Homophobic Bullying in School

[karnivore]

Have any of you been bullied in school because you are gay or people thought you were gay? If not, have you seen it? What did you do?

[BeautifulDisaster]

I've seen it.
I'm seeing it right now.
It's disgraceful.
Best thing to do is ignore it & try to not react, as they feed off of that & it makes it worse.

[Zeh Crazy]

This is why I can't come out about being bi in my school. I would get bullied so badly, mainly because my school is nothing but narrow-minded religious pricks or rednecks. I want to come out and be accepted, but unfortunately, that wouldn't happen. I would have no support. Even most of my friends are against it.

[nickw_2013]

I've seen it, but never been the victim, ya I think thats the right word for it, of it. I have a couple friends that are bi or openly gay. I support them and their decisions completely and try to stand up for them most of the time when I hear someone picking on them about it.

[Chris95]

I'm not saying this is the case with everyone, nor does this excuse the behavior, but there was a kid in my PE class who made fun of homosexuality constantly. He turned out to be gay, and he was using it so nobody would suspect that he was gay in the first place.

[drew.]

happens to me everyday. but its a lifestyle and i have made my choice. it won't always be like this not everyone is that narrow minded

[Death]

And this is what religion taken to an extreme does to people. It warps their mind and makes them incapable of rational thought for themselves. If these hypocrites come at you at all for anything which is morally sound, then I would report it; it's no better than racism, disability-based discrimination, or any other form of bigotry. Also, to those who wish to come out, if you are afraid that your friends might oppose you for your sexuality, are they really your friends? One way to find out I suppose.

[Krazymitch]

People who dont know me do it, but when they find out who i am, they wont say a word...its great, cause i only hear it once, and it dont bother me.

[ShatteredWings]

My freshman year it was really bad. I wasn't "out", but everyone knew I was hiding something. and attacked it like vultures on a starved rabbit.

Last year it wasn't so bad, some people grew up, and many were transferred to the alternative program (mostly rehab, some class), and I simply got physically stronger to the point where most are slightly afraid to give me shit anymore.

When it was bad, i did nothing. I tried to go to the school once but the disciplinary program is fail, and no one wants to trust someone who looks like me. last year I took a few things into my own hands (not recommending), made a few empty threats (with the ability and expectation to have to follow through) and people backed off.

[Insanity Fair]

And this is what religion taken to an extreme does to people. It warps their mind and makes them incapable of rational thought for themselves. If these hypocrites come at you at all for anything which is morally sound, then I would report it; it's no better than racism, disability-based discrimination, or any other form of bigotry. Also, to those who wish to come out, if you are afraid that your friends might oppose you for your sexuality, are they really your friends? One way to find out I suppose.

Your posts are painfully annoying. The only word I can think to describe you is aethiest. It's getting annoying that of all the posts I've seen you make none of them are different. I'm an aethiest as well but I have posted about something other then the idiocy of religion.

Back on topic. Religion has little to do with youth homosexual bullying. Most of the children/teens who bully homosexuals do not believe in god.

[LyDrake]

i get it everyday... i try to hide it... my sister heard from skool ppl n she started calling me names n stuff.... i just wanna be free and be able to be who i am in the open... if i be open i could get killed... because of the country i live in!

[Mysterious Skin]

I get it........ No body knows it yet but im gay. My class this year Suspected i was gay but nobody said it tto me. Untill someone did but i keep on denying it. ;)

[Death]

You're posts are painfully annoying. The only word I can think to describe you is aethiest. It's getting annoying that of all the posts I've seen you make none of them are different. I'm an aethiest as well but I have posted about something other then the idiocy of religion.

Back on topic. Religion has little to do with youth homosexual bullying. Most of the children/teens who bully homosexuals do not believe in god.

"You are posts are annoying?" Because that's effectively what you've said with "you're". Also, you may want to note that I specifically said "taken to an extreme". Everything taken to an extreme is bad; religion was just the contextual example here. So maybe you'd like to learn to read and stop misinterpreting my posts to mean the worst before yapping on about how annoying you think I am. I'm annoyed now. So grow the fuck up and stop being hypocritical. Besides, who was it who said that being gay and dyslexic was a phase? And have you even read many of my posts?

