Is life always gonna be this hard?

[REGRET]

This is the question I ask myself the most these days. I feel so much pain in my head right now, and I wonder if it's always gonna be like this. Will I ever be happy? If I'm gonna be this way the rest of my life I might as well kill myself because I don't think I could handle it.
Do someone else think the same?

[aLeX..]

It certainly feels like that, however a lot, a lot of people around the world are able to help each other through the hardest times and into the good whether it's friends, family, or someone special to you.

Even in those darkest moments in life, I find it so SO hard to realise that something good will come too, although life isn't there hurt us or make us feel distressed and that there's no other way (well, not that I know of :rolleyes:). Well life, in my opinion now, is just for living, and how we live it is our choice and we're all intitled to an opinion and voice, even though our ways of seeing it or coping with it may be out of our control at times. You know, I wouldn't of been able to say all of the above this time last year, I couldn't even recognise myself, but now I can just about see positives, even though 50% of the time I still feel horrible, but at least it's not 98% :)
But it shows we'll get out of it someday, and things will find a way of sorting themselves out somehow :)

I hope this helps, because you remind me of me of how I was only last week to be honest! But feel free to PM me anytime, we could help each other out - yeah? :)

If you don't mind me asking how do you cope with things at the moment? x

[steve1234]

Well I have been depressed for a very long time now, and I often feel like things are never going to be better. I feel like im always going to be a miserable loner.

You won't be able to predict if your still going to be like the way you are in the future. You might still be unhappy, or you could be very happy and be glad you never killed yourself. You can never tell, unless you stay alive and find out for yourself.

The reason I won't kill myself is the fact that things can get better in the future.

It may take weeks, months or even years to become happy, but theres always a chance that you can become happy, so just stay strong :)

[Aspiringanonymous]

Indeed, you are not alone. For me, it is more of a 'things are great now, that means they can only get worse from here' mentality, which is equally nothing optimistic.

No one can speak certainly of the future, and that is why we always take those who claim 'it will get better' with a grain of salt. Everyone says it, for all one knows it's just comfort words with no basis at all - but not entirely. It is a certainty that things change, so no, your current state won't last forever. That change can be either for the better or for the worse, but chances are when it's already so unendurable, it's much more likely to look up than to further spiral downwards.

Intense emotions cause us to lose sight of the bigger picture - some call it tunnel vision. Outside of one's mental confines, the world is a big place and the possibilities are endless - something as small as walking down a different street than usual could change everything. This is no exaggeration, for I speak from experience. Uncertainty is interesting for that reason - it is both fearsome and welcoming. The important thing is to always be open, so that opportunities can be recognized when they occur. And to stay alive, of course. You have nothing to lose from trying.

Take care hun. :hug3:

[REGRET]

If you don't mind me asking how do you cope with things at the moment? x

I try to just stop thinking about the stuff that makes me depressed, or at least try. Or I hurt myself, which is stupid.

[screamtobeheard]

Yes, I feel like this all the time. But there's always that possibility that if you let yourself live, something will happen and life will get better. It might be a one in a million chance, but if you kill yourself, you'll never know if you were that one. And personally, I don't think that's a chance worth taking.

[Rutherford The Brave]

You better believe that life is going to be this hard. Its what brings the best of us out. We need to adapt to change. To face adversity, and to come out on the other side. If you sit here wondering when its going to be easy, you'd just be better off jumping in a casket.