this is what i plan to do...

[sarah newman]

when im 16, i wanna search for a flat with my m8 Julie.
17, i move in. also at 17 julie wants a baby.
17-18 i go to collage and get good results.
19, i want a decent job- childcare or secretarial work
17/ 18/ 19 i want a baby.. not sure when it would be easiest tho... and parents wouldnt aprove of this age, but its my life..
21/ 22 we move to london.

Im not sure if this is a good plan. Be truthful, what would youu guys do?? x

[Kaius]

To be honest at the age we all are now are lives aren't going to go to plan. A lot of things will change once your in college, some things won't go the way you expect them to, other unexpected things may happen. I wouldn't make a plan to stick by just go with the flow :) You can still have an idea of what you want to happen but don't leave it set in stone. For example how would you get money to get a flat? You'd need a job. That's gonna be a change thats not in your plan so it might change a few things like your social life, and college hours. For a child you'd also need a lot of money to support it, so you'd have to think of that as well.

[Zazu]

To be honest at the age we all are now are lives aren't going to go to plan. A lot of things will change once your in college, some things won't go the way you expect them to, other unexpected things may happen. I wouldn't make a plan to stick by just go with the flow :) You can still have an idea of what you want to happen but don't leave it set in stone. For example how would you get money to get a flat? You'd need a job. That's gonna be a change thats not in your plan so it might change a few things like your social life, and college hours. For a child you'd also need a lot of money to support it, so you'd have to think of that as well.

Schnap. I agree with this. It won't be at all easy to balance college with a job to pay for your rent / food / utilities. Also, babies aren't just a commodity. You can't just 'want' one like that and expect to be able to bring it up well. For fuck's sake, don't just 'pick' a bloke to get you pregnant and be so blaze. Find someone you like, don't 'pick' someone, and wait until you're both seriously committed to bringing up a baby befroe you just jump into it. I really feel that you don't seem to have thought this through.

Don't plan so much now, it's better to take things as they come imo.

Also, you do realise getting a job isn't a two second thing. It takes a fuck lot of work, and it's bloody hard getting anything with how things are atm.

[Jess]

agree with the two above. things will happen that will ruin your plans, but you never know. good luck in everything

[INFERNO]

Plans like these I'm never confident in because it assumes you and Julie will stay together. Having a baby while being away from home and going to college isn't going to be easy at all. College often changes or gives someone a direction they want to go in life, more than likely it will happen to you and Julie. During college it's stressful and you have to manage the stress with the baby and other people. When college changes or gives you a direction, you come to a fork in the road: stay to be with your partner or leave your partner to do what you love. Best case is you don't need to choose but you probably will have to. You're going to meet other people at college, many of whom will be attractive, some may be attracted to you, and you may like that one better than Julie.

The only plan I'd make if I were you would be to go to college while living at home, on campus or away, and have an idea of what area you want to pursue. You can add in moving in with Julie but plan it as things happen. It's your education and your future when you go to college, and if you find you like something you didn't think you would or learned about what it is you do like, don't restrict yourself so much.

[sarah newman]

well obv i would choose a decent bloke, someone who would be there and stuff, but i would prefer to be a single mum- i no it sounds harsh but i cant hide how i feel. the dad will be able to see the baby and stuff like that, ofc.
yeah, i aint gonna restrict myself to much, and i want a decent job- i did say i want to work in Childcare or secretarial work- receptionist or something, and i no it would be hard, but i am confident with that- even tho i aint a clever person, i will work hard and achieve what i want to do.
thanx for the advice anywayzz, and also Julie is my best friend, she has been there 4 me since day 1, and i would never ditch her for someone else x
i might find someone, but i would never ditch herr for him xx