Also, in response to your "on-topic", several people at my school say that they don't like gays because "God hates fags" (which I've heard far too often). I usually ignore them since they don't have the guts to say it to a gay person's face. I personally don't know any atheists who believe the same (take note how I've spelled my actual "belief" correctly - which makes me question if you are in fact an atheist like you claim) So, OP, I would probably either do the same of report it to someone you can trust.

EDIT: Also, InsanityFair, how is saying that homophobes tend to be atheist any better than saying that extremists are more likely to be homophobic than non-extremists (yes, that's right, even religious people). Talk about getting the wrong end of the stick...

[Insanity Fair]

"You are posts are annoying?" Because that's effectively what you've said with "you're". Also, you may want to note that I specifically said "taken to an extreme". Everything taken to an extreme is bad; religion was just the contextual example here. So maybe you'd like to learn to read and stop misinterpreting my posts to mean the worst before yapping on about how annoying you think I am. Besides, who was it who said that being gay and dyslexic was a phase? And have you even read many of my posts?

I've read enough. I always lurk when I first find a forum so as to gauge different user's personalities, the hierarchy on the site, and what the majority of opinions are. Aethiesm is very popular on this site but you take it to extreme.(notice how clever I am using bold and italics!!)

Also, in regards to the gay/dyslexia thing. Your grasp of the obvious is slipping away from you. You can't spot a troll when it's right in front of your face.

I'm annoyed now.

Good for you. You want a cookie?

So grow the fuck up and stop being hypocritical.

I'm not being hypocritical. Just because I don't believe in religion does not mean I have to be as unoriginal as to talk about how stupid I think it is in every post I make. And if you quit trying to use minor grammatical mistakes to discredit your opponent maybe you might gain some respect. It doesn't make you seem any more intelligent. In fact it just proves how petty and immature you are.


Also, in response to your "on-topic", several people at my school say that they don't like gays because "God hates fags" (which I've heard far too often). I usually ignore them since they don't have the guts to say it to a gay person's face. I personally don't know any atheists who believe the same (take note how I've spelled my actual "belief" correctly - which makes me question if you are in fact an atheist like you claim) So, OP, I would probably either do the same of report it to someone you can trust.

You and I both speak from personal experience so there is no need to argue on this point. No one I've ever heard of has used God as an excuse for bullying homosexuals.

EDIT: Also, InsanityFair, how is saying that homophobes tend to be atheist any better than saying that extremists are more likely to be homophobic than non-extremists (yes, that's right, even religious people). Talk about getting the wrong end of the stick...

You miss the point of this thread. It's one matter to be homophobic, it's quite another matter to bully homosexuals. Religious people are more likely to be homophobic. However because of their nifty little golden rule they're less likely to bully.

[Aspiringanonymous]

I think this discussion has strayed off-topic enough for now. Please take it somewhere else - both of you - thanks!

[mranderson]

Deffinitly..this happens every day to them, im now gay tho. Its the same people to, i wana kick there asses, i still do and its outa school, but theres were 6/7 of em every day...Even my best friend does it.

[Death]

If your best friend does it, then is (s)he really your best friend?

[adverse4490]

i get it everyday... i try to hide it... my sister heard from skool ppl n she started calling me names n stuff.... i just wanna be free and be able to be who i am in the open... if i be open i could get killed... because of the country i live in!

There are kids all over the world, as well as adults, that get this kind of treatment because of their orientation. If your sister of all people does not care about you enough to treat you as her family still, then you'll need to figure out how you'll tell your father if that crosses your mind...

In Trinidad, that treatment is going to happen if you become open, unfortunately. But everyone needs a support system, and you can't handle it on your own. If there are trusted friends, family members who won't judge you, or even a councelor or somebody you feel comfortable with, you should confide in them and gain that support system. I can't say that you could trust someone that you met in a chat room, but even if it means sending a message to me saying what's going on with you I'd be glad to help anyway I can.

Most importantly, don't let other's judgements get you down or make you feel intimidated to take a stand for who you are. This doesn't mean to come out to people you know will not respect you, but respect yourself enough to not have people walk over you.

Hope that helps, boss. Bless.

[Spoookster]

Nothing like that happened to me.. although they did make gay jokes to everyone not just me.. But.. i dno.. it's prty stupid. They should just leave everybody to do whatever they want/feel/desire.

[georgiamay]

it happens to me even though i'm straight because i'm friends with a lesbian. They bully her because she's overweight aswell. She knows she's overweight and she can't help it, she's the healthiest eater i know. anyways, they keep trying to get me to insult her by asking me if she's fat, and then they go on to say, "how can you be friends with a lesbian?" which is when i say, "because she's still human?" And they are so horrible to her. The even commented on a photo of her and her girlfriend on facebook about a million times saying how disgusting it was.

They disgust me, i think it's horrible the way they treat her.

[The Flightless Hawk]

i have a lot of gay/lesbian friends and sometimes they get bullied for it. the ones that get bullied can't really defend themselves well, so i stand up to the bully and tell them to go away or i'll get a teacher and they usually go away, cause they can't take both of us.

[The Madman]

I get called gay all the time. Not so much as when I was younger ( mainly because I kissed a girl in front of them lol :D )

I ignore it. Thats the best thing to do.
Ignore it or tell somebody

[Mysterious Skin]

Its hapeninig to me. Little did i know people have been suspecting im gay all year, but bullying has just sparked up now. of course i am gay but im not going to admit it.

[Jagster]

If you look at the topic I made called "A Life Lesson Assured To Be Remember." This problem is still going on with me.

[brennaluvv]

I get teased about being a lesbian (even though I'm not, I'm just bi) because a kid that got rejected by my best friend decided to get back at her by spreading a rumor all around school that I like girls. I've learned to just get over it, it's no use making a big deal out of something so stupid. If they don't like homos, that's just too bad 'cause hating isn't going to get rid of them, it's just going to get them to rebel and thrive.

[Church]

I dont see why people dont defend themselves. Bullying only works if you let them do it. I got bullied a bit my freshmen year about my weight so I slammed the kid against the ground and haven't been bullied since.

[dead]

I dont see why people dont defend themselves. Bullying only works if you let them do it. I got bullied a bit my freshmen year about my weight so I slammed the kid against the ground and haven't been bullied since.
That pathway wont always work, even though it might in most cases.

[MacMilker]

Funnily enough,
I got bullied for being "gay" aka feminine, way before I came out publicly in 5th grade which was my first year of middle school by the 8th graders, which was dreadful.
But I did come out in 6th grade and everyone was accepting.
I see people getting bullied for being feminine frequently, and I do try to do something about it, but what I'm sorry to say is I don't do something about it every time for fear of the attention being brought to me.

[myskias]

i love in southern california. i havent been made fun of (on purpose with an intent to make me sad) about being gay not one time. people in my area are super accepting of it and to be honest the kids who are against it are the kids that no one likes. its kind of funny :) gays and lesbians are being completely accepted here where i live :D

by the way im in highschool. came out sophmore year (grade 10) and everyone was okay with it. the younger middle schoolers (grades 6-8) usually are mean about it because they them selves are insecure of their own sexualities. or they just look for whatever they can do to make fun of people. but they will eventually accept it.

[yeahitsbrandon]

it's rediculous that we live in a society that can't accept people for who they are.. the people who are making fun of you are probablly doing it because A. they think your an easy target and B. they arent very confident in their sexuallity. best thing i think you can do is to just not give them the satisfaction of the doubt. just ignore them! it may take awhile but eventually they will give up :)

[JimSauce]

Thankfully all of my friends are accepting and I barely get bullied, but I hate to see it happen to others. People should really mind their own business and keep their comments to themselves. It boggles my mind that people would fight against gay marriage, as if Adam and Steve or Ana and Eve down the street would disrupt your happy little family?

