yours, so don't expect everything to be all warm and fuzzy after you do. Chances are, you're cousin will be really mad at you for doing it.

Well, those are my thoughts on the situation, at least.

Do you have proof that this is true.

[CaptainObvious]

Do you have proof that this is true.

Statistical evidence shows a higher than normal incidence of schizophrenia in populations of regular to heavy marijuana users. However, this doesn't mean marijuana causes schizophrenia; the theory is that it can exacerbate underlying tendencies in people prone to developing the disease already.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Statistical evidence shows a higher than normal incidence of schizophrenia in populations of regular to heavy marijuana users. However, this doesn't mean marijuana causes schizophrenia; the theory is that it can exacerbate underlying tendencies in people prone to developing the disease already. Yet, how high is the probability exactly even with the increase? Probably not very high.

[CaptainObvious]

Yet, how high is the probability exactly even with the increase? Probably not very high.

Undeniably. Probabilities are never "very high", though - for example, even for a heavy smoker lifetime lung cancer incidence is only 17%. And chance of dying from smoking? Only 1 in 2, yet we act as if every long-term smoker will die of it.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Undeniably. Probabilities are never "very high", though - for example, even for a heavy smoker lifetime lung cancer incidence is only 17%. And chance of dying from smoking? Only 1 in 2, yet we act as if every long-term smoker will die of it.

Yeah, but using the arguement of something that is only proven to happen within probably 1-15% of the people that smoke pot, isn't very sound. You probably see what I mean, because it doesn't really effect the vast majority.

[CaptainObvious]

Yeah, but using the arguement of something that is only proven to happen within probably 1-15% of the people that smoke pot, isn't very sound. You probably see what I mean, because it doesn't really effect the vast majority.

Fine, but I'm not "using the [argument]" that you apparently think I am, I'm just pointing out that the risk exists and nothing else.

My point is that nothing ever effects the vast majority, and that does not mean one should discount it as a risk. As I pointed out, lifetime lung cancer incidence in heavy smokers is only 17%, but no one would (or could) seriously argue that lung cancer should not be noted as a risk of smoking.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Fine, but I'm not "using the [argument]" that you apparently think I am, I'm just pointing out that the risk exists and nothing else.

My point is that nothing ever effects the vast majority, and that does not mean one should discount it as a risk. As I pointed out, lifetime lung cancer incidence in heavy smokers is only 17%, but no one would (or could) seriously argue that lung cancer should not be noted as a risk of smoking.

I understand, and I don't want you to get angry I'm just saying. Since something like that is only such a small chance it can happen but it's unlikely that smoking pot would cause it. You could debate and say that this stuff could happen but like I said it isn't sound. However, arguing either way for pot is like this. Pretty much the whole arguement is built off of only a select few strong points and a whole load of probablities.

[lightkun]

Weed is illegal in most countries and it's nothing like coffee.. It's bad for you and it kills you.. While you're high you have no control over your actions.. If you really like your cousin tell him to stop. Don't listen to any of these people! WEED IS BAD FOR YOU! IT'S A DRUG! STOP TRYING TO DEFEND IT!

I wish you well, hugs :)

No medical tests to detect brain damage have shown any harm to humans. So please, know what you are talking about and not to be rude, but don't believe every piece of propaganda that your parents and big brother try to shove down your throat. You should think for yourself (not saying that you don't) but it sounds like you just believe what you hear.
Filipe, I've gone to school high before, and I could still do perfectly fine on my work and I could focus even better because it makes things that are boring (like class) not boring, so I was actually paying attention.

It's not going to ruin my life and I smoke fairly a lot. And if it does, well then you proved me wrong, but chances of that happening are very slim.

No pot does destroy your like because those ad campaigns say so and that's what mother and father want me to think. (for those of you who don't know what sarcasm is, you won't get that)

[TheFame]

Its just pot...

[lightkun]

Its just pot...

What's the big deal?