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[reithedragonboy]

Would you consider not telling your parents about your sexuality wrong? I don't really feel guilty about planning to keep this from them; I was just wondering how others felt?

Also, now that I'm heading to college, do you think it's good that I come out to my friends; my close friends? And...what do I do if they react either bad or [I]badly[I] to it?

[Judas]

You can't hide it from them forever. So one day, you're going to have to face it. Their reactions most likely won't differ over time, but if you told them now, they get more time to accept and understand. As for your friends, it depends on you. If you feel like they need to know, then go ahead.

[Kaius]

:arrow2: Teen Sexuality

[oscarlichen]

It's late enough that you are an adult almost and you can come out to people without getting made fun of or something. You can only benefit. Girls would know to be your friend and boys would know to date you. And your friends, im sure would be fine with it. Otherwise, they aren't true friends.

[Skeln]

I would think that you'll have to come out sooner or later when it comes t your family. As for your friends, well for the ones you plan on keeping for a long time it would be nice seeing as how they can learn more about you and understand you more in the future. For friends that you'll never see again, well they'renot as high on the priority list if you'll never see them again but seeing as how friendship is a bond that lasts for awhile it would be nice to come out to them as well. I would be cautious about which friends I would choose to come out to if I were you. Some people can be quite misunderstanding or are just plain homophobic. Sadly, not everyone is as accepting.

[sildavin]

My parents will NEVER know my sexuality. and When I can afford to. I will be moving to AZ. I think my Mom kinda knows. she tells me all the time that she wouldnt care if I was gay. My dad on the other hand. Would. and I live with him so.... Yeah.. I dont think its wrong to not tel your rents.

As far as your friends are involved. I told mine, and they're cool with it. But its up to you sir!

Im Bi btw...

[Delusion15]

Would you consider not telling your parents about your sexuality wrong?


hmm when you have a boyfriend they sorta get suspicious... :P

[thepieman]

It depends on the person and their own circumstances. For example, I told my mates first and now the only people who don't know are my relatives, mostly because of my homophobic father. As I'm bi, I've personally decided to wait until I have a boyfriend before I tell them as I think this is the only time they need to know. But everyone's own case is different, my mates were accepting, not everyone's are, so it depends.

[XpopularX]

I know i would never do it in a million years even if i was about to die NEVER

[Billy15]

I haven't told my parents (probably never will) because I know their so anti gay and it would hurt them very badly, so thats my choice because i can't break their hearts.

As for college and friends, thats completely up to you and your right, they could accept you or not, so there is always going to be that risk. For me, once i am away from home
and am more indipendent, i might tell close friends that i really trust because from what i hear, college is nothing like HS and being gay is much more accepted among the older crowd, so i really look forward to that freedom.

[Babobobo]

Everyone is hesitant about telling their parents their true self. It's understandable how difficult it is to suddenly reveal who you are in one day.

I'm straight, but I'm still hesitant about telling my parents I like a girl, or that I think someone's hot. It's not only homosexual/bisexual people who have this feeling. Although if you aren't a little ''iffy'' about telling your parents that's perfectly normal, it just means your proud and confident in who you are.

Taking the information that you're going to college, if your friends react badly you make new ones in college trust me. My siblings never spoke with their old friends again after college, they made tons of new ones. If they do accept it however, then it's wonderful and that means that there's a true friendship bond between you and said friend.

[yoda]

Well its only my mom i would have to tell and when i was 16 or something she said that if i was gay or bi whatever shed be cool with it, but thing is i just don't know how to get it out to say i am bi but a little more gay. I think its good to come out to your close friends and if they react badly then there not really close friends if they can't accept you for who you are.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

well if someone is not ready, they have all the right to keep their sexuality a secret until they feel ready, but they got to tell them eventually

[Tavi]

Nope. I haven't told my parents and I doubt I will for a few more years. My advice tell them when you think they should know or don't tell them lol

[DanielBoy]

I have the same plan buddy. I don't want to tell my parents not only because I know it would break my dad's heart to find out his only son is bi, but because it would be a little awkward. I plan on coming out in college to all of my friends, and not lieing about it, because people are mature and more accepting in college. I do have to add that when I find mr. right, I will have to come clean to my parents, but not a second sooner. :D I don't think your friends will take it bad, I think if anything it might be a little awkward for a while, but if they are really your friends, they will understand and accept you for who you are. :D I met a guy, and he gave me the courage to tell my best friend, and he is a little shell shocked, but he said he is cool with me, and I think we have too much fun together to let me being bi get in the way. :D

I hope I helped. :D

[reithedragonboy]

hmm when you have a boyfriend they sorta get suspicious... :P

Well, I'm not planning on having a boyfriend anytime soon. I'm personally thinking along the lines of what people would consider a good friend and fuck buddy. I don't think I'd be able to have a boyfriend. Not because I'm a floater or whatever people who go from one person to another is called; I just don't have confidence to go up right to a person and ask.

[TheFame]

Its who you are dude, dont throw that away or tell you its wrong.

If you dont tell people, your going to draw straight people who may be jerks or assholes to gay people.

But if you tell people your gay, all the accepting people will come to you.

But telling everyone is a challange. You should maybe just tell your close friends for now and if they dont like it, then they are assholes.

If they dont like it find friends who will.

[bond3108]

Come out when you're ready to. Your parents will get used to the idea, and if your friends are really your friends, then they will understand. :)

[bringmethehorizon314]

its your choice:D u dont have to until u feel u r ready, it hlps if u slowly come out, like i told one friend at first, now alot my friends kno. i still havent told my parents

[Azunite]

Mine wouldn't say anything,
If your parents are real parents, they wouldn't overact.
However, you may need to slow down if your parents are harsh and you think will overreact

[JimSauce]

No, I don't think it's wrong. In some cases (like if they are strict religious folks) it would be best to not come out because you'd save them a lot of grief. Possibly save yourself emotional trauma, too.

You should only come out to your friends if you want to. I don't think anyone is obligated to come out if they don't want to. If you're perfectly fine keeping a secret and it doesn't make you ache inside, then by all means keep it to yourself. That's your own business.