[Never_Forget]

A close friend of mine came out as bi just before the summer,
she suffered a fair amount of grief for a few weeks (although I must say, she seemed to enjoy the attention from making a scene. on facebook.) but now it's old news.

[Derek_001]

This is why I can't come out about being bi in my school. I would get bullied so badly, mainly because my school is nothing but narrow-minded religious pricks or rednecks. I want to come out and be accepted, but unfortunately, that wouldn't happen. I would have no support. Even most of my friends are against it.

in my town if a chick is bi every1 would want to b ur best friend...

[aquaman246]

I used to be bullied for apparently being gay, im bi but people dont know that at my school. I hate homophobes, ppl stopped bullying me when i cracked down hard on those who were the source of my problems, i didnt beat them up but i certainly gave them a piece of my mind, it certainly confused their stupid little minds for a few weeks. If i hear homophobia in school i ask the person what theyre doing and most of the time its just little kids who have learnt from higher up years, it sickens me deeply the way gays are treated for choosing a different lifestyle.

[mmmark1985]

yeah its VERY SCARY. theres always comments and stuff afterwards and nobody forgets it. even if its not true a lot of people still makes comments. I hate homophobia so bad it hurts.

Its also a life thing b/c its not fair that most girls are sexier being bi but not guys.

[PoseidonX43]

if it keeps happening report it to the school if that does not work then,file a complaint with the police because its a Federal Offence to bully. if yall had not found out yet. that's wat i did and when everyone at school heard about me reporting it they stoped it all. i'm so happy now.

[aussiecasper]

well i go to an all guys school. so we all are pretty close, more so than if it were co ed. but anyway the number of possible homosexuals go up in that kind of invroment, but they tend to hid who they are. i am not gay but i have many friends confide in me that they were gay(which i am totally fine with), people that from just looking at them you would never know, so when i hear people calling people gay i always wonder, if they only knew. and if i see people routienly picking on people i will report them, because someone did it for me. i used to be picked on and called a gay little freshman.....even into my sophmore year, and im was calm about it in the begining, im confident in who i am but after a while it gets to you, and see people haveing to deal with the same thing i did, i will help them out when that are to scared to help themselves.

[unlucky-star]

I've seen it all over the news so it;s easy to hear about it and I've experienced it somewhat as well. About 2 years ago I told someone I thought was my friend that I was bi and she freaked out saying how wrong it was and next thing I know everyone in my class was talking about it, they kept coming up to me asking if it was true and making faces and talked about it for months before it finally died down.

[HeroesAndCons]

i am not gay but this happenes to my school sometimes
it is descusting and it shouldnt happen
narrow minded bastards

[UnknownError]

I get called gay all the time.
It really pisses me off.
Not cause I dont like gays, I know lots of gays. Its just cause I know Im not, if you get what I mean?

[Lights]

I am gay, but not many people know that.
I get called gay a lot, in an insulting way. It used to bother me, but now I more-or-less just let it float by because ultimately they're just seeking a reaction.
And if I ever do come out during my time at this school and they find out, so be it. If they have anything against it, I'll challenge them about it. If I get shit for it, I'll speak to one of my teachers and they'll sort it out.
Through it all, these buggers just want a reaction out of you. If you don't give them one, they give up because they get no satisfaction out of it - unless their friends are egging them on. But even then, you have teachers at your school for a reason - and I know that some schools take homophobia more seriously than others, but there should be at least some degree of non-tolerance with it.

[redman]

I alwas triy to help the victum who being bullied if they get bulliedr stand up for him

[NVerson]

Just one of my friends recently found out that im bi and hes perfectly fine with that :)
I just wanna come out in school but then my parents will eventually find out, which is the last thing i want to go through :(

[PoseidonX43]

I've seen it, i've delt with it, but i try my best to help other people that is geting called gay.

[Wings of Despair]

Sadly that happens everywhere,everyday.I myself ain`t gay but i respect every ones sexual orientation.