help =\

[~Ðarç~]

There have been so many girls I let come and go...I liked a lot of them and never said anything, as much as i wanted to i didn't know how
i'm not talkative at all in reality so thats the problem, what do i do, how do i become more social ... i've asked for advice before and people have told me things such as "say hi" well it justs seems odd to me ... it seems odd for someone who never speaks to come out and talk to someone ... its just not how i am, how do i make it how i am i want to be i dont know how someone help pls =\

[Bobby]

Well to be social, try and make some friends. If you go to school, then attend school social events (footballs games, dances ect.)

You can't make yourself a loud person, it just sounds like you have a quiet personality.

[Charlotte]

Believe it or not, going up and saying hi is the best way to meet people. Worked for me.

Now it all depends on how you go about it. If you're confident and natural when doing it people arent going to be weirded out. Now if you're timid and shy-ish then it would be kind of ackward.

Build up confidence and trust me it'll work. :D

[~Ðarç~]

if i know the person i am very loud and outgoing in general i'm not =\ i wouldn't go up to someone and say hi out of fear of rejection =\ iono i'm like lying to myself, thinking that anyone would reject me, or maybe i'm right

[~Ðarç~]

Now if you're timid and shy-ish then it would be kind of ackward.



thats me

[Charlotte]

In the future, please dont double post. Just edit.

Now, you're going to have to get over your insecuirty and say hi. I used to have the same problems but having confidence will change everything.

Why do you think they'll reject you?

[~Ðarç~]

dont really know (sorry bout double post) i'm like an ex-nerd but i think ppl still think that of me.

[Bobby]

Try doing an extra curicular activity (a sport,student council, yearbook ect.) That is a good way to meet people.

[Aηdy]

Please use the edit button if you want to add sonthing to your post, two posts in a row are not allowed, its ok this time because your new. :D

I'm quite a shy person but the girl i currently want to go out with i have been friends with for quite a while, so im pretty much myslef around her now, i can look her in the eye aswell, which i usually find very hard. So just try and be friends at first then let one thing lead to another ;)

edit- by the time i had posted that there had been 3 other posts lol..

[Charlotte]

Try doing an extra curicular activity (a sport,student council, yearbook ect.) That is a good way to meet people.
He doesnt have a problem meeting people. He has a problem talking to them.

You're being really hard on yourself, Adrian. You just gotta step up to the plate! What's the worst that can happen? Rejection? Trust me if you're confident people will accept you! What do you have to loose?

Nothing will change unless you change.

[Bobby]

But usually through a group like that you bond and talk.

[~Ðarç~]

He doesnt have a problem meeting people. He has a problem talking to them.

You're being really hard on yourself, Adrian. You just gotta step up to the plate! What's the worst that can happen? Rejection? Trust me if you're confident people will accept you! What do you have to loose?

Nothing will change unless you change.

i want to change, i dont want to be concidered who i am =\

[Charlotte]

If you want to change, then tomarro start saying hello to people, with confidence, at school. Then come back and tell me how it went. :)

[~Ðarç~]

i will try to =\ thnx :D
i am actually making a band do you think that could help?

[Charlotte]

Yeah of course. Remember, just anything that involves people ;)

[~Ðarç~]

k thnx charlotte